r/gayfriendfinder Feb 12 '26

⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT ⚠️ Flagging posts

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We've had a lot of instances lately of someone flagging posts for perceived rule infractions that are not truly violations of our rules, we ask that you please stop. With that said-

Moderators are human too, and we miss things and make mistakes. If you feel like your post was removed in error, send us a modmail. We will be happy to discuss our decision with you. Sometimes we mess up, and we'll try to make it right if we decide that we made a bad call. However, with that said, what we're not going to do is go down the road of "what-about-ism"- just because another post slipped by us that broke a rule doesn't mean it gives you the right to do it too.

Also, if you feel in danger or threatened by another community member, do not flag the post, please send us a modmail so we can review the incident. All reports are confidential.

Lastly, we've tried to keep the rules as lax as possible while attempting to maintain the friend-finding spirit of the sub. We didn't allow photos for a while, and we walked that back. Lately we've witnessed quite a few users either posting for karma farming, promotion or both. This is why we require every poster to have a minimum of 2-3 sentences in the body of the post detailing what you're looking for in a friend. Some people put more in titles and we've understood that, but your post really needs to attempt to flesh out what you're looking for. If the main things you're looking for is a muscle twink or a daddy bear, this probably isn't the community for you.

Thank you for being here, we love that we continue to grow and thrive but we also want to remain a community centered on finding friends. 🌈


r/gayfriendfinder Sep 08 '25

⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT ⚠️ Rules most commonly broken and why those rules exist

71 Upvotes

We've been asked to explain with some rules exist and are enforced, and we are happy to oblige---

RULE 7: No self-promotion/No sharing of social media/discord server/telegram group/etc.--- This one's pretty self explanatory. We don't want anyone coming on here promoting their onlyfans, etc. Also, do not promote your discord server, telegram group, etc - while we're sure you're an upstanding individual with only the noblest of intentions, unfortunately we've had groups advertised that have had unethical and sometimes downright illegal things occurring. So, unfortunately, we're unable to allow it in this sub.

RULE 8: No sharing of usernames/handles, period--- While you may be sincerely seeking friends, usually those who are willing to indiscriminately swap Snapchat IDs right out of the gate are looking for something extremely quick and short term, if you catch our drift. We recommend having some conversation in the DMs before trading IDs. (Plus, we have had instances of people dropping their IDs and then getting harassed, we definitely don't want that to happen to anyone)

RULE 9: Photos --- Photos in this subreddit are for those who want to put a face to the name, not for those thirst-trapping with a faceless torso with a smattering of pubes poking out, just to give an example. We recommend r/gaybrosgonewild for those kinds of posts. A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself if you'd feel okay sending it to your coworkers

RULE 1: Please post with substance --- Hands down, this is what causes the most post removals. Just for example, a picture of you at the gym with the title 'who's ready to workout' is *not** appropriate for this sub. You know, that kind of post you may see on other subreddits that are really only intended to elicit upvotes and thirsty comments. This rule also applies to age/location posts. We don't like making hard rules about this, but we've landed on a title plus 2-3 sentences in the body as being the bare minimum needed to talk about yourself and/or what you're looking for in a friend. This isn't a hard rule, and we try to be pretty lenient. as we realize some people can say what they want using a minimum of words while some people can type a page of text and say nothing at all.*

Lastly, if your post is removed, and you think it was a bad call, please feel free to appeal to us in a modmail in a respectful fashion. We will always speak to you respectfully, we deserve the same in return. Mods are human. Coming in guns-a-blazing creates a negative situation for everyone involved. (Also this means don't make a new post mad at the mods, ranting about how your last post got removed for breaking x rule)

And as always, please send us a modmail if you have a question, concern, or if you have moderation experience and might be interested in helping out. Please don't DM individual mods ☺️

(Edited to add clarification to rule 1)


r/gayfriendfinder 4h ago

🏆 ATHLETE 🏆 49/m looking to chat and make friends.

4 Upvotes

Hi all I am a huge hockey fan, like on like fun and games. Please let me keep my clothes on.


r/gayfriendfinder 3h ago

🎶 MUSIC ENTHUSIAST 🎶 Hello...36...m...usa.....

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I am 36, male, gay, single

Seeking new friend(s)

Prefer my age or older

I am in the us

I am in an endless cycle of never ending bullshit

Could use some company, conversation, distraction from the hell that is (my) life

Maybe you feel the same?

Send a message if you would like to chat sometime


r/gayfriendfinder 9h ago

👨‍🏫 NERD 👨‍🏫 29M Looking for Buddies to Waste Time With

9 Upvotes

Hey all, just looking to meet more people to talk to on the regular and possibly hang out with. Currently in Mississippi and moving to Texas next year. I'm into reading, cooking (Dropped out of culinary school 😭), and I play plenty of video games (As long as theyre not the kind that people get too heated playing). I'm sure there's plenty more as I'm not the best at talking about myself, but I'm an open book so hit me up about whatever! Fair warning, I also have a habit of being a bit of a clown.


r/gayfriendfinder 3h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 In The PNW — Looking for New Friendships 🌲

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Hey! I’m here in the Pacific Northwest and hoping to make some new friends online. I’d love to find a few people to chat with about shared interests, current obsessions, random thoughts, or just life in general.
Sometimes it’s nice to have someone to talk to when you need to vent or just don’t want to feel alone.

I’m pretty introverted and tend to overthink my responses, especially when I’m getting to know someone, so please be patient with me if I’m a little awkward or slow to open up at first.

I’m generally happy to talk with just about anyone, but I do have some firm boundaries: I’m not interested in friendships with people who are bigoted, misogynistic, transphobic, racist, or supportive of Trump. If that describes you, we probably won’t be a good fit, and that’s okay. I won’t be offended if you just outright block me 🙂.

If you’re also looking for someone to talk to, feel free to reach out.


r/gayfriendfinder 22m ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 29m from New Jersey, USA - Always looking to expand my circle (both local and afar)!

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A little about me: I’m an introvert with extrovert tendencies. I love being a homebody, but I’m always down for the occasional adventure. Some of my favorite things include beach days, bonfires, car karaoke, car shows, cocktails / wine, concerts, cruises, food, gaming, horror movies, plays, and road trips.

Music-wise, I listen to a bit of everything, but I mostly gravitate toward alternative/indie, dance/EDM, and pop.

For gaming, I’m console-based, but with so many cross-platform games now, that usually isn’t an issue. I’m not super competitive—I mostly play for fun and good vibes. I love a good story co-op game.

On a personal note, I’m working on myself right now—getting back in shape, rebuilding confidence, and just trying to be better overall.

So why am I posting? I’d love to expand my friend group. I’ve moved around a lot over the past couple of years, and keeping consistent friendships hasn’t been easy. I’m hoping to meet people who are in a similar place or just share some common interests.

Full transparency: my responses can be a bit delayed during the workweek, but I’m usually pretty responsive on weekends.

If you’re local to NJ, I’d love to eventually meet up in person!

If you’re not local, I’m still totally down to chat, game together, or do calls/Android equivalent to FaceTime!

If any of this sounds like your vibe, feel free to message me!


r/gayfriendfinder 30m ago

🌲 OUTDOORSMAN 🌲 M30 - any other jockstrap enthusiast guys out there?

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Hey!

I’m super into underwear and love to share it with like minded others! Not in a weird way just cool to talk about it and share brands. I’m really into jocks

I’m also into cars travel outdoors, really easy going. I’ve got a partner and live our best adventure filled life together

Look forward to meeting ya! Drop me a dm anytime


r/gayfriendfinder 33m ago

🎨 ART CONNOISSEUR 🎨 31 Hongkong - For friends, mates, and more

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Hey there! I'm an open-minded & laid-back guy, Fairly introverted but quite sociable and I always love meeting and talking to people.

I’m passionately curious and love trying out new things/hobbies/places. But my main passion is art and photography. Also a big music fan ( I appreciate recommendations! )
Not very nerdy myself, but I love listening to guys nerding out about their hobbies!

I'm a 5'6 chub currently on a fitness journey, doing weight lifting and tbd.

If you think we'll click, Don't hesitate to send me a message.

Have a great day ahead! :)


r/gayfriendfinder 48m ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 M20 - looking to make friends or have a quick chat

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Hey, male 20 from Sweden-Turkey, I'm a gamer and I love playing all kinds of genre, been currently grinding the new fortnite season though haha

feel free to dm me :)


r/gayfriendfinder 4h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 34 MI profesional guy looking for regular bros, travel partner, gamer bros or buds to go camping with

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34 yo guy in Michigan looking for friends or bros around the area or open to visiting. I am kinda introverted gamer kind of guy so always meed some bro that push me a bit to hang out and get me out my comfort zone. Like PC gaming, card games, camping, science and nature. Also love roadtrips and hosting at my place. Work in the medical sector and have a background is science.

What I am searching for:

Many things or some of things.

A bro that is chill able to visit call me or hang out with. Like discord calls and I like someone that is more extroverted that will talk a lot about himself. Like scenarios where I get to support you or your needs to...

A gamer bud that can spend some time gaming or stop by my place to game or talk about card games (love playing magic and some other card games)

A travel partner. I can take care of the expenses just need a bud open to tag along and enjoy the experiences and push me to enjoy it too.

A bro that will push me or hold me accountable about going on walks and runs or working out. Big plus if you pushy

A man that is ok with or into some bro to bro cuddles nothing weird just sometimes you need someone to cuddle with.

I am sadly not as mobile atm so someone that likes to drive big plus I will take care of the expenses just need a buddy to enjoy it.

The kind of bud that will be very upfront and might take a bit of advantage of me and my place but in return really enjoys hanging out.


r/gayfriendfinder 1h ago

⚽ SPORTS FAN 🏈 23M and based in Melbourne AUS

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Hey everyone! I'm 23M and based in Melbourne. I'm hoping to meet some new people and make a few genuine friendships with other guys in Melbourne AUS I work professionally in an office environment, so outside of work I'm usually pretty relaxed and easygoing. I'm keen to grab food or coffee, explore different parts of Melbourne, go for a drive, hit the gym, or even just chill and have a good chat.
I'm friendly, open-minded and pretty easy to get along with. I'd love to meet people who are genuine, respectful and easygoing, especially people who are also working or have a professional/office lifestyle.
Not really looking for a random one-off chat ideally l'd like to actually build a genuine friendship and have people to hang out with regularly.
If you're Melbourne-based and looking to meet a new mate too, feel free to send me a message!


r/gayfriendfinder 7h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 20M, closeted and from Colombia (Spanish native, I use a translator for English!), looking for someone to chat

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Hi guys. I'm 20, gay, and still in the closet. (Quick note: I'm Colombian and Spanish is my first language. I use a translator to communicate in English, so no worries about the language barrier!).

Between keeping things hidden and the routine, I've been feeling the need to connect with someone. I spend a lot of time playing video games, watching series, and reading sometimes. If anyone is in the same situation or wants to start a chat, please reach out. It would genuinely mean a lot.


r/gayfriendfinder 1h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 M28 down to chat and make new connections!

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Accidentaly deleted this post lol

M28 here who’s looking for some new chats and make some new connections! Bit of a gaming nerd but also love to hang with friends with some good food and drinks! Going for walks or just hang out at home and chill with movies, shows and anime!
If you dig that, I might just be your guy! So feel free to hit me up and let’s chat!


r/gayfriendfinder 7h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 Anyone wanna chat with me

3 Upvotes

Hello do you wanna chat?


r/gayfriendfinder 8h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 31M. Looking for a person to chat about everything long term.

2 Upvotes

Looking for a person to chat long term . Chit chat about our days personal matters everything . Someone open minded that we can build a real relationship , feel comfortable with eachother and have fun talking to each other . Age doesn’t really matter as long as we vibe with eachother . Thank u for taking the time to read this !


r/gayfriendfinder 2h ago

🧩 NEURODIVERGENT 🧩 Looking for long term connections

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Firstly pls be 18-25 in either CST or EST

Hiya ^^ Im 22M from Wisconsin

୨୧┇My Favorite Interests:

• I like playing random singleplayer vidya games and we could play Minecraft and Roblox ^w^

• Cat related anime/furry art and fashion :3

• Watching Youtube

• Listening to Music (Mostly Nightcore)

• Building Lego structures

୨୧┇Important Facts About Me You Should Probably Know Right Away:

• Im LGBT, Neurodivergent, and a NEET

• My personality type is ISFP

• I don't do politics or religion

• I don't do drugs, alcohol, or smoking

• I mainly enjoy clingy individual friendships

୨୧┇What I'm Looking For in a Friend:

• Someone who wants to vc/stream/game and have many fun times.

• Someone sweet and attentive who tries to stay positive through rough patches.

• A person that can be sarcastic and humorous to lighten the mood.

• A safe dynamic where our boundaries are fully honored and outside drama is rejected.

• Someone who wants the things I want and has similar interests and quirks as me.

Id love to hear some things about you ^~^


r/gayfriendfinder 2h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 29 usa looking for chats and friends

1 Upvotes

Heya don’t have many gay friends so trying to find chats :) into working out, videogames, chilling in parks, music, and pokemon.

I’d love to chat so just hmu and say hi


r/gayfriendfinder 3h ago

🍿 MOVIE BUFF 🍿 22M looking out for new faces!

1 Upvotes

Heyy there! I am looking for friends and it might be you. We can talk about anything or anything you want. I don't mind your yapping. Just mind you that I am in south east part of the world, so our timezones can be a little bit wonky but I still try! I am also bi, if that matters!

My interests are programming, gaming, writing, music, musicals, and movie and tv series. Hope to see you!


r/gayfriendfinder 7h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 20, Twink looking for serious relationship or friends

2 Upvotes

Hi! anyone who wants to talk with me and willing to be more in a romantic relationship I'm twink and ready to have some fun


r/gayfriendfinder 8h ago

🍎 HEALTH NUT 🍎 34 Seattle Gym Bro Seeking Accountability Bros Interested in Psychology, Building Muscle, Toning, & Playing Souls-Like Games (Currently Playing Mortal Shell 2)

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I just got back from New York for a family wedding and the very next morning went back to the gym to do some chest. It is quite a fulfilling routine to feel the strength grow, increasing in reps and weight. I want to keep growing myself, my routine, with focused habits that promote well-being.

I am practicing positive psychology and growth mindset theory along with self-determination theory as they are all aspects that I want to promote in my own private practice one day.

I want to be encouraging and surround myself with like-minded people that want to continue on with a healthy lifestyle. I like being able to carry my groceries up a hill or walk a few miles or swim. I am interested in someone who wants to keep pushing himself to get stronger, faster, more endurance to help propel himself in life.

I am continuing on with my studies and interested in folks that like to learn. It is interested to read posts talk about wanting to waste time or feeling bored, but there is a world out there to learn from, people, places, connections. That is the reason why I post. I can learn from books, I can learn from travel, I can learn from people I meet and talk to.

To end it all, I am still playing mortal shell 2. I haven't been able to touch it since I wasn't home over the weekend. But I plan to tackle it some more this week. I am looking for a conversationalist that is mentally stimulating actively wanting connection. My selfie is on my profile. I do appreciate knowing who I am speaking to. Cheers.


r/gayfriendfinder 5h ago

🍿 MOVIE BUFF 🍿 22M just looking for friends

1 Upvotes

Hello there! I am looking for friends or somebody that I can talk to - may it be everyday or whatever you want. We can talk about anything, feel free to yap! I am bi, if that matters.

My interests are programming stuff, writing, musicals, music, games, movies and series, horror and sci-fi.

Feel free to DM me. Mind you that I am in southeast asia part of the world. See you!


r/gayfriendfinder 6h ago

⚽ SPORTS FAN 🏈 M19 looking for a connection

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hihi! I’m from the US and looking for a long-term chat/relationship. I’d love to get to know someone naturally and see where things go, with the intention of eventually having a relationship. You don’t have to be in the US, and I’m pretty open-minded when it comes to height, weight, body type, etc. I’m 5'11 myself.

I’m pretty laid-back and enjoy getting to know people one-on-one. I like playing games a lot im primarily on PC, so having someone to play with would definitely be a plus. I am also into sports, music, cars, etc.

I really value honesty, good communication, consistency, and being able to joke around and be comfortable with each other. If at all interested send me a dm! id love to chat


r/gayfriendfinder 6h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 Hello! 27m here. I like video games and music looking for friends or genuine connections:)

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