What are human relationships even for? Any relationship which involves two people with full emotions is just like, you make a mistake you make a decision the other person is more concerned about how it affects them and how it's potentially not good for you, there's no unconditional positive regard in human relationships, it's only there in a therapist-client relationship, then why tf do we even need these close relationships when they don't understand and accept you for who you are without letting their emotions and insecurities define you?

Hearing "Your daddy's gone for milk" or "your mummy cheated on your father so you are a basrard" and shaming people for being adopted makes literally no sense. Kids play no role in parents' decisions and it's not their fault if their parents are unstable.

Everywhere you go online, there’s always gonna be some kind of hierarchy, whether it’s age, nationality, sexuality, race, skills, knowledge, opinions, or whatever else sets them apart from others to show their “superiority.”

“I’m better than you because I’m a senior in high school and you’re a freshman!!!!”

“I’m better than you because of my race!!!!!”

“I’m better than you because I know more about sports than you!!!!!”

“I’m better than you because my country is better than yours!!!!!!”

At the end of the day, and this might sound corny, but we’re all human. No one is better than anyone because of their age, race, nationality, or how much they know about sports. Because ultimately, no one cares.

I expect to get some hate for this, but I’m genuinely curious and want to understand perspectives different from my own.

Why does it seem like so many people online are bitter or spiteful toward people who become financially or professionally successful? I frequently see comments that go beyond criticizing how someone became successful and instead suggest that simply having more means that person owes something to everyone who has less.

To be clear, I understand that life is not a level playing field. Disabilities, serious health problems, family circumstances, discrimination, unexpected financial hardships, and countless other factors can dramatically affect someone’s ability to succeed. I’m not talking about people dealing with legitimate barriers outside of their control.

What I struggle to understand is the attitude that anyone who becomes successful must have been handed opportunities that everyone else was denied.

I also see a lot of people attribute their lack of success entirely to never being “given an opportunity.” Maybe my own experiences have shaped my perspective, but I sometimes wonder how much of this is actually a lack of opportunity versus people not fully applying themselves, taking risks, making sacrifices, or pursuing opportunities aggressively enough.

For some context, I didn’t come from money.
I grew up in a single parent household making roughly $40,000 or less per year in the early 2000s, in a town of about 9,000 people. I had the necessities, and I’m grateful for that, but there wasn’t much beyond them. There were no wealthy parents, family connections, trust fund, or obvious career pipeline waiting for me.

From a young age, I knew that wasn’t the life I wanted as an adult. Financial security and professional success became the bare minimum.

After high school, I immediately went to college. I completed my bachelor’s degree in three years and graduated with substantial student loan debt. During that time, I wasn’t able to focus solely on school. I worked full-time typically 40–60 hours per week, including 12-hour night shifts.

I viewed both the workload and the debt as sacrifices I was willing to make to improve my future.

I started my professional career and later enrolled in a master’s program, taking on additional student debt while continuing to work full time and advance my career.
Less than five years after earning my bachelor’s and before even completing my master’s my income reached several hundred thousand dollars per year.

I don’t say that as a flex or because I think income determines someone’s worth. I mention it because my experience makes it difficult for me to relate to the idea that success necessarily requires being born into wealth or being handed some extraordinary opportunity.

There were absolutely risks, sacrifices, debt, long hours, strategic career decisions, and some luck involved. I’m also sure there are advantages I’ve had that I may not fully recognize. But nobody handed me a guaranteed path to where I am.

That’s why I’m interested in hearing the other side rather than just reinforcing my own opinion.

For people who genuinely resent wealthy or professionally successful people: what specifically causes that resentment?

And for people who believe “I never had the opportunity” is often legitimate: what do you think people who have succeeded from relatively modest backgrounds tend to misunderstand about those who haven’t?

I’m genuinely interested in the answers, including ones that challenge my current perspective.

this has always been weird to me. i’m not talking like messing with kids on gaming platforms or whatever. honestly, that shits kinda funny. nor am i talking abt things like r/kidsarefuckingstupid. i’m talking about bullying kids who are exploring their identities, having fun, making art, things of the like.

say like furries, therians, alterhumans, the general queer community, young beginner artists, all of those things. why are so many people so hellbent on bullying the absolute shit out of these people. idk, i’ve always thought that there are bigger fish to fry in the world. yknow. maybe think of people who are actual predators? murderers? individuals who actually HURT others? those who actually have a bad impact on this planet?

i don’t get sending these CHILDREN death threats or encouraging them to END THEIR LIVES over a silly video they decided to post on the internet. and it’s not just edgy 12 year olds who have a “anti-furry flag” as their pfp who just wanna be little edgelords. no, there are FULL GROWN ADULTS doing this shit. idk, i’m almost 17. i’m about to get a job soon. i’m currently volunteering at a cat cafe. i have schoolwork to do. i’m gonna be graduating. why the hell are there grown ass men in the comments of these therian, furry, or queer videos just screaming at these people. shouldn’t they be like… working? being EMPLOYED?

how much goddamn hatred do you need to have in your heart for some random tweens/teens who wanna do quadrobics or wear silly tails and ears. how MISERABLE and UNEMPLOYED do you have to be to do this shit? it never made sense to me.

it’s fine to think these people are weird. it’s fine for those kinda of communities to not be your cup of tea. it’s ok to have an opinion! i’m questioning why do people ENGAGE with these individuals that they don’t even like.

why? is it a power trip? people being unemployed and having absolutely nothing better to do with their time? is it sadism? i get it, you’re probably thinking “welcome to the internet”. i’m not new to the internet. i’ve seen and heard depraved shit on here don’t worry. but it’s just that bullying other people for shit that doesn’t even hurt anyone has never crossed my mind. i’m just trying to understand the other side of this argument here. like, genuinely, do these people have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING better to do with their time? do they have any other hobbies? any friends or family to spend time with? have they touched grass? i dunno.

thanks for reading, responses are appreciated.

After reading Reality Transurfing, Tufti the Priestess, and the follow-up ideas about awareness and consciously shaping your reality, I’ve arrived at a strange but genuinely fascinating realization: perhaps happiness itself is far more accessible than I previously thought. If I can let go of the ego, stop constantly trying to achieve something, and simply become aware of my body and the present moment like a kind of somatic awareness then I could genuinely be happy just sitting there and looking at a wall.

And honestly, that sounds incredible.

But then I run into a contradiction.

These books repeatedly emphasize that you should take action toward your vision. You’re supposed to move in the direction of the reality you want to experience.

But how exactly am I supposed to take action toward a vision where I imagine myself being genuinely paid simply to exist? Where I’m living in a beautiful mansion, have three dogs, travel the world, work out at the gym, go for walks in the sun, stream on Twitch wearing different cosplay outfits, and have women who genuinely adore me and spoil me with luxurious gifts?

What does taking action toward that reality even mean?

And this leads me to a much bigger question. Do we actually get what we focus on?

If our attention, beliefs, expectations, and internal state genuinely influence the reality we experience, then why does the world contain so much suffering, war, exploitation, competition, and fear? Why are we constantly told that we need to compete, hustle, produce, achieve, chase results, build careers, and become somebody in order to deserve a good life?

But then another question bothers me even more:

If human beings can consciously participate in creating their own realities, why wouldn't we simply choose peace? Why would wars exist at all? Why would people choose greed, violence, domination, and suffering?

what if conscious creation isn't the same thing as having complete control over external reality. Perhaps we can influence our experience without being omnipotent creators of everything that happens.

Or perhaps there is something much deeper going on that I haven't understood yet.

Because on one hand, I find the idea incredibly liberating: maybe I don't need to spend my entire life chasing external achievements in order to be happy.

On the other hand, I still genuinely want the absurdly luxurious life.

I want both.

I want to be completely content sitting alone with nothing but my own awareness and at the same time, I want the mansion, the dogs, the travel, the beautiful women, the cosplay, the money, and the freedom.

So what does it actually mean to “take action toward your vision” when your ultimate vision isn't simply having more things, but living a life where you feel completely free, deeply satisfied, and almost absurdly pampered?

And if conscious creation is real, where exactly does personal choice end and the uncontrollable world begin?

I believe most of our desires, priorities, actions and virtues are revolving around one big ultimate truth: We’re all going to die.

“I will have to get into a certain financial state, not because I am lacking basic food and shelter but because I want to live a certain way before I die.”

“I want to visit the island of Loren Ipsum before I die, even if that means burning my life’s savings.”

“I have to go to work today, so that I can afford healthcare and prolong my years on earth”

And the most awarded, “I must live in a way so that people remember me once I am gone.”

You take death out of the equation, and a lot of things just fall apart. I can imagine there is a positive side to killing the fear of death. This is also what detachment is all about, or what spiritual gurus are teaching. My question is more specific, imagine you no longer fear death or that you are no longer bothered by this truth, how do you see your current desires, priorities, actions and virtues changing?

This question is not for the spiritually enlightened beings or the maniacs who have already accepted death and no longer fear it.

I feel as though in almost every mention of a heat wave or extreme heat people love to one up each other about how “weak” other people are even though how hot a place feels to the people should be relative like 0 C in Brazil to the people would feel way different to 0 C in Scandinavia or 40 C in Europe vs 40 C in Middle East

Is it simply an “I’ll have plenty of time to ask them” mentality?

What do you guys do when you start to think negatively about things/the world? (If you do.) I have been more cynical and bitter recently after going through a traumatic time in my life....having trouble not being grumpy.

Obviously going to therapy will help but it will take me some time to get enrolled & all of that jazz. Any quick fixes/quick tips to shift your mindset?

I am constantly having memories playing in my head. Mostly at random, occasionally more of certain time frame is added more. Remembering in great detail as well. If I recall a phrase said I can then recall the conversation it was said in. Are more people becoming forgetful? I just feel like I remember everything, and think it might be more peaceful to forget, but questioning whether it's better to be sometimes slightly distressed when remembering or to forget, but not be able to appreciate potential good memories looking back? Rumination?

do you think you have to forgive them to heal from their actions ?

Be so honest.

I’ve been thinking about the priorities that change so gradually you only notice them in hindsight. Things like peace, independence, dependable relationships, or having control over your time can start to feel very different. What rose the most on your personal priority list?

I am sorry for my English, it's not my mother toung.

I heard a saying, be careful what you want it actually can happen to you and you are going to be disappointed by that.

I also heard, in life what you said you don't want to do or you are sure that you are never going to do that. Someday that thing will hapend and it will be surprisingly good, amazing or wonderful.

There days on social media I hear a stories like: a lot successful people are unsatisfied with what they have accomplished. They achieve things, because achieve big goals is going to make them happy.Lots of people work without a feeling satisfied or calm. It is either for families to survive or they don't think and work all day every day to accomplish something, or better say don't listen to themselves.

Kids sometimes study something just because their parents want that.

What you really want?

What you don't want?

What happened to you, that you thought it is never going to happened?

Have you forced a friendship and later regret it?

What would you miss, if at all, if the entire human race disappeared except you, your friends and family? Would you miss the rest?

If yes, what would you miss?

Here’s a Philosophical question. In front of you is a person and you have a gun pointed at their head, the gun is unloaded and you have the choice to pull the trigger or not to pull the trigger. The person doesn’t know it’s unloaded but they know you have the choice to pull the trigger. Would you pull the trigger?

Let me just say that I always appreciate and respect people’s identities and looking to gain insight and knowledge about gender ideology and how people perceive themselves as unique individuals in our society, however, as a bi man myself.

The concept of being transgender has always stumped me because science has always taught me that you’re the gender whats held inside your pants, however as I learn more about the LGBTQ+ community that Im in, it struck me that if I continue in believing in my thoughts then how can I support my friends and people who identify they’re trans?

I also get it confused with non-binary folks since they sound like the same idea but I know its not and its a complete opposite.

If anyone can help me understand what being trans is and the difference between being nonbinary then that will help. Also on how to support people who are trans themselves.

Thanks

I’ve been thinking about something for a while, and I’m genuinely trying to understand the psychology behind it.

Why do some people seem to place others into hierarchies? Why do some people treat someone differently depending on their achievements, appearance, career, social status, or how “successful” they seem from the outside?

I find this really difficult to understand because I don’t naturally see people that way. I don’t understand how someone can look at another person and unconsciously decide that they deserve more respect, patience, or kindness because they have achieved certain things.

Something I’ve been struggling with is the feeling that some people only started seeing me differently after I had “proven” myself. After I had a good career, a nice home, and appeared more confident from the outside, suddenly the way people interacted with me changed.

And I find that incredibly confusing and honestly painful, because the person was still the same person before.

I was still the same person when I was struggling. I still had feelings, needs, thoughts, and things that mattered to me. Why does it sometimes feel like people only recognize someone’s worth after there is external evidence that they are “successful”?

I also wonder if this is something that happens between siblings or within families. Is it common for one sibling to be seen through a certain role for years, while people don’t really see them as a whole person anymore?

Something else I struggle to understand is why some people seem to think it’s okay to hurt someone who is more sensitive or who doesn’t respond in the same way.

I’ve often had the feeling in my life that people thought they could do things to me that they wouldn’t do to others. Maybe because I was visibly hurt instead of immediately fighting back. Maybe because I had certain moral boundaries and didn’t want to hurt someone back just because they hurt me.

But I don’t understand what happens psychologically when someone sees another person’s pain and needs, but somehow doesn’t fully register them.

The hardest part for me is that I know rationally people can hurt others because of their own choices, patterns, or limitations. But emotionally, I still struggle with accepting that someone can hurt me without there being something wrong with me.

A part of me always wants to find the reason inside myself.

“Maybe I caused it.”
“Maybe I wasn’t enough.”
“Maybe there was something about me that made this happen.”

Even though I know logically that isn’t always true.
I’m curious about people’s experiences with this. Have you ever noticed people treating you differently after you became more successful or confident? Do you think some people genuinely don’t see the person behind the role they have assigned them?

And for those who grew up in families where these dynamics existed how did you understand it later in life? What was actually happening there?

This debate has scrambled the brains of my boyfriend and I. The argument is If Time travel and teleportation are essentially the same things? Teleportation = WHERE changes. Time travel = WHEN changes. That being said
Both can happen at once = WHERE + WHEN changes

My argument:
Example: It is Texas 2026 and I want to live 1950 New York. I would TIME TRAVEL there. This is just time traveling bc I want to live 1950 New York, I didn’t teleport there just TIME TRAVELED. Of course I changed setting when I traveled back in time.

Boyfriends argument: Time traveling and Teleportation are the same thing in a sense

Example: For example, if I'm in my room right now and I wanna time travel one hour into the past where I was in the kitchen, theoretically that changes my location, so it's like teleporting.

The definition of time traveling and teleportation essentially changes the meaning of them both. I would like to see what y’all think about this argument, it has been very fun!

Recently someone told me how they get bored of friends or relationships pretty much in one two years as theres not much to discuss about.

However for me its opposite. I feel any friends i have the friendships start feeling good once connections become strong enough. It takes almost 2 years for that to happen. A certain bit of familiarity i need to connect with people.

Similarly the people who say that they have nothing to talk about i have had a friendship breakup with them after 6 month to 2 years. I feel they are never like interested in other people and after the novelty runs out they start showing their real colors. From my experience they grew competitive with their old friends and use them for comparison. However i know the reasons can be different.