I wanted to share my bittersweet journey navigating education, culture and immigration in the United States.
I’m Indian but only lived in India for four years. I’ve lived in other countries for most of my life. I wanted to do college in India but my parents encouraged me to study abroad and took care of the finances completely. It was an offer I couldn’t day no to. I decided I would do college for 4 years and then return to India. I didn’t know about OPT and F1 to H1B path.
I started college in the fall of 2016 as an undergraduate student. It was a rough journey. It was very difficult to make friends being a foreigner and I was bullied a lot for my religion and culture. Some people would stand up for me and call me cool but I was scared of them because they were white lol. I was till going through culture shock back then. I spent a lot of time alone until I met some really nice people in my 2 and 3rd year of college.
I worked and was a full time student. The education system was really straightforward and easy for me. Some upper level classes were tricky but professors were always very helpful. The quality of education was good and I got to do three internships. My first internship was volunteer work with I did for free for one year.
Yes, being an international student means having to do free labor for non profits to get experience. It really helped me get my next two internships which were paid. Also, I was offered to do research for free with a prof but I was too busy in my junior and senior year. I think this is one of the easiest avenues to get work experience and rec letters.
I finally graduated in 2020. In my senior year, I spent a lot of time applying for jobs. During classes, I would apply for jobs. I submitted maybe 50 a day. This was before AI was a thing so I had to write my own cover letters. I woudn’t even pay attention during classes. All my friends were citizens and they would send me their notes later. They were so supportive.
I mostly got denials unfortunately. I got three interviews and ended up with two offers in January 2020. I signed in February and started work in July 2020. I had plenty of time to apply for EAD and everything before graduating.
I hadn’t been back to India in 4 years and wanted to see my family but covid hit. Covid was a bit isolating but got through it. I worked really hard for the next 6 years and got promoted almost every year.
I was very lucky that my employer started the H1B application after 1 year of working for them and I won the lottery on the first try. They then applied for greencard and now I’m praying that I get it soon. Tech layoffs are brutal right now.
Somewhere along the way I got attached to the US and I would very much like to continue building my life here if I’m able to. I don’t understand why so many international students get hate for wanting to stay here.
I think the hardest part of studying abroad in the US is not being able to leave the country. I have not left in 10 years because whenever I make a plan to stamp my H1B, some rule changes and I can’t give up on this life I worked so hard to build. It’s really unfair because a visa stamp should be a simple process for people already in the country.
I haven’t seen some of my friends and family for 10 years sadly. I have missed people’s weddings and funerals. I can’t travel to nearby Canada or go on international trips with my friends.
My mental health as did so many other people on H1B took a major hit this past year. The fear of ICE and constantly living in uncertainty of how the immigration rules which allowed us to legally build a life here change on a whim has lead to many sleepless nights. We are truly under psychological warfare right now.
The tech layoffs have not helped. I have seen the nicest people at work or even acquaintances openly wanting H1B people to leave. They felt like we took opportunities from them which is fair. At the same time, F1 to H1B is legal. OPT and CPT are legal. So can people really be blamed if they want to gain work experience in the US and want to build their life alongside their career?
Overall, I am really grateful for going to college here. I got the opportunity to build myself career wise and grow in so many ways that this amazing diverse community has guided me in.
Is the stress worth it? For me, definitely.
The current situation though is really difficult. For those considering coming here now, I would evaluate more before taking the step.
For those planning to come here, I cannot stress more on getting work experience while in college. There are so many non profits and professors looking for volunteer work. It can also lead to a paid position in the future. Also while I was in college, (idk if the rules changed), on campus jobs didn’t require a work permit. So working for a prof is one way to still get experience despite the new CPT rule.
The second point I want to highlight is mental health and connections. A lot of people don’t want non white people to immigrate here. They won’t be in power forever. There are also people that think these rules are unfair and want to help. So find people you can count on and make mental health and work connections.
Thank you for reading! I wanted to add some realistic positivity after reading so many sad posts on this subreddit.