r/TheSmallVictories Oct 01 '22

First Step R/TheSmallVictories Monthly Goals & Accomplishments Thread

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Hello everyone current and new to the sub. Here we support and motivate people to reach their goals no matter how major or minor they may seem. The daily discussion is open to all topics just try and keep it a little wholesome and please be mindful of the rules.


r/TheSmallVictories Jul 05 '22

Motivation We would love to hear your suggestions on this subreddit!

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Hi, I'm a mod here. Currently, u/Your_Smiling and I are working on getting more members and making this group more active. We want to make it a lively subreddit where everyone can engage comfortably.

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r/TheSmallVictories 2d ago

A small victory that hopefully leads to a bigger one

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This year has been sh** for myself and my husband. We had a house fire on January 20th, and we are STILL dealing with insurance. We had purchased a new one, but had not finished moving out of the old one. Now, instead of cleaning it up and selling it off, we've been stuck with two mortgages for the past 8 months.

Part of what was lost in that fire was live fish. I had several aquariums and I was trying to breed the fish to become a supplier to wholesalers. I went from 56 tanks to about 9 or so, and lost a lot of expensive fish as well. Because of it, I've lost my heart in the idea and plans, and I'm shutting everything down.

And then there's another issue that has been going on for a few years. We paid to have our master bathroom remodeled way back in 2021. It was a complete gutting and rebuild. We combined a little tiny hallway, a HUGE walk-in closet, and the existing tiny bathroom to make one big bathroom. It was 9 foot by 15 feet, so it was massive for a bathroom. But the contractor screwed some things up. We've been fighting with them since then. But in late 2022 I found out they weren't licensed - despite them telling me otherwise. I thought I had to drive all the way up to the government offices in the big town north of here to verify the license, but figured I would just see it at some point during the course of the project, so I didn't make the drive. I never saw one in an office or anything. In late 2022 I found an online search feature and found out they had lied to me - they weren't licensed.

In March 2023, after lots of research into the company, HOPING to find a good reason they weren't licensed that could explain everything away, I finally decided to contact them about it. I gave them the list of things they had not addressed and told them I knew they weren't licensed. I said that since they weren't, they were no longer allowed to step foot on my property. They also had no "right to repair" their crappy work, but the law still allowed *me* to enforce my side of the contract, meaning they were still liable for it. That means they had to pay a legally licensed contractor to repair or correct their work.

Obviously, they refused.

Been waiting on them to at least SAY something since then. They haven't said anything. I finally filed for a motion for summary judgment since they lacked the right to enforce any part of the contract as UNlicensed contractors. They kept trying to argue that I didn't give them a chance to fix these problems (they had plenty of a chance BEFORE I found out they were unlicensed) and making excuses about what they were supposed to do. For example, they were supposed to paint a wall where they removed a door, and the wall was in my "fish room" in the house. They claimed they were never supposed to paint that wall. The contractor actually put this in a sworn affidavit, submitted to the court.

But thanks to the other issues I've mentioned above, I also lost a lot of files on my computer. I've been trying to recover them from the hard drive all year.

Enter the little victory. I finally recovered some VERY important ones. The files included the photos of what they screwed up, and the text message history between myself and the owner, as well as myself and the owner's spouse, about different aspects of the project. The text message history has a part that I admitted in court - that one day I told them not to worry about the fish room wall because I was going to paint the room a different color soon anyway, and the next day I said never mind, please do paint it because the wall needed protection from splashing water until I got around to painting the entire room.

There is a clear response from the contractor saying okay, they'll make sure they get it taken care of!

Right there in black and white! And a water mark on the paper to keep anyone from editing it!

There are messages showing I repeatedly asked them to call for the plumber to come finish, for a full six months after he told me "have them put me on the schedule for next week, my schedule is open all week." They ignored it the entire time. I also had a record of me bringing up other things to them during the course of the project, that were never taken care of, or finished.

But finding these records wasn't the only small victory. We are less than 30 days away from another hearing. So I had to file what's called a Motion for Leave to Submit Additional Evidence in order to send that to the court this late, and hope it gets approved. AND THEY APPROVED IT!

I know I shouldn't count my eggs before they hatch, but this evidence shows not only that they are at fault, and responsible for many problems, but that they lied in sworn affidavits to the court, and committed perjury. They have been trying so hard to call up a bunch of things that make them look good, and this pretty much stomps all of it.

They also gave the opposing counsel a chance to object to the evidence and she did not. I'm not sure she would have a valid reason, because she received the files as part of her request for discover in the beginning. Only my files were affected, and only this year, which prevented me from submitting them to the court itself. But ALSO, since she responded that she did not object, she can't object to it at the hearing either. I am feeling confident again. It's bad enough I have to represent myself (pro se) because the contractor played a little game to get other attorneys in the area to deny me (another story, another time). But my confidence in this case is finally up where it should be.


r/TheSmallVictories 14d ago

Lifestyle changes

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I’m a 36 year old man in the US. I was a high school football player. I was a soldier. I’m a father of a 12 year old boy. I started a weight loss journey about January of last year. At my heaviest I weighed in a 431 lbs at 6’4”. I used phentermine to help jumpstart my weight loss. Lost about 70 pounds down to 360. Stopped the phentermine and started a new job. Gained back up to 391.

I started another weight loss journey about 8 weeks ago. I’m down 37 pounds to 354. I’ve added 35 pounds to my bench press max. I’ve worked out every day at lunch during the work week in our on site company gym. I went from a 4XL shirt to a 3XL shirt now. I went from a 48x34 pant size to 44x34. I’m early on in this journey but I’m focusing on the small wins instead of the scale. Just very happy and wanted somewhere to share.


r/TheSmallVictories 21d ago

Everything is coming together again

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I've been eating healthy for 4 weeks now, only had food from a restaurant thrice (not counting small snacks when im out and walking), and I've been eating more even though my appetite sucks

I'm not stressed anymore, I helped every month to clear my families debt faster for 5 years, and a few weeks ago, I managed to sell one of our properties to clear the remaining debt.

Uhhhh what else
I'm going to be looking into a couple local business ideas that I'm hoping are a net positive to society, I started doing some research

I finished 2 out of 4 books I need to study for the entrance exam

Today I overshot my Duolingo goal by 3x
I can probably finish the remaining amount of their units in like a week or two now, then I'll probably be confident enough to try speaking and doing my own further learning

Also been doing my skincare regularly for 3 weeks!!


r/TheSmallVictories 29d ago

Moved to my own apartment :)

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After couch surfing countless times I finally got my own apartment!
I am very proud!


r/TheSmallVictories Jul 24 '26

Reached a deadlift personal record today

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225lbs. I’ve always been a thin guy. I weighted 102 freshman year of high school. In college, I never worked out. No clue what I was doing. 9 years ago, I found a gym down the street from my newly purchased home. The trainers helped me understand proper form. I’ve done all sorts of exercises, slowly increasing my weight and reps. My deadlift is the heaviest weight I’ve ever lifted. Feels good!


r/TheSmallVictories Jul 15 '26

Finally put on some weight and I’m loving how my body looks and feels

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I’ve been skinny all my life and recently I’ve been under a lot of stress so I lost enough weight to be considered underweight. I eat high calorie healthy food and even have been on supplemental calorie shakes to try to boost my weight. I get all kinds of comments from people saying things like “must be nice to eat whatever you want and look like that” or “I wish I had that problem”. This totally ignores the chronic exhaustion and brain fog I felt while underweight. I hated how I looked in the mirror I could see my ribs and my skin looked too big for my body.

Today I looked in the mirror and realized that I finally look healthy. I saw the body of a Greek goddess instead of a starved alley cat. I think I even have a cute muffin top going on!! I can’t even see my ribs anymore. I feel stronger and more energized too. I’m so happy!! 😁


r/TheSmallVictories Jun 03 '26

Buying satsumas from Tesco

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Today I was buying these satsumas from Tesco, when I got to the self scans I realised the barcode looked like this, impossible to scan. I pressed "Enter barcode manually" and managed to guess what the missing digits were in only two tries to be able to enter my satsumas.


r/TheSmallVictories May 24 '26

LGBT Bookclub

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Long story short, my last breakup made me realise that I needed to find a way to connect with gay men outside of dating apps.

It has always been a challenge for me. I have self esteem and body image issues, and I fled gay IRL event for years because I thought I was going to be judged for being ugly.

But today I went to a gay book club, and it was incredible. I connected. Guys were nice to me, and interested in me. I had felt really lonely recently. And today I didn't.

Bonus point, on the way back home I ran into a friend I recently reconnected with. I was happy to see her.


r/TheSmallVictories Apr 03 '26

I just bought my first car in the US and paid for it all in cash! 🎉

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r/TheSmallVictories Mar 26 '26

I went to the gym.

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After having my son, my blood pressure has been really bad. I’m on medication for it. I’ve adjusted to a low sodium diet but I couldn’t find time for the gym between a 6 month old baby and a full time job.

I’ve been paying $450 for therapy and I figured if I can make the time for therapy, there’s no excuse anymore not to go to the gym. I signed up and went tonight and I will make time, I have to be healthy for my son.


r/TheSmallVictories Mar 21 '26

Almost 2 years debt free

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April 29 2024 I paid off my student loans July 1 2024 I paid off my car.

Today I transferred my final car payment into my savings. I set 14 months (what I had left on auto loan) into savings deposits.

Next month Ill start moving what I would have paid in student loans into my savings for the next 8 years (the remainder of loan term if I was in repayments)

Now I need to balance out which credit cards stay and if I move from one HYSA to another.

Slowly movements made in the right direction.


r/TheSmallVictories Mar 13 '26

Just ate at the pub

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Wasn't hungry, didn't want food. The group needed sustenance. I ordered a burger and chips. The burger came out mouldy, I ate the chips. Mentioned it and didn't get charged. Win for me. Potentially a loss for the other people tomorrow.


r/TheSmallVictories Feb 25 '26

Level 1 QuickBooks ProAdvisor: COMPLETED! ✅

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r/TheSmallVictories Feb 16 '26

I found my dongle!

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So! I have this really nice wireless headset I was using for my previous job. I left and now I'm starting a new job, but it's remote. They require all headsets to have a plug in or a dongle. I didn't buy a $300 wireless headset meant for clear work communication to plug it in, and my first day or training starts tomorrow.

I found the dongle, BUT WAIT! it's a USBC dongle. NOOOO! I used to use an adapter when I used my MacBook for my old job, but I decided to primarily work on my PC since it's from home, and the adapter also plugs in via USBC.

BUT! I got lucky. When I upgraded my PC a few years ago, I got the best of the best motherboard (at the time) I have a 3080, and the motherboard is supposed to be almost built for that thing. It turns out, it has TWO USBC slots on it. I've never heard of a motherboard with that, but thank GOD I had too much money on my hands a few years ago.

Yay for my small victory!


r/TheSmallVictories Jan 29 '26

I got today's Globle in 2 guesses

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r/TheSmallVictories Jan 24 '26

Let's celebrate and positive and share something you love about being "in between"😇

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r/TheSmallVictories Dec 27 '25

Signed up for a 42Km Marathon, tapped out after 12Km, but it's the most I've ever ran 😭

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I went it with minimal prep, my colleagues kinda pulled me in without much time to prep, so all my prep was on office gym treadmill. I went in thinking id tap out at around 5Km, but I somehow ran 12Km, through I didn't win nor finish the marathon, I am proud of how much I ran 😭


r/TheSmallVictories Dec 22 '25

I made my CV after severe years living as a NEET

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I've been a neet for quite a while, which I'm not proud of at all and lately it's been distressing, low self esteem, depression, anxiety and consequently social avoidance.

Today was a victory, I made my CV and I am applying for jobs with low demand, wish me luck 🙌


r/TheSmallVictories Dec 09 '25

get to graduate with special cords

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I didn't even realize it, but the assignments I did in a class counted towards a separate program and I (think) I completed all the requirements to be able to graduate with special blue cords in May! This achievement is also going to be announced when I walk the stage and it "looks good to future employers." I've been struggling with depression and just having no motivation to do anything, but this achievement makes me feel like I'm actually doing a good job :') This is also only my associates (my 1st degree), so it just gives me hope that I'll be able to achieve more future goals


r/TheSmallVictories Dec 03 '25

My nail is growing back

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My toenail is growing back! I pulled it out while tripping from ammonia poisoning about two years ago. I got the liver transplant, but thought my bigtoe nail was gone for good. I'm just so happy it's growing back for some reason and had to share. Catty on


r/TheSmallVictories Dec 01 '25

Finally gained some weight!

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Your context is that: I have struggled with losing weight (often in unhealthy amounts within a time period) for quite a long time due various reasons I checked my weight and not only have I finally gone 6 months without losing anything, but I've even gained a pound May or may not have cried over this, quite exciting for me


r/TheSmallVictories Nov 28 '25

Slaying the housework beast

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Background: I'm terrible at housekeeping. Spent my entire childhood scrubbing floors and laundering cloth diapers etc for my oversized under-resourced family. So now I struggle to keep my adult abode in good order.

Today: I accomplished a small victory by cleaning out a low pantry cabinet where I jammed trash bags and gift bags and baking pans and other odds and ends. 
Emptied it out, dumped half the junk, vacuumed and scrubbed down the inside, then repacked it in usable, organized form. While listening to a sports guys discuss recent football games. It didn't even feel like a chore.  
I am jealous of people who do this kind of thing all the time, and actually enjoy it. This little chore made me feel so good, I am actually looking forward to tackling the spice cabinet I've abused and neglected for 10 years. 

r/TheSmallVictories Nov 18 '25

I edited and posted my book online free to read.

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Had to repost due to rules. I just want to entertain more than I want to sell a product, so I hope enjoy this.