What if it doesn’t happen

[u/megettingkilled]

We have to consider the possibility…

[u/carrie_m730]

I have a theory that wishing for someone's death might be a very common thing among sufferers of abuse who see no other way out. Totally not thinking that from experience or anything no way, definitely not projecting lived experiences on larger situations.

Anyway, I, that is, some survivors of abuse, learn that there actually is another way out and they're not helpless and obligated to just hope the abuser eventually dies. What that path might be varies, and there may be some sufferers who never find another way out.

But I think the constant fantasizing about the hypothetical imminent death -- look! Another headline saying that he's super sick and could die any day! Look! Another symptom that we saw in that granddad/neighbor/ex/whoever only days before the fatal heart attack! -- is a sign of serious desperation.

And the most dangerous time for an abuse victim is obviously when they try to leave, but I'm thinking we're maybe at a point where people are going to have to find the will to try some other way to end the abuse, because sometimes when an abuse victim just keeps waiting for the abuser to die, the victim ends up dead first.

[u/kamizushi → u/carrie_m730]

The abuser in question is responsible for 120 girls dying after dropping a missile on their school.