r/mildlyinfuriating • u/guitarman129 • Jun 13 '26

I just wanted a hot dog Recommended gratuity after tip was already included

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I’m sure there are a lot of tipping posts here so to keep it short - I had my wedding at a fancy restaurant. On top of the TERRIBLE service, the bill came with “suggested gratuity” even though I was told gratuity was included. When I asked the manager, he said that the “S/C: 24% SRC REGULA“ was the included tip and the suggested gratuity was if we wanted to add something extra - basically trying to trick people into giving a 49% tip!

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u/primadiamonds Jun 13 '26

Obviously—it was a whole wedding. Read the caption

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u/Live-Habit-6115 Jun 13 '26

I prefer half weddings personally

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u/bigboybeeperbelly Jun 13 '26

I wish. Turns out it's other way around

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u/Dewgong_crying Jun 13 '26

I think that means only the bride or groom show up, so married alone.

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u/RenReclaimed Jun 13 '26

2 percent for me.

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u/Potato_Stains Jun 13 '26

The ol' Wedc

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 13 '26

Most restaurants have an added automatic gratuity if there’s more than a certain number of people in the party- this person seems to be just realizing that and trying to stiff them out out of it. Not classy, considering it was a wedding party.

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u/Top_Box_8952 Jun 13 '26

That’s a large service charge tho. Thats something that should be written beforehand.

Or not called gratuity.

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u/HeadAcanthisitta7288 Jun 14 '26

"gratuity" is literally what anti tipoers want tho. Dont have to tip if its included in the cost

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 13 '26

It usually is in the contract beforehand if there is one, on the menu if no pre planning. it doesn’t mean that it’s not individually listed on the bill.

My wedding reception food was a little over $60,000 give or take (this was 20 years ago). We had an automatic 20% gratuity- the venue Fee was excluded from this. Admittedly, they did the cake cutting gratis because it was a wedding package. We still tipped ontop of that because the service was impeccable, above and beyond.

It really seems like this person simply didn’t read the details or has never had a large dining part before. Anyone who eats in restaurants will observe on the menu that tables over a certain size the gratuity is automatically added.

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u/684beach Jun 13 '26

You spent 60k on FOOD services??

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 13 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

It was an 8 course sit down meal with pairings for 100 people at a very nice venue, pre meal cocktail hour with passed items, and a cheese and fruit bar for the post meal entertainment and Dancing (The open bar was a separate charge, but not much due to the the pairings with the meal).

This was 20 years ago, and a lot of my side of the family traveled across country from NEW York & Connecticut area, so we did things traditionally the way my family was used to (I was the bride).
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Edit: I love that people are downvoting me because I had a traditional black tie wedding 🙄.

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u/amd2800barton Jun 13 '26

You spent 600 a plate?!?! When you said you spent 60k, I expected you to explain it as you had one of those weddings where you’re inviting 800 people and the celebrations last three days.

I don’t think I’ve ever spent $600 on a meal for someone else. Only way I’d be spending that much on a single person’s dinner is if we just got done doing some very NC-17 things together.

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u/The_One_Koi Jun 13 '26

60k 20 years ago is worth a little over 100k counting for inflation with todays money, I think OP is full of shit

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 13 '26

lol @ the NC 17 comment. I love it.

It was a different time, different economy. We were 26. We also paid for everyone’s hotel rooms for a week at the same venue (it was a hotel in the city where our business is). My parents covered the rehearsal dinner, my would be in-laws covered the open bar for the rehearsal dinner.

Now, spending like that is mostly smaller parties (like 6 people) or an occasional thing with clients.

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u/butyourenice Jun 13 '26

It was a different time, different economy. We were 26. We also paid for everyone’s hotel rooms for a week at the same venue (it was a hotel in the city where our business is).

In no economy was that “normal.” I get that for you and how you grew up, that was normal. You grew up very, very wealthy. It’s fine, it’s not something shameful, but please have some grace and understand that outside of, idk, Cos Cob (you mentioned family in CT and NY, so…) most people are not spending $60,000 for their entire wedding in 2026, certainly not in 2006 dollars.

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u/lumentec Jun 13 '26

I don't think they said it was normal or tried to shame anyone else who couldn't afford that, no?

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 14 '26

I absolutely did not grow up wealthy. My husband and I earned that money with a business that we started; we had no help starting g this business, we supported each other. We did not finish our schooling (which we also paid for ourselves) until after the business was , when we could afford it . Did you not catch the part where I said what my in-laws and parents contributed?

Also, no nowhere did I say it was “ normal” or “ standard” for the general population. I said I did things very traditionally from an etiquette standpoint; it was a very formal black tie wedding.

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u/HeadAcanthisitta7288 Jun 14 '26

Lol saying hes getting downvoted for a "traditional black tie wedding" and not because he spends more than most americans yearly incomes on a dinner and complains about it 🤣

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

It isn’t a bad thing that we are successful and were able to do so, simply because others are not. Also, had you actually read everything you would know I am a women.

Just because someone else can’t afford it means I shouldn’t have? Do you know how many people were very well paid because I did spend that much? This hate on people simply because they have financial means is ridiculous. Not all people with wealth are monsters

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u/HeadAcanthisitta7288 Jun 15 '26

Never said youre a monster for wealth just that you are out of touch and complaining that people disagree with you.

You literally just cant understand the average human anymore sorry.

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 15 '26

I’m not in any way out of touch. I’m also not complaining about anything

I’m saying that in the US that is a standard practice. Just because the original poster doesn’t like it doesn’t change the fact.

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u/684beach Jun 13 '26

Thats 20 years ago?? Thats like over 100k now! I get traditional but fuck me im not spending a college fund cost or my years salary on food

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 14 '26

Neither would we then or now. By the time, my husband and I got married we had set up a very successful business.

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u/HeadAcanthisitta7288 Jun 14 '26

But you did so are you just lying now?

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 14 '26

It wasn’t the equivalent of our colllege fund. We wouldn’t extend ourselves like that ever. Use some comment sense and read for context

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u/MilwaukeeMan420 Jun 13 '26

You know when someone says something and it makes you realize how different you are? 60k for wedding reception food is not on my bingo card.

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u/1850ChoochGator Jun 13 '26

Doesn’t matter because the bride and groom would have known this going in.

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u/Jolly_Ad_5679 Jun 13 '26

I live in a normal country where the bill is the bill, and this BS can't even happen. Can't have included and optional gratuity, if there isn't gratuity to start with.

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 13 '26

This is normal in the US- op either didn’t pay attention or is trying to be cheap

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u/StopImportingUSA Jun 13 '26

Normal is a concept existing only in the minds of people who stop to think.

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u/Suspicious-Middle605 Jun 13 '26

this is dumb as hell, Op is right to be infuriated.

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 14 '26

All this is saying is you don’t have a lot of experience dining out in the US, especially at nicer restaurants

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u/HeadAcanthisitta7288 Jun 14 '26

Bro if you are saying dining out in the US costs roughly $1000 a plate due to inflation you are MEGA RICH

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 14 '26

Not what I said at all. Work on your comprehension please.

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u/turnipofficer Jun 13 '26

It looks like from the scribbles that they wanted to pay what I think is around 16 percent instead. Honestly 16 percent is generous considering they said the service was terrible.

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 14 '26

Not if they automatically charge a certain percentage for a large larger party. That percentage is agreed upon, either in contract or on the menu depending on their pre-planning/ or lack there of.

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u/HeadAcanthisitta7288 Jun 14 '26

True but most people arent dropping $100k ON JUST THE DINNER FOR A WEDDING. MY ENTIRE WEDDING COST $8K 2 YEARS AGO

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u/Apprehensive_Run_539 Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

And your point?

I’m sure you wedding was just as lovely as mine, just in a different way.

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u/Meisteronious Jun 13 '26

Never go whole wedding - always stop before the dues.

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u/Nessie_of_the_Loch Jun 13 '26

Whole ass wedding for 27 people ...