I don't know why, but I am only getting some random or fake profiles in my OKC account, tried everything to fix it but it's still same, even I moved to different city but there also same issue, anyone knows how to fix this?

Note : I live in Delhi

I suppose this is a bit of a long shot but thought it's worth a try. I'm 28 5'8 broad shoulders. Stocky build , blue eyes and brown hair.

I'm looking to try something long term now. I've gotten to 28 now and I'm looking for my person. Physical attraction is important to me as I do have a preference and type. I'm tired of being on my own coming home on a night with no partner to talk to or throughout the day. Someone to share my day with and me theirs. Someone to occasionally have weekends away with, day trips and adventures to. More so someone to cuddle up to in front of the log burner on the sofa on a night.

I've had suitors but unfortunately some there has not been enough attraction there for us both or unfortunately the other people have had mental health issues or anxiety. I like helping people but I can't build something special and long lasting when people are not willing to meet me half way.

I suppose I should get into my preference I'm looking for. I'm looking for no super model by any means. Someone grounded, humble, funny, flirty and cheeky to match my qualities.

I prefer curvy women, thick or chubby usually I think a size 12 to 18. I just feel more attracted to curvy girls. I'd be lying if I didn't say I prefer brunettes or red heads but its not a deal breaker. Now you'll have to forgive me for this next bit. I like my women with a big rack. I'm sorry I'm a typical bloke 😅. If you're a double HH cup or above. I'm sold x. I am spicy as well but I'm passionate to please don't think I'm objectifying anyway I'm just looking for the best physical attraction fit I'm looking for.

So what do I bring to the table. I'm fiercely loyal, honest, hardworking, funny, charming and empathetic. Very creative as I can make and fashion anything from wood or metal like wood carvings or blacksmiths roses. You could always count on me in any situation to be behind you, by your side and support you whatever the circumstances providing you don't have a tendency of getting in debt 😂. I want to build a life with someone special and to give them my all. I'm a rural rogue but with the biggest heart of gold. If you've read this and it resonates drop me a message I'm looking for my person and to give them the world.

I'm based in east yorkshire but I'm not looking to relocate as I have strong family ties here. If you got the chance to meet my family you'd understand why 😂. You'd probably never want to leave to x

Hope this helps or works. Sorry for waffling on. And hope my post comes across as respectable and charming.

Pace tuturor!

Sunt un tânăr de 23 de ani din Bihor și vin înaintea voastră nu cu cuvinte mari, ci cu o inimă deschisă și curată. În ultimii ani, m-am dedicat trup și suflet muncii în construcții. Am un job stabil, dar acest domeniu m-a absorbit complet printr-un program extrem de solicitant. Viața mea s-a rezumat doar la muncă. Nu beau, nu fumez și nu am anturaje nu am avut încă niciodată o relație; am ales să merg pe o cale îngustă, curată, chiar dacă asta a însemnat adesea să pășesc în singurătate, și pășesc doar cu Dumnezeu.

Dar am înțeles că omul nu este făcut să fie singur. În viața mea, prioritățile sunt așezate la picioarele Crucii: Dumnezeu este pe primul loc, familia pe locul doi, iar munca pe locul trei.

Îmi doresc din tot sufletul o relație serioasă, un legământ binecuvântat pentru toată viața. Nu caut o persoană perfectă. Perfecțiunea nu aparține acestei lumi – dacă am fi fost perfecți, Isus nu ar mai fi trebuit să Își verse sângele pentru păcatele noastre acum 2000 de ani. Caut, în schimb, un suflet autentic. O fată credincioasă, o tânără pocăită care Îl iubește pe Dumnezeu și care știe că o familie binecuvântată se construiește cu răbdare și credință neclintită.

Pentru mine, temelia unei căsnicii creștine nu se negociază: ea înseamnă un devotament profund, o loialitate deplină și o transparență atât de totală, încât sufletele noastre să fie ca o carte deschisă. Îmi doresc o parteneră alături de care să pot râde cu bucurie sfântă, să ne hrănim din lucrurile simple și lângă care să pot zâmbi cu pace deplină chiar și în nopțile cele mai grele, în care lumea din jur ar plânge de deznădejde. Vreau să fim stâlpi de sprijin unul pentru celălalt și să facem voia Lui în toate lucrurile.

Dacă ești din Oradea sau de oriunde din județul Bihor, dacă ai un suflet mare și rezonezi cu aceste rânduri, te aștept cu toată deschiderea să îmi lași un mesaj în privat. Putem ieși la o plimbare liniștită să povestim și să vedem cum se împletește voia lui Dumnezeu în viețile noastre.

O zi plină de har și binecuvântare tuturor!

I had an issue where they logged me out of my account randomly then I couldnt sign back in. I reached out to their tech support who just gave the generic troubleshooting which didnt work and eventually stopped replying.

I figured maybe they deleted my account for some reason so I tried to make a new account it accepted my email address. But then they asked me to verify myself with my mobile number but it was saying the number is already in use which means my account was still active.

So I kept submitting a request each day stating im a UK citizen and you are withholding my data which is against the law.

Now it seems they have banned me because I threatened to seek legal advice if they dont let me gain access to my data or at the least delete my account so I can start again.

As far as I know they still hold my data even though I'm banned and are ignoring every new request I submit.

I previously subscribed to the Premium Plus account, and everything was working fine. However, I deleted my account made on my iPhone and created a new one through my iPhone on the very same day itself . I then restored purchase of the Premium Plus package using my iPhone.
The purchase shows as completed, but I’m unable to access the Premium Plus features. For example, when I try to view my Likes, it keeps taking me to the purchase page and asks me to subscribe again.
Please help me restore my Premium Plus access.

Hi everyone, i wanted to ask your opinion on why I got banned and what to do going forward. I made my OkCupid profile a few weeks ago and set everything up myself, no ai texts for my bio or anything. It is my first time using a dating app so my text might have seemed akward, but there was in no way anything suggestive or offensive in them. I used normal pictures i had of myself, fully clothed, on a motorcycle etc. The only two pictures i used that didn't have me in the picture, have been 1 of my dogs and 1 meme of a guy holding flowers behind his back as a surprise. I got two mails about pictures being removed from my profile which ended up in my spam so i didn't see them at first and then shortly after i got permanently banned with the following reasons: -Content detected using automated tools -Moderator Review of your account information and/or activity
I, as i've said, have not used any ai. When i tried to appeal the ban and asked for the specific reasons of the ban, all i got was them saying i violated the terms and conditions or their Community guidelines. I am aware that I will not be able to make a new account as that one will propably be banned as well, which is a shame because i really liked the layout of this platform and how it worked.
This ended up being more of a rant and i apologize for that, have a nice day everyone

For once I wanna see a profile that's like, "parent to two dumb nerds. You're gonna hate them. They just eat and cry."

Are inactive conversations deleted now after some time? Just wondering because I have people I talk to that didn't unmatch me or block me (I know because I still talk to them through text and can still see their profile) but the messages on okcupid are completely gone

so i changed my email but now it wants me to recieve a code from a phone number i no longer have access to or even remember. i dont want them to have my data period and they dont have any way to contact them besides a form that almost certainly goes straight into the trash. does anyone know any 'tricks' to ensure my account is deleted

lol a friend of mine has been dating a guy on Reddit 😭😭

I mean when you don't pay for premium and the site goads you with "[number] women/men liked you" and shows profiles but is blurred out to the point of illegibility. Is it a scam to get people to pay to see the 'likes' which don't actually exist? (well, basically random profiles from the site) I have in the past briefly been on the premium tier and found it unproductive.

A while back I was not getting any matches with my intros.
I must have sent tens of intros with no matches but suddenly during the last few days I have like 10 new matches and all of these new matches are from intros that I have sent in these last few days.
To me it really seems that there is some kind of a ranking on users that define if your intros are actually being delivered to women because I have not droppped my standards and Im sending out the same copypaste message but suddenly Im getting a whole lot more matches. Maybe if you match a good league women the app gives you more visibility for your intros.
Do you have similar experience?

I’ve clicked on several great looking people I’d love to match with, and then their bio includes that they live in Italy or China or anywhere else. I’m in the US. what is the reason for doing this? A lot of these accounts are the only ones liking me too which is depressing in itself

So I was just wondering... is this normal? I literally just made an account, added some normal selfies of me, wrote a very normal about me, and worked on their profile quiz where you answer questions to build a match % or whatever, and banned... just, banned. Then they told me it was by mistake, then banned me again... oh my god... now I'm banished to the appeal shadow realm without any recourse... All I know is I'm so glad I didn't actually go through with the premium purchase at the time of the popup.

Thank you for reaching out,
 
We’ve reviewed your appeal request and have re-authorized access to your OkCupid profile.

"I'm glad you re-auth'd my account, but you say to carefully review the ToC and CG, but I don't even know what I did wrong. I literally made the account and didn't even interact with anyone yet, just answered the questions for my profile."

Unfortunately, it looks like your account may have been inadvertently disabled due to an error. I'm sorry that this happened! As previously stated, we have reviewed your appeal request and have re-authorized access to your OkCupid account.

"Yeah, uh, it kind of signed me out just like last time, saying I need to "restore" my account, and I assume its going to ban me again. Literally all I'm doing is trying to set up my profile :D"

We’ve reviewed your ban appeal and have determined you have violated our Terms and Conditions or Community Guidelines. As a result, your account will remain banned, and this decision is final.

"What did I do?!

I JUST MADE AN ACCOUNT!

You guys said I did nothing wrong before, but now I'm perma banned?! WHAT?!"

Our records show that your appeal has already been reviewed, and the decision is final. For more details on bans, please refer to our Community Guidelines and Terms of Service.
 
If you're in the European Union, you can click here for additional information on redress options.
 
We consider this matter closed and won’t be responding to further replies.

I've since sent a new ticket, but I think I'm blocked, they don't seem to care.

Let me know guys!

Ive suddenly been signed out and cant sign back in. It wont accept my mobile number or recognise my email & password. Cant seem to get a password reset either.

So I assumed I was deleted for some reasons so I tried to make a new account but it says I already have one.

I need to find a profile i superliked because i forgot tot ake downt the social media and ive been kicking myself since. I should have wrote it down or added them before sending but i didnt know it was not going to let me see it again

33M, married/ENM and dating separately. Looking primarily for feedback from women who date men in ENM arrangements. Does this bio make you interested in learning more about me?

Anything read as try-hard or off-putting? I’m especially interested in reactions to the ENM opener humor and if the profile gives you enough sense of what dating me would actually be like.

​Married + ENM, dating separately. No secret wife subplot hiding in season three. 😅

​I’m the kind of person who can somehow turn buying a 3D printer into an entire new personality, decide I want to get seriously strong again and immediately start plotting my way toward a 400+ lb squat, or lose an evening researching something because one innocent question led to seventeen more.

​Dad, night owl, and recovering finance guy. I can talk markets and risk, but I would much rather find ridiculously good food, defend my chaotic Spotify rotation (heavy dubstep, Jelly Roll, and anime scores), or hear about your current obsession.

​I'm not trying to force anything into a predetermined box. I am looking for easy conversation, obvious attraction, and someone who can bounce between dark humor, playful flirting, and complete nonsense without missing a beat.

I'm drawn to smart, weird, passionate people, especially people who are all three. Knowing yourself and being good at banter goes a long way.

​Tell me the rabbit hole you could give a 20-minute TED Talk about with absolutely no preparation.

​Bonus points if you can teach me something, roast me intelligently, or convince me to try something I’ve never done.

I KNOW THIS IS TL, I JUST WANT TO GUVE YOU THE WHOLE CONTEXT BUT BECAUSE OF ALL YOUR OPINION I AM NOW AWAKE I BLOCKED HIM WE ARE DONE

I’m 27F, and I recently matched with a 35M on a dating app. We live in the same province, although he currently works abroad and only comes home about once a year to visit his family.

We started talking, and honestly, the first day was really wholesome. We spent the whole day getting to know each other, talking about our lives, relationships, values, etc. I could tell he was genuinely interested because he was attentive and concerned about me.

I was also impressed by his life situation. He’s 35, has a stable career, works abroad, seems financially stable, and is apparently at a point where he wants marriage/family. I was honestly surprised that he wasn’t married yet because, on paper, he seems like someone who is ready to settle down.

Eventually, we talked about past relationships, and he asked about my sexual experience. I didn’t find the question inappropriate because it came up naturally in the conversation. I asked him about his own experience, and his answer initially felt like a green flag.

He said he has a high sex drive, but he only has sex with someone he’s actually in a relationship with. He said all of his previous relationships were long-term and that he doesn’t do flings or play games. He also said he’s at an age where he wants to settle down and hopes to eventually have a family.

That actually caught my attention because I’m looking for something serious too.

I’ve been single for around 9 years. I’m genuinely happy with my life, so I’m not desperate to be in a relationship. But I’m 27 now, and I would like to eventually build a future with someone—have a healthy relationship first, enjoy being together, and eventually build a family.

I told him I wouldn’t jump into a relationship immediately. I want to see effort and actually get to know someone first.

He said he understood and told me that because he’s currently abroad, there’s only so much he can do. He said that when he comes home later this year, he’ll show me how genuine he is and that he wants to take me out, spend time with me, etc.

So I thought, okay, maybe he’s just the type who shows affection through actions once he’s physically home. I figured maybe he’d court me properly—dates, flowers, spending time together, that kind of thing.

But then things started moving really fast.

On the second day, we FaceTimed because we wanted to make sure we’re both real people. 😅 And during that call, I feel like I saw another side of him.

He started repeatedly telling me how hot and sexy he thinks I am and how much he wants to have sex with me once he comes home.

He asked if I could spend his entire vacation with him. He talked about us going on a trip together, having sex, and possibly having children.

I was honestly shocked.

I told him, “You’re moving way too fast.”

His response was basically that he can do both—he can court me while also diving into a relationship. He said he’s not like other guys who are only good at the beginning and that he wants me to feel every day how much he likes me.

And to be fair, when we’re actually talking about normal things, I really like our conversations. He’s intelligent, articulate, and we can talk about a lot of topics. That’s what makes this confusing.

But somehow, almost every good conversation eventually becomes sexual.

We talked about what would happen if I got pregnant. He said he wouldn’t neglect me and would make sure I was taken care of even after he returned abroad.

I told him I don’t want that kind of arrangement. I would prefer marriage before having children because I want the security of knowing we’re actually building a family together.

He said he understood my point, but then said that marriage is “just a piece of paper” and that, at his age, he actually hopes to have children first.

That made me take another step back.

Later, he said we could just enjoy the relationship and spend time together first, but sex is clearly a major part of what he expects because he openly says he has a high libido.

I told him, “What if I say no?”

He said he would never do anything without my consent and that he understands consent.

I appreciate that answer, but here’s where I’m confused.

Even when I say no to sexual things, he respects it in that moment—but later, he brings it up again. There’s a tome he j*rked off but not showing it while talking to me.

For example, during FaceTime, after we’ve had a really good conversation, he sometimes wants to end the night with a virtual kiss or asks me to be more sexy during our calls. He’s suggested what I should wear and said he doesn’t want nudes, but that showing a little skin is enough. He can handle he’s own thing.

He has also told me that he has a particular body part fetish. Since some of the clothes I normally wear are somewhat revealing, he really likes it.

At one point, he tried to encourage me to touch myself during our call. I said no. He backed off, but later tried to bring sexual things up again.

This is where I’m really confused.

If the sexual stuff wasn’t there, I would honestly say he’s a great catch.

He’s smart. He’s stable. He’s financially successful. He’s straightforward. He’s affectionate. He communicates well. He says he wants a serious relationship and a family. He doesn’t seem interested in casual relationships.

But I feel like we’re only on day TWO and we’re already talking about sex, pregnancy, children, vacations together, and spending his entire vacation together.

He also told me that if we end up in an LDR, I should get used to this because we would need to “spice up” the relationship.

Part of me thinks maybe this is just his personality. Maybe he’s genuinely a very sexual person and sees sex as a normal part of a relationship.

But another part of me feels like he’s moving so fast that I’m not even getting the opportunity to develop feelings naturally.

And I don’t want to assume he’s only after sex because he has repeatedly told me he wants a serious relationship and has never done casual flings.

At the same time, I don’t want to ignore my discomfort just because he’s a “good catch.”

So Reddit, what do you think?

Am I overthinking this because I’m not used to someone being this direct, or are there legitimate red flags here?

Would you continue getting to know him but set stronger boundaries, or would you stop now?

I’m especially interested in hearing from people who have experienced something similar—someone who genuinely wanted a relationship but was also very sexually forward from the beginning.

I’m going on a second date this week with this girl. She texted me today to confirm. I checked the app and see that her profile is no longer there. Was I unmatched? How to tell the difference between unmatched and deleted account? Should I ask her about it on our second date?