Sunday Relationship Thread

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The weekly relationship thread for all topics related to the bravest pursuit of all - love. This thread will be automatically posted every Sunday @ 5:00 A.M (UTC -5). All other dating or relationship based posts during the week will be removed and redirected to this thread.

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[u/gradschoolai2023]

Honestly how did you guys find your partner. Too nervous to approach in pubic. The dating apps make me question my attractiveness. I just feel mentally exhausted when I’m trying to put myself out there. Also my dating profiles on my profile. Open to taking inputs

[u/David_Summerset → u/gradschoolai2023]

My ex and I met through friends, we were together for 8 years, and ended in good terms.

I dunno, I’m old school. I’m not really interested in coming out of retirement at the moment, maybe next season.

But I don’t think I’ll ever be able to go on those apps, they seem unbelievably depressing.

[u/RiskManagedBear → u/David_Summerset]

Apps can be great for Men once you hit 30.

[u/David_Summerset → u/RiskManagedBear]

I mean, I’m 38… I’m sure it would be fine, I just prefer the old fashioned way

[u/BoringGuy420 → u/David_Summerset]

Can I ask what you mean by good terms and why it ended

Break ups are hard man

[u/David_Summerset → u/BoringGuy420]

We just agreed it was time to move on, yes it was/still is hard, but we’re still friends and genuinely want what’s best for each other.

We just realized that’s not each other

[u/AltMatrixs → u/gradschoolai2023]

Single events is another avenue.

[u/SinghSanity]

Week 19 Apps Update as a 26 Year Old ABCD Sikh Guy from the NJ/NYC Area:

Hinge: Weeks: 19; Likes: 5; Total Matches: 12; Dates: 1 (No change this week)

Dil Mil: Weeks: 19; Total Matches: 5; Dates: 0 (No change this week)

IRL: Numbers Gotten: 1; Dates: 0

Hinge:

Nothing this week.

Dil Mil:

Nothing this week.

Thoughts: Nothing this week (just like my updates).

[u/Final-Cauliflower-10 → u/SinghSanity]

Did you try changing up your pics or sprucing up the bio, maybe make the ig better leave it public slide into the dms

[u/SinghSanity → u/Final-Cauliflower-10]

Not like I took any new pictures over the past week. But I did change one of them for a video and planning on updating a few more pics in the coming few weeks.

[u/Final-Cauliflower-10 → u/SinghSanity]

Fair, maybe there's speed dating events in NYC and new jersey that would at least guarantee interaction/dates

[u/SinghSanity → u/Final-Cauliflower-10]

I'll keep an eye out for them for sure

[u/Spyro35]

4th date planned for this weekend and we already talked our 5th date haha 🤞

[u/corporate_gal → u/Spyro35]

Omg!! Rooting for you

[u/AltMatrixs]

Between Dil Mil, and Hinge, I've been getting a good amount of matches, where even the girl was the first to message, just for them to ghost. What gives? I had shown my messages to my sister as well and my female co-workers and they all said my messages were genuine, and questions about their profile and all. I've gone on plenty of dates, so I don't think its my messages.

Kinda tired of matching, and then never reply or just ghost after 1-2 messages. I do understand that girls get tons of matches, but shouldn't they put effort too or else we're going always be on this app. One girl I matched with twice, 2nd time we exchanged numbers texted for a bit and planning a date I suggested dates and then just ghosted me.

I had one girl who matched with me on Mirchi, Dil Mil, and hinge, at first I was like this probably is bot, but all her profiles were verified, and I was able to google her, and then never responded. Then had another girl who always like my profile everytime I'm back on Dil Mil just ot never respond, again I can google her and her profile matches everything that is googable, and verified.

I'm starting to think there are a lot of unhealthy girls on dating apps. I understand you are bombared with likes, and messages, but if you still on the app, then maybe put a little bit more effort.

Also, anyone watching DesiMeDating on YouTube? We talk a lot about desi mamaboys, but boy talk about desi-princess complex with this one:

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/vGv5NYLhwO8

Still don't get what she means at home she doesn't have to think.

Also, singl2shaadi is holding an event in NYC. I've been told its so far 50/50.

https://singletoshaadi.com/5th-annual-speed-dating

[u/thisisme44 → u/AltMatrixs]

the desimedating girl is amusing to watch. avoid those ones at all cost. she will just take take take.

[u/AltMatrixs → u/thisisme44]

Agreed. Girls like her will always want more.

[u/David_Summerset → u/AltMatrixs]

That was a trip.… i think I’m just gonna do the single thing for the next I dunno 40 years or so.

[u/Individual_Main7377 → u/AltMatrixs]

the verified and googleable part is what actually gets me here, because it proves she's a real person, it doesn't prove she's actually there to date. desi specific apps get used differently than hinge does. a chunk of people on dil mil and mirchi are on there because it's the "acceptable" app to have installed, something you can point to at home, not because they made an active decision to date right now. so you get someone who matches, half responds, then goes quiet, not because you did anything wrong but because being visible on the app was the actual goal, not what happens after. doesn't make it less frustrating on your end, but it's a different failure mode than a hinge ghost, and probably explains the pattern better than "unhealthy" does.

[u/AltMatrixs → u/Individual_Main7377]

You make a good point but I do think it's unhealthy for someone to be on a dating app just to be on one. Are they just looking for an ego boost.

To me it screams mental health issues and I think these girls need some therapy.

[u/gmehra]

44M, born and raised in Canada now based in downtown Vancouver. divorced no kids. send a DM if you want to exchange pictures