My son is 14 and will start his freshman year of high school next week.
I’m a software developer, a heavy AI user, and I spend a lot of time building and experimenting with AI agent tools.
The more I work with AI, the more I find myself questioning some assumptions I used to have about education.
I’ve also had a long discussion with ChatGPT about this, and we went pretty deep into things like independent thinking, judgment, agency, math, writing, curiosity, projects, and how much of our thinking we should eventually be comfortable outsourcing to AI.
But I still don’t feel like I have a clear answer, which is why I’d really like to hear from other people who work with AI seriously.
The basic question is:
If you had a 14-year-old starting high school today, what would you want them to become good at over the next four years?
I’m not mainly asking what programming language they should learn, or whether they should study machine learning.
In fact, the more I use AI, the less convinced I am that “teach kids more AI” is the main answer.
AI tools will probably become much easier to use.
What seems harder is figuring out what humans should still learn deeply themselves.
For example, AI can already help with:
- writing
- coding
- research
- math explanations
- brainstorming
- comparing options
- planning
- decision support
- debugging
- learning unfamiliar topics
And as agents improve, they will probably handle more multi-step tasks and become more involved in how we reason and make choices.
So I’ve been thinking about a more specific question:
What cognitive work should a teenager continue doing themselves, even when AI can do it faster or better?
Should they still struggle through hard math problems without help?
Write first drafts themselves?
Debug code manually?
Memorize things?
Learn to research from primary sources?
Practice forming an opinion before asking AI?
At the same time, I don’t want to create an artificial “no AI” environment.
That seems unrealistic.
Adults are going to depend heavily on AI too. I already do.
So maybe the right goal is not independence from AI, but learning how to use AI without losing your own sense of direction.
Right now, the things that seem durable to me are:
- strong reasoning foundations
- clear writing and communication
- judgment
- curiosity
- agency
- the ability to learn unfamiliar things
- the ability to decide what is worth doing
- the ability to work with other people
- the willingness to pursue something difficult without an immediate answer
But I’m not fully confident even in this list.
Some of these abilities may also become heavily augmented by AI.
That’s the part I find most interesting.
So for people here who work in AI, research, engineering, education, or who have teenagers of your own:
If you had a 14-year-old starting high school in 2026:
What would you still insist they learn deeply themselves?
What would you encourage them to happily outsource to AI?
What skills are becoming overrated because of AI?
What human abilities are becoming more valuable because of AI?
And maybe the hardest one:
How do you teach a young person to use extremely capable AI without gradually outsourcing their curiosity, judgment, and sense of agency along with the work?
I’m not really looking for college admissions advice.
I’m trying to understand what we should be preparing a young person for when the tools they may use at age 18 or 22 could be dramatically more capable than the ones we have today.
ChatGPT and I have already gone pretty far down this rabbit hole, but I’d really like to hear what other humans — especially people actually building and using these systems — think we’re getting right or wrong.
No need for a comprehensive answer — even one thing you personally think matters for a teenager growing up with AI would be really helpful. Thank you!