Being a mid 40s single male I've had my share of experiences with women but lately I've been enjoying chatting with married men and chatting about how hard they get when they play with their wives or want a guy to suck them while their wife watches. Is that strange?

I’m gay, and I’ve been lucky enough to have quite a few bi men in my life as friends, confidants, and more.

Obviously every bi man is different, but over the years I’ve noticed some qualities that I’ve genuinely come to admire.

A lot of the bi men I’ve known seem comfortable with themselves in a way I find really attractive. They don’t seem as concerned with proving their masculinity or fitting someone else’s idea of what a man should be.

I’ve also really valued the way many of them seem to approach attraction and relationships. There’s often an openness to complexity, a willingness to let people be themselves, and less need to force every connection into a neat little category.

Some of my bi friends have actually changed the way I think about connection. They’ve reminded me that you can be masculine and vulnerable, confident and curious, emotionally close without needing to immediately define everything.

And I think bi men sometimes don’t realize how much those qualities can be appreciated by other men.

So to the bi guys here, thank you!

So i am openly bi okay, like a classmate asks me anything along the lines of "you gay or something?" Or "are you gay?" I will openly correct them or some people will straight up ask me and I will say it. However when it comes to expressing that I have a boyfriend I instantly try to hide it. I just don't understand why I have no problem expressing that im bi or that I have a girlfriend (I don't now) but when it comes to saying I have a boyfriend thats when I get very defensive and aggressive towards the person accusing me of having one. Now granted the guy im dating is considered weird by people at my school and I have fought so hard to now be precise as not weird at all.But I also love him but im afraid to even like lean on him on the bus because other people would connect the dots. Anyone else experience something like this or?

Recently I’ve enjoyed playing with myself and using toys to pleasure myself. I’ve wanted to buy myself a dildo to ride, but haven’t gotten the chance. I never watched gay porn at all, as I’m still a straight male and enjoy fucking women. My girl has been concerned and talking with me on seeing if I’m Bi. She’s fully in support, but I’ve never thought about it. I’ve never jerked off to other men. I did jack off to men partaking in the kink, sounding, but it’s always had women in it. I was aroused by the way the rod would go into the guys penis, and how much he’d cum afterwards. For me I can’t see myself enjoying being with a man or doing anything sexual with a man. Now if I had the opportunity to be in a MMF three way there’s a possible way I’d possible be open to being the giver and seeing what it feels like to get my dicked sucked by a man. I’m confused for sure! Need some help and guidance!

I've dated bi men, and it blew my mind when they've mentioned how they could sometimes feel into guys, sometimes feel into girls, and usually lean more one way than another. I didn't really press for details because I'd never want the guys to feel uncomfortable or like I felt threatened, but I am curious.

How does it work? Is it just a daily change, or can it happen at the drop of a hat? Do you (I know it depends on the guy) find the same thing attractive on men as you do women--well, aside from genitals, obviously--and as a gay man, when dating bi men, should I aim to be with a man who's more interested in men than women? Would you say that a bi man more interested in women would be harder to maintain his affections? I want marriage and kids, and within the gay community, there is always the "guys leave you for a woman if he wants that" cynicism (not unanimous, but present).

Um tipo dominador másculo? Um sub afeminado ou algo diferente?

As vezes penso nisso e não sei se rola um ranking previsível.

Tenho tesão em ver perfis distintos que se curtem.

Então, que imagem te deixa mais com tesão qdo vai curtir com um H?

[sem militância … to falando de pau duro mesmo. O que mais você curte?]

Particularmente já curti com todos esses perfis. 99% assumo um papel bem dominador mas tenho viajado na vibe de curtir com um cara mais largado, dominador e agressivo, me deixando manso e sub. Ehehe

Doideira.

my husband 40s M cheated for a decade with both men and women. I 40s F am trying to determine whether it is worth giving him another shot- or if I’m being set up as a shield for his interest in men. It is not the men that bother me- just the cheating and lying

we have been married more than 20 years, and this came to light last year when I caught him sexting with women. later I found out it was both sexes and he’d met up for trysts with both. now he says he’d like to stay together, but also admitted his primary reason for cheating was to explore his interest in men.

he asserts that he is not gay- and will admit to being bi when pressed. he’s only been with other men who are looking to fool around but identify as straight. he says he has no interest in relationships with men- but I think that might only be for shame from his upbringing

all of this was news to me- as well as that he only added women later so if he was caught he could claim that was who he’d been with.

my parents went through years (35+) of infidelity- and it wrecked my whole family mentally. so cheating was my one non negotiable.

I also want to support his bi identity but don’t believe I’m down for an open marriage (despite having one against my will till now)

now I’m trying to sort out if he is truly wants to work on our relationship-(which he says he does) or if he just needs me back to be his beard.

like the title, roommate came home early and opened my door a little to his surprise and mines he saw me and my fwb in the 69 and now he isnt looking me in the eyes. so afraid who he will tell and how others will see me.

I am 23 m idk if i’m gay or bi but preference is always a guy i am romantically attracted to men i imagine myself in the future with men but lately i am thinking that being with woman also feels romantic, cute and i wanna have a gf and i wanna have sex with girls recently but since growing up i never had a serious crush on girls but i’m always attracted to boy. I’m so confused

Hey I’m 21 and obviously a guy i didn’t really know which sub to post this question in so i thought I’d do it here. Does anyone here have experience with adhd meds / stimulants I’ve noticed that when I take my ADHD medication or any other stimulants for that matter I start craving this I wouldn’t usually want. The main one being penetration… for context Im a straight guy with a gf but I’ve noticed these thoughts happening more often. Just curious if anyone else has experienced this or have any thoughts on it. Cheers

Ich bin vor allem verwirrt. Bitte helft mir 🙈

Been a weird year for me, and I'll keep this brief.

I have had anger issues my whole marriage, never physical, just a lot of yelling excessively.

I 51M came out to my wife last month as bisexual. I've kept this from everyone my whole life.

I don't react with anger anymore. I react with proper emotions I believe I hid because they would be perceived as not manly.

My wife thinks I'm either pretending or this is temporary, but after I told her, it felt like a great burden was lifted from my shoulders.

I'm scared it's not forever either. Starting therapy tomorrow, we'll see what she says.

Has anyone experienced this?

Maybe this isn't the right place to ask, but I'd really appreciate some perspective from people who have experienced something similar.

I'm in a bit of a confusing situation. I'm attracted to women, I identify as a man, and in my everyday life I dress and behave in a traditionally masculine way. I also go to the gym and have quite a muscular build.

However, I have a strong crossdressing fetish. When I dress as a woman, I enjoy fantasizing about being feminine, being a bottom, and being with men. So far, this has only happened online. I have tried going on Grindr while crossdressed, but I've never actually met anyone. I'm not sure whether that's because of fear, lack of confidence, or simply because I live in a small city.

The contrast between my masculine, muscular body and presenting myself in a feminine way is actually a big part of what I find exciting about it.

I've also joined FetLife, but BDSM and submission don't really appeal to me, so I don't feel like I particularly fit into that scene either.

The part that confuses me most is sexuality. I've had some success on Grindr presenting as a man, but I don't really feel like I belong in the gay community. When I'm in my usual masculine mode, I'm not attracted to men. That attraction seems to appear specifically when I'm crossdressed.

So I don't know whether "bisexual" really describes me, or whether this is simply a sexual fantasy or fetish that happens to involve men when I'm presenting femininely.

I also have no desire to transition, and I don't see myself as trans. For me, crossdressing is something sexual and exciting rather than an expression of my gender identity.

I'm not necessarily looking for a label, but I'm curious whether there's a name or a community for people who experience something like this.

Have any of you experienced attraction to men specifically or primarily when crossdressed? How do you understand it?

I'm aware this might not be the right place to ask, so if there's a better subreddit or community for this kind of question, I'd genuinely appreciate being pointed in the right direction.

Thanks for reading.

On my previous post I told the story how I was curious so I tried with a guy for the first time ever but I had that quilty and disgusting feeling afterwards. So I processed it, thought about it, had flashbacks of everyhting that went down with this one twink and how I enjoyed it. And I will say that I would definetly want to try again. The way I felt when he took the lead and took the charge, when he kissed me and grabbed me everywhere without asking me (we both agreed on that), the way I was so turned because of it and not to forget the first time getting a bj from a guy and also giving a bj to a guy for the first time. All of it was great.

So it is safe to say that the guilty feeling and disgust in my throat dissapeared and I would definetly want to try again. (but only with a twink, femboy or feminine guy. They are the only ones that turn me on).

Now one question remains. Does this make me officialy bi? I never imagined myself being part of LGBTQ

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I’m going though a weird time in my life which I thought I was gay for most of my life until 2 years ago, I experimented and found out I like women’s bodies and features and realize I swing both ways. This is not the issue, my issue is I realize I don’t want to mess with anyone anymore, every time I do I feel…sad? Angry? Nothing? Just empty when I do it. I feel like I wasted my time with someone and I really felt it with the last hookup from a long time fuck buddy. Everything felt wrong and I was just disgusted by him (it didn’t help that he was flabby from losing a lot of weight and his breath stank like tuna and morning breath and he kept saying stuff like you don’t find me attractive anymore?) and o realized I didn’t know why I did all this traveling to come see someone I really didn’t care about. The only thing I can think why am I in this position is I think I want to not associate with a life I don’t like anymore and stop messing with those apps.

What do you think is my issue? I feel lost

Just like the tittle says I jerked off witha complete stranger walking home from work. It happened out of no where I was super horny and caught a hard boner. I always knew guys cruised at a park near where I live and decided to take a stroll. I immediately saw someone and approached them. They had their dick out he was fully hard and way bigger. I told him I just wanted to jerk off together. I gave in and grabbed his as well when I finished. It was so hotttt

My (25M) cis girlfriend (27F) is bi. She hasn’t dated a girl in over 7 years and considers herself practically straight but bi in spirit still. We have been dating for many years now and she started pegging me for about the past 1-2 months and been loving it.

During covid I used to be bi-curious and tried grindr and hooked up with a guy and was an awful experience that turned me off from men and stuck to women since. Now with getting pegged I’ve been craving getting fucked more, and got super turned at the thought of getting fucked in a threesome, but I’m unsure if it’s a deeper closeted feeling about men or I just like a women with a strap on. I decided to watch some bi porn and I literally exploded it was so hot.

My gf is supportive and likes the idea of a threesome (she wants a MMF threesome too) but doesn’t want me experimenting with hooking up with guys by myself to not put a tension on our long term relationship. And she only wants to start scouting for a third until we are both 100% sure we find the right type of guy and it’s what i want to do. We agreed on me trying to just watch more gay and bi porn and see what gets me going. Overall still very confused and don’t know if there are other types of online things that can help me figure out if I do truly like men, or have a type, or I just like getting things shoved up my ass.

Any advice would be great.

edit: I am of average height and pretty jacked guy with a muscular ass that has been exclusively with petite women in the past. My only guy encounter was a dude my height but scrawny and hairy.

Never been with a man in my life but am very curious to know maybe what to expect and watch out for while looking

I’m gay, but recently met a bi guy that had not been with a guy prior to me and had just broken up with his gf. He wanted to have his first male experience with me. He was comfortable with doing only oral and was not thrilled about assholes. Anyway, once he got into it, it’s like a flip switched in his brain and he fucked me so passionately but with no mercy. It was like he was taken all the frustration of his break up on me lol. He even ate my 🍑 which shocked me. Best sex ever hands down. Anyway we had pillow talk after and he said he had a bi sister who was out and some of his close friends were queer too yet, he is deeply closeted. I asked why he was scared of coming out and he said he just wasn’t ready.

I struggle to understand how you can torture yourself by being closeted, sneaking around and not living your truth, when you know your loved ones will readily embrace you if you came out. Anyone wanna share their experience with being this way?

When using toys(7 and 8in) I’m hitting like a block and when I try to push through and go deeper while using my toys I can’t. Is this normal for the male body and I just need to practice and open it up more or is it something I should talk to my doctor about?

Just curious , what sexual orientation you would want if you were to to be reborn and could choose your sexuality ? And why ?

So this girl that hung around a friend group of mine happened to be taking testosterone, roughly 6 months I think. One night a few of us are hanging out and the others had to leave. Her and I started making out almost immediately it was random but hot, it was intense. We undressed and admired each other's bodies. She was surprised I liked her boyish kind of body. We fucked for a while and then it was like 6 in the morning lol. It was fun and extremely hot