Mindblown...

[u/Disillusioned-0984]

Ok so I dont really need direct advice or help with this. But I just had to call this out. I posted a gofundme a few days ago to help with my cancer pet scan. For the most part the response has been incredibly helpful. And i sincerely appreciate the people who were about to donate.

However since then, I have had several people dm me offering to donate/send money on PayPal or cash app....in exchange for me sending them naughty photos. I have declined each offer.

But im utterly mindblown that any human would find this to be an acceptable thing to do. First off, if im sending anyone those types of pics...its gonna be my bf. And I havent been able to even do that in months because of my health issues.

And...like...what kind of person looks at my obviously unhealthy photos on my post and says to themselves "Yessss....i wanna see dirty pics of the 90 lb cancer patient. And I wanna pay for them."

Idk if any other ladies have had this happen...im positive I cant be the only one. And im not judging any ladies who may have agreed to do this. You do what you feel you need to do for your situation. But for me personally...nope...Its absolutely crazy. Id rather go stand in a walmart parking lot with a "please help" sign begging for change than to send dirty pics of my very obviously sick, fragile and worn down body.

Sorry, I just felt the need to call this out cuz I assume many people dont realize its happening when us ladies post something in here mainly cuz the people come straight to our dms.

Again, thank you to everyone whk took the time to comment on my post or donate. I am truly thankful.

[u/Spirited-Door-1446]

I’m sorry that happened, OP. Unfortunately this is common no matter which donation community you request in. If you provide the usernames, I can make sure those individuals are banned from our subs. However, since posts are public, anyone can view them and send DMs even if they’re not part of the group.

This is one reason that our sub rules require all donations to be public. For everyone’s safety, donors must comment on the request to offer assistance rather than sending a DM. We advise not replying to any cold DMs, but instead taking a screenshot, sending the username to us in modmail, then reporting the message and profile to Reddit Admin using the Report function (select Spam, then Unsolicited messages) and finally blocking the user.

[u/meow4352]

Sadly this is just a part of Reddit.

As to the why I think it’s some sort of a kink/fetish to solicit from “normal / unwilling” people. Lord knows there are plenty of subs where people willingly sell and market this type of content but these vile creatures prefer to lurk here and prey on the vulnerable

These lurkers exist in many different subs. It is almost always a scam and even if they find a willing participant they don’t actually pay.

Unsolicited DMs will get a person banned from most subs if they are reported to the moderators but most will just create a new account and keep on doing it.

[u/Disillusioned-0984 → u/meow4352]

Its crazy to me. Like seriously....porn is free. And aside from that...if u really wanna pay for something...OF is out there. I was just blown away. I have never posted in a forum like this before. I have only even posted in like the cervical cancer or menopause or chronic pain subreddits. So I have never encountered this. Smh

[u/MAFFACisTrue]

This happens to all of us. Sorry that it happened to you as well. Extremely common on Reddit.

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