so yesterday i hit up this older guy who is like 31 while i am 19 just to smoke a blunt. zero hookup vibes before this, we literally just talk as smoke buddies. i pull up, we start blazing, and everything is chill. then out of nowhere, this guy casually hooks his massive laptop up to his wall tv and just plays qorn right in front of me, i am sitting there mid-inhale thinking he is about to show me a video game or something. but no. he literally starts stroking it on the couch right next to me while asking me about my college classes. i was so frozen i just kept nodding and hitting the pen like yeah microeconomics is crazy while the audio is echoing through the room. i did not know how to leave without making it super awkward so i just pretended to scroll tiktok. is this a regular thing for older straight guys or did i accidentally get roped into some weird kink simulation?? please help me process this

For the guys who travel and stay in hostels, how do you manage it when traveling for several days/weeks? Do you just do it in the dorm under the covers? Or in the shower? I know there may be a difference between staying in a mixed vs all male dorm, but wanted to hear how you handle it(if at all). Feel most guys need to masturbate after a few days…

The Tucson shooting is being investigated as a possible anti-LGBTQ hate crime, but the reaction feels way more muted than I expected.

From what I’m seeing, it almost feels like some people only want to go all in on outrage when the alleged perpetrator matches a particular narrative

When it’s someone seen as a MAGA Republican or conservative Christian, the conversation is loud and constant. When it’s not, everything seems to cool off a lot faster.

If that’s what’s happening, I think it’s worth confronting. A hate crime is a hate crime. If we say violence against gay people is unacceptable, that shouldn’t depend on who pulled the trigger.

To me it’s weird when even in our own circle we censor ourselves to protect the identity of the shooter.

Am I off base, or have others noticed this too?

I am 26 and my boyfriend is 50. I recently received a message on Facebook telling me our relationship is disgusting and mentioning NAMBLA, claiming he is a part of it. I researched what that was, and it has made me really sad over the last couple of days. Is my relationship actually that bad? Are people genuinely grossed out by it? I love him, he loves me, and I fully consent to this relationship.

I know a lot of gay men don't like or even refuse to date guys over 30 (since, apparently, some people consider you an old geezer by then). Personally, though, I’ve always been more attracted to guys in that age range for quite a few reasons even back when I was a teenager. They tend to have a more masculine, less "boyish" look than young adults in their early twenties, and a more mature, emotionally stable mindset.

What do you think?

Is it the same for you?

personally I flirt really openly to other guys I like and of course nothing serious as long as that reciprocation isn't coming back. But I struggle hard knowing if someone is flirting with me.

I found out I was gay at the beggining of puberty when I started fantasizing about dicks. I quickly realized that's not what most teenagers get horny about. So I always linked male homosexuality with liking dicks.

Recently I was talking with someone online and I told them what I think. This person then proceeds to lecture me and say that what really defines gayness is liking the outside appearance of a man, and it has nothing to do with genitals. They said that if I'm dating my boyfriend just because he has a dick, then I'm a "dick lover". I always thought that being gay had to do with appearances but also the sexual acts and all that jazz, including dicks.

I'm confused about this situation. What do you think?

I am vers and married to a bottom only husband. I usually satisfy myself with toys only. Lately my husband decided to try and top for me but he was always insecure because of his dick size. It is a small dick (not micro, but small) but I dont mind. The issue is I am a little muscular and I have a somewhat fat-ass, so we are having trouble finding positions where he would be able to easily penetrate me. Do you all have any suggestions?

I have jerked off at every place I’ve ever worked as an adult. That’s the bare minimum. I’ve had bathroom sex in several of them. I’ve been adulting since the early 1980s.
Am I alone or are workplace ejaculations standard?

As I top I prefer my bottoms in thongs followed by the occasional jockstrap and then the nicely fitted brief. What do you all prefer?

I have a tendency to immediately skip to the climax part every time I start watching a new video. I think I have a serious fetish on ejaculating penis. Also, when we men cum, we are in a state that is both our strongest potency, but also our moment of biggest vulnerability. Our genitals is overflowing with a surge of powerful spasms and secretions, but the pleasure can sometimes be so intense that it makes us so keen on feeling that overwhelming fun of feeling that pleasure, that it makes us very vulnerable. I think a man's truest form shows when he cums. He is manhood in its purest form, but also it is very personal, very confidential, deeply secret. The clear mind that comes right after that feeling of purest delight can be sometimes such an anticlimactic moment.

I just love watching men cum. It's what I usually love the best when watching porn. What about you folks?

Anyone look back on memories with a friend and realize if they weren't so shy or insecure they could've had some fun?

When I was in college I had a friend I became super close with. He and I instantly called each other "brother" and hung out 24/7. He and I were hanging out once and talking about scars stories and birth marks and he says he had a birth mark on the underside of his dick. I told him excitedly "wait so do I!"

He was like no way, double check go to that corner and we both facing away from each other "check our dicks" and then I turn around we're still clothed and he goes "should we show each other?"

I said "no" because I was basically semi to 3/4 hard and didn't want him to see that this whole conversation got me hard. This was before I was out but I look back and really wish I had just done it

I really wanna hear some from ya‘ll here haha :D

What do you call a fish wearing a bowtie? Sofishticated
Why can‘t your nose be 12 inches long? Because then it would be a foot

27 M here. Ever since I was a pre teen and even before, my friends were always guys and we all played sports together, hanged out and had sleepovers, played video games, etc. I kinda realized I was gay when some of my friends and I wrestled together and I kept getting hard.

I’m super straight presenting and when people find out that im gay, they’re completely shocked. Fast forward to today, I ended up in the raving scene, and almost all my super close friends are straight men still.

Here’s the part where my question comes in: I hang out a lot with some of my straight friends, to the point that I have a couple of them that will always try and cuddle with me on their own volition. For example, one of them would invite me over all the time and always ask to lie down together on his bed where he just wants to hold me for a while.

My other straight friends treat me like I’m fully straight, they’ll always smack my butt playfully or hold my hand, or if we’re drunk, they’ll kiss me or something that’s pretty gay lol. My friends would literally stand next to me in the bathroom urinals and peek over and make a comment about my dick, which I typically just reciprocate their behavior.

A lot of them that are comfortable with me would share a bed when we go on trips together, and they would always initiate cuddling, or like putting their head on my lap… stuff like that. I really like it and it always makes me feel super warm and fuzzy inside.

Question is, I’ve felt super desensitized towards male attention because I’ve been able to restrain myself from being horny around my straight friends, that I feel like my brain has just been rewired to treat a lot of guys just platonically. I haven’t felt like I’ve been able to share the same amount to love and feelings that I have for my close friends to potential love interests/dates… I always feel that my straight friends who cuddle with me and make me feel super happy are much better to be around and it’s made me stop seeking for physical affection from guys who are actually into guys lmao

I’m not too sure how to proceed at this point with a potential love interest when I feel that I get what I want from them. Any ideas or thoughts?

Hi guys! I’m (m/29) on a solo trip through Spain right now and really enjoyed Madrid and Valencia so far.

What confuses me a lot though is that both cities had barely any signs of a queer community. Even on the weekend, the Chueca area in Madrid seemed quite empty and a lot of bars didn’t seem very "inviting" since there was mostly no windows or lots of people going in and out. Also chats on Grindr mostly went nowhere, a lot of faceless profiles or guys just blocked me after a while.

Honestly, this is quite the opposite from what I expected from Spain regarding the "gay experience" and in other capitals like Prague, Copenhagen or Lisbon (even Riga), I found it much easier to connect and meet with guys.

I‘m from Berlin so probably my expectations were a bit too high, but I’m heading to Barcelona right now and wanted to know if you got any recommendations/tips/thoughts for me!

Thanks a lot :)

So today I used a public toilet and due to the awful setup of the urinals, it was completely unavoidable that everyone could see everything.

I felt kinda embarrassed as I was one of about 10 guys stood there and I by far had the smallest penis which is annoying as when hard, im quite a bit above average.

Do you guys ever feel embarrassed around other men when they see your soft dick? I felt pretty embarrassed and was very glad I was just with strangers I’d never see again and not with friends or anything like that

Ex strict top who got into bottoming recently as my new bf has a lovely thick dick. Have a few toys to practice with and used a cone toy to stretch out to take him without pain, which has been such a key to enjoying it. Even allowed me to cum hands free from him last time. It’s helped me discover and a sub side which I’ve loved. Still love being dom at times though.

But it’s left me wanting more when he’s not around. Can anyone recommend a good toy which is close to simulating getting fucked? My ass is wanting it all the time now since starting to cum hands free

I've been recently introduced to the wonders of public intimacy by a FWB, he made me blow him in the dressing room at our local mall. I've never been so excited about sex, it really did make me hornier than ever before. So im curious whether you guys also like public stuff, and if yes what's the most outlandish scenarios you've gotten into. Im definitely trying the best ones