It was last night and I was out at a party, and this dude and I got talking. I thought he was just a cool guy and we exchanged phone numbers, and he eventually invited me back to his place for a night cap. I obviously assumed he just wanted to chill and have a beer as bros but when we got back to his place he kissed me. Now, Im straight, but I've always been able to appreciate the attractiveness of other guys, and if this guy was into me I might as well go along with it right? I guess it just kinda escalated and I won't get into details of the rest of the night but you can assume from the title. I wouldn't say I particularly enjoyed it but I would honestly be up for it if it were to happen again at some point. Im trying to figure out if it was the drinks or if I'm actually kinda gay.

so yesterday i hit up this older guy who is like 31 while i am 19 just to smoke a blunt. zero hookup vibes before this, we literally just talk as smoke buddies. i pull up, we start blazing, and everything is chill. then out of nowhere, this guy casually hooks his massive laptop up to his wall tv and just plays qorn right in front of me, i am sitting there mid-inhale thinking he is about to show me a video game or something. but no. he literally starts stroking it on the couch right next to me while asking me about my college classes. i was so frozen i just kept nodding and hitting the pen like yeah microeconomics is crazy while the audio is echoing through the room. i did not know how to leave without making it super awkward so i just pretended to scroll tiktok. is this a regular thing for older straight guys or did i accidentally get roped into some weird kink simulation?? please help me process this

I'm 21 and still a virgin. I very badly want to have sex for the first time and definitely have the means to, but I'm incredibly scared of STDs lol. I know that certain STDs can transfer through oral sex, but I feel like a lot of the time guys don't want to wear condoms during oral. Is it worth it to ask a guy to wear a condom during oral? Sorry if this is a really commonly asked question or something, I just wanted answers from gay men lol.

personally I flirt really openly to other guys I like and of course nothing serious as long as that reciprocation isn't coming back. But I struggle hard knowing if someone is flirting with me.

I'm 32, am on lexapro. It affects my sex drive to where it lowers it a lot sometimes and sometimes not much. Ive been trying to make adjustments to dosage to where its not as bad. But it makes me self conscious and unsure about dating and even hookups. I used to have a raging libido, but now not as much. Sometimes but not often. But I went through some fucked up religious trauma as a Jehovah's Witness, dealing with my sexuality for over a decade. So the meds help. So, would yall be willing to date a guy on antidepressants and deals with sexual side effects? Or a guy that took them, got off, and maybe still has lingering low libido effects as a result ?

For the guys who travel and stay in hostels, how do you manage it when traveling for several days/weeks? Do you just do it in the dorm under the covers? Or in the shower? I know there may be a difference between staying in a mixed vs all male dorm, but wanted to hear how you handle it(if at all). Feel most guys need to masturbate after a few days…

I'm obsessed with the Latter Days 2003 film.

i’m 18 and i’m not rlly attracted to men my age

im a lot more attracted to bears for some reason can someone help me figure out the psychological reason behind liking men who are a bigger and chubbier

(im a mix between a twink and a twunk)

(19M) I have a friend in college who is curious and since he knows I’m bi he asked me if I could top him. He wants to bottom but he’s a virgin. I said yes to him but would like some tips on how to make it enjoyable for him? I also don’t wanna hurt him as I’m way more muscular than him and have a larger dick. Any advise would be helpful (via reply or DM).

The Tucson shooting is being investigated as a possible anti-LGBTQ hate crime, but the reaction feels way more muted than I expected.

From what I’m seeing, it almost feels like some people only want to go all in on outrage when the alleged perpetrator matches a particular narrative

When it’s someone seen as a MAGA Republican or conservative Christian, the conversation is loud and constant. When it’s not, everything seems to cool off a lot faster.

If that’s what’s happening, I think it’s worth confronting. A hate crime is a hate crime. If we say violence against gay people is unacceptable, that shouldn’t depend on who pulled the trigger.

To me it’s weird when even in our own circle we censor ourselves to protect the identity of the shooter.

Am I off base, or have others noticed this too?

I am 26 and my boyfriend is 50. I recently received a message on Facebook telling me our relationship is disgusting and mentioning NAMBLA, claiming he is a part of it. I researched what that was, and it has made me really sad over the last couple of days. Is my relationship actually that bad? Are people genuinely grossed out by it? I love him, he loves me, and I fully consent to this relationship.

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Sniffies:SHE NEEDS TO STOP MASTERBATING🫪

Guys who wear jockstraps turns me on so fucking much. I just wish more tops would wear them too cause some of you have amazing ass 😩. This is coming from a twink that tops ong

I found out I was gay at the beggining of puberty when I started fantasizing about dicks. I quickly realized that's not what most teenagers get horny about. So I always linked male homosexuality with liking dicks.

Recently I was talking with someone online and I told them what I think. This person then proceeds to lecture me and say that what really defines gayness is liking the outside appearance of a man, and it has nothing to do with genitals. They said that if I'm dating my boyfriend just because he has a dick, then I'm a "dick lover". I always thought that being gay had to do with appearances but also the sexual acts and all that jazz, including dicks.

I'm confused about this situation. What do you think?

Jake Ryan, Rob Smith, Conservative Ant, etc. These guys have super fem voices, which gay conservatives always claim to hate. They build their entire online personalities and followings around being gay, which gay conservatives also cmaim to hate. And they have this general catty, mean girl, toxic feminine attitude that they carry on all the time, which conservatives also claim to hate.

These levels of blatant hypocrisy shouldn't be possible but here we are

Turning 23 in a few months, and I have a lot of nerves approaching my mid-20s. Seems like yesterday I was 19 and bar-hopping with my friends in our college town, had a large friend group, and was active in clubs and hobbies. Living in a homophobic country currently, and most of my friends are overseas in said college town. Now I'm 2 years post-grad and into my corporate career, and introverted asl. With almost everyone in my office being twice my age, it's a bit hard to make new close friends I can relate with. I also live in a conservative town that's kinda far from the city to save money. I prefer just being alone after work and have been low-key depressed even with exercise and eating right. I'm content in my career life and have ambitious goals to move abroad, but I get worried I haven't lived 'enough,' especially with being single my whole life. If you guys can speak to your 23-year-old self, what would you tell him?

Hi all. I have never been to a bath house in general. I wanted to know y'alls experience in Steamworks, the vancouver location. Specially early in the AM, what kind of crowd I can expect.

Thank you!

Hello. I’m just here to vent and share my experience with this really bizarre Grindr hook up I just had. To start I’m 23 years old. I have my own apartment and I’m pretty much independent. I’m not sure if I’m just an easy target, but I’ve always been able to host even when I lived with my parents. I had a basement with a private entrance so I always was able to host over the years. I recently just invited a guy over today and he asked me to shower with him. I’ve always wanted to do that with a guy so I’m like yeah that sounds hot. When I initially met the guy he was really fucking weird and this kind of creepy. I don’t even think he sent me the right nudes either but of course, I can’t know that until he drops his pants lol. He basically seemed like he didn’t wanna hook up with me and like he couldn’t get hard in the shower. I was just so uncomfortable and I feel like he just needed a shower and just felt like I was an easy target I don’t know. Then he continue to shower without me lol and then when I was kind of dressed and ready for him go. The guy then lowkey wasnt trying not to leave!!!! i basically kicked him out and he claimed he left some jewelry which he did. I made him stay outside and i threw it to him. He was acting all shocked but i say this because I hooked up with over 200 guys i love to fuck. Not all the hookups are prefect but i thought i was gonna die😩. Starting to think hookups at my place are a no no.

I know a lot of gay men don't like or even refuse to date guys over 30 (since, apparently, some people consider you an old geezer by then). Personally, though, I’ve always been more attracted to guys in that age range for quite a few reasons even back when I was a teenager. They tend to have a more masculine, less "boyish" look than young adults in their early twenties, and a more mature, emotionally stable mindset.

What do you think?

Is it the same for you?