r/Bumble 16h ago

General Just another weird first message

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u/IShartedOnYourCat 16h ago

He looks like a redditor. Block.

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u/girlynonbinary 14h ago

The vast majority of comments on this post are basically saying that they would also do this so I think you're right from a statistical perspectiveĀ 

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u/IShartedOnYourCat 13h ago

Strange shit. Frumpy nerdy guy with unkempt hair thinks ā€˜yeah, ill send a selfie of me making a pig nose, that will woo her’ and half the comments are like ā€˜what’s your problem, that’s a good opener’ like wtf dudes.

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u/ManFeelings9000 15h ago

Honestly you've stuck gold see how butt hurt so many are on here over itĀ 

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u/IShartedOnYourCat 15h ago

Hurts seeing a mirror held to themselves. Who in their right mind thinks this is an appealing opening message. No wonder this sub is replete with incels and virgins.

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u/Natural-Pattern-5240 14h ago

No you don’t understand!! It’s because FEMALES only want 6 foot 6 packs and 6 figures!!

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u/Rude-Soil-6731 12h ago

Lmaooo I had this same thought. They want to point at everything but their poor social skills and dead personalities.

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u/OvercookedBobaTea 12h ago

They have zero clue how to talk to women

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u/AdEuphoric422 11h ago

And what’s worse is when you correct them they call you sensitive and overreacting. Meanwhile they’re the ones ruining things for themselves and playing the victim

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u/OvercookedBobaTea 11h ago

Literally like please just act normal or show some level of social grace

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u/Conscious_Beat6128 8h ago

You say that as if women were a game to solve and not individuals with variety. If youd been around enough youd know even that creep will find a response if he tries long enough

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u/OvercookedBobaTea 8h ago

I’m obviously making a generalised statement. I’m sure some women would be into this. I also think it’s fairly obvious those women are a minority

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u/hollowedhallowed 12h ago

god, he's trying to hard to get attention

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u/Fantastic-Post-8271 14h ago edited 12h ago

Looks like Stephen King.

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u/FrozenTinkerBell 9h ago

https://giphy.com/gifs/49zC0Bm1kbu36
Literally most of the replies to your comment. šŸ˜‚

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u/cms86 15h ago

as we are on reddit

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u/_Danizzy_ 15h ago

Definitely strange. Also weird that people are defending it. Like, come on, are you looking for a romantic relationship or are you trying to make a five year old laugh?

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u/LittleJaySmith 15h ago

It’s fucking weird

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u/_bonedaddys 10h ago

Like??? Plenty of actual ways to be funny without giving a bird's eye view up your nostrils??? Just crack a joke like a normal person?? 😭

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u/ThrowRALightSwitch 15h ago

Holding the mirror here: You’re the ā€œadultā€ posting a stranger online to roast him while he cant defend himself… yikes

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u/AdEuphoric422 13h ago edited 11h ago

Nothing is wrong with what she did. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. He deserves to be posted here. I wish she showed his face while at it. If he’s brave enough to be rude to a woman that matched with him for no reason, he should be brave enough to let the whole world see it

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u/No-Structure4 12h ago

Where was he being rude ?

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u/Lanavis13 12h ago

He's not. People just get super reactionary and upset over narratives they make up in their head.

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u/KrisOTS 13h ago

Yeah, like sure it’s not comedic genius, or even funny but it’s just something. Definitely not so shocking to post on here.

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u/CraisinEnjoyer 15h ago

This just in: People have different ideas of humor

You sound miserable for wanting to roast someone for the crime of matching with you on a dating site and attempting to have a creative open. Ok, maybe it didn't work on you, but just move on, you didn't have to make this whole thread slandering him and siccing reddit on him.

If anything, this thread is more telling of the kind of person you are than it is of the person in the photo.

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u/Shakespeare257 12h ago

Look

If your first instinct is not to send a picture of something weird back… his opener did its job

He needs someone comfortable being weird who can play along with his goofy ass

Every day I wish I was a gay man a bit more, men like this one are wasted on women

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u/Rude-Soil-6731 12h ago

Newsflash, everyone isn’t weird or 12.

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u/Shakespeare257 10h ago

Ok... so?

His job is not to appeal to everyone.

His "job" is to find someone who will share his idea of happiness.

Again, this is the one message this sub sends that's actually valid to the men it sends it to - your job isn't to appeal to every woman, and women are actually being way more honest about what they want and don't want than men. You are now actively shitting on this person for not appealing to the least common denominator woman and instead... doing his thing trying to attract someone who vibes with who he wants to be.

All the power to this man.

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u/Few_Category_1684 15h ago

If a grown man did this to me at a party I'd think he was either special needs or... well, that's it. This is only moderately funny to kids

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u/Few_Category_1684 15h ago

Like??? What is going on in this comment section that people think this was the joke of the century and we're weird for not thinking this is anything other than strange and unwarranted 😭

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u/TranslatorStraight46 12h ago

I’m sure he tried the conventional approach plenty of times. Ā This is a man scraping the bottom of the barrel.

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u/ManFeelings9000 16h ago

Tbh as a man that is a weird opener. The same lad probably spends his time online moaning women only want chadĀ 

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u/CraisinEnjoyer 15h ago

I understand the first sentence, but why do you have to create some narrative that makes them a terrible person when you know nothing about them?

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u/kilawolf 15h ago

Sorry you think this guy isn't an terrible person? There's no way to look at the opener positively unless you're blind

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u/reshromem 14h ago

using a bad opener makes someone a terrible person? 🤣

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u/SuperstarAssEater 10h ago

- guy makes a goofy face as a first message -

ā€œOMG he’s a piece of shit! i bet he’s an incel and cries and complains on social media about being singleā€

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u/CardiologistOk4920 11h ago

Weird shitty opener and no game? Yes. But terrible person seems like kind of a stretch, you know literally nothing about them

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u/kilawolf 11h ago

I know they initiated the convo with an insulting gesture. That's enough for most ppl to tell how a relationship with someone will go.

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u/Mammago95 11h ago

"If I don't like their opener they're a terrible person"
You really have lost the plot.

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u/Inevitable_Secret186 12h ago

This is how your whole model of reality works just based on vibes

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u/Albino_Neutrino 14h ago

... none of which means the guy is a "terrible person".

I may well be misunderstanding something here, but yeah, gotta agree with the user above you.

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u/CraisinEnjoyer 14h ago

This appears to be "cocking a snook" rather than making a pig nose. I interpreted it as just being a stupid attempt at general humor, not an insult to OP.

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u/kilawolf 14h ago

So I looked up what that is - the description doesn't match as the nose isn't raised and not sure how that's better.

Thumbing one's nose, also known as cocking a snook,[1] is a sign of derision, disrespect, contempt, or defiance, made by putting the thumb on the nose, holding the palm open and perpendicular to the face, and wiggling the remaining fingers.

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u/CraisinEnjoyer 14h ago

I don't think the nose being raised matters as much as what he's doing with his hand. If I were to do a pig nose I'd do it with my index finger, not my thumb.

And while yes, that is the definition, it hasn't been interpreted that way in a century. Kind of like how people will do the middle finger in pictures, it's just in a joking way rather than to actually insult someone. It may not be your sense of humor but it's very clear that the intent is not malicious in cases like that, so that is what my assumption is for this case.

Biggest thing is just not assuming the worst in people. I think we as a society would be better off if we just stopped doing that.

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u/Albino_Neutrino 13h ago

Yah, it baffles me how everyone has suddenly assumed the absolute worst.

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u/SugarBeefs 13h ago

This is the internet in 2026, some people feel the need to outrage-maxx everything. Everything has to be read in the most uncharitable interpretation possible.

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u/Albino_Neutrino 14h ago

Without further context, the pic appears to be a childish - and, really pushing it, perhaps (???) inadequate - attempt at humour. It doesn't have to be everyone's cup of tea but trying to read anything else into it is frankly farfetched. If anything, it seems to me this is a rather innocent way for the guy to weed out people he wouldn't vibe with on the grounds of his specific flavour of humour.

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u/Lost_Student_6256 5h ago

he was showing you a side of his personality.

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u/SerratedFrost 13h ago

Professional victim?

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u/kilawolf 11h ago

Yes, insulting someone will make them think you're terrible. Like you're doing here.

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u/Mammago95 7h ago

From the original interaction, to the post, to the whole thread before you, there wasn't a single insult. You literally led with the insults. Relax.

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u/greenonionqueen 15h ago

Because the apps, this sub, and the internet as a whole are crawling with that exact type of dude

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u/CraisinEnjoyer 15h ago

I'm not sure I understand? It's just a guy doing a weird face, I'm not sure where these assumptions are coming from that he's similar to this archetype you are describing.

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u/throwawayanylogic 14h ago

It's not just a "weird face", it's a pig nose. Have you lived under a rock your entire life to not understand how that's meant to insult a woman?

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u/CraisinEnjoyer 14h ago

Look up "cocking a snook". I interpreted it as that rather than a pig nose. Just a general humorous hand sign, not a pig nose at OP.

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u/Albino_Neutrino 13h ago

I've been immersed in a number of cultures throughout my life and I have never, ever heard of a "pig nose" gesture being used to insult women specifically. I'm not denying this could be a thing where you're from but no, the rest of us haven't been living under a rock precisely. With all due respect, assuming that a gesture which comes off as insulting wherever you're from is insulting everywhere else too might suggest it is someone else who has been living under a rock - but hey, I don't want to assume stuff for free.

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u/TheLimpingNinja 12h ago

You’re either arguing in bad faith or just ignorant then. I’ve been immersed in a number of cultures, have citizenship in multiple countries as a result and in almost all of them making pig nose faces at someone is insulting. It’s almost universally recognizable gesture of childish derision, contempt, disrespect, or mocking.

It may not be a contemporary insult in some cultures (Japanese, for example) but even then is often recognized as an insulting and derogatory gesture.

Your argument shows the disingenuous false understanding, it’s clear from context this message was an opener to a woman and the person you are responding to used the words ā€œinsult a womanā€ that you conveniently changed to ā€œwomen specificallyā€ so you could pin the narrative around that. Opening a message like this, even free from context or the recipients personal looks, would be considered rude at the least.

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u/Gloomy_Specific_111 12h ago edited 11h ago

Really classy of you to answer, accuse me of all kinds of stuff and block me. Good thing I have two accounts.

Your message and your approach are much ruder than the guy's opening pic, yet you aren't going to beat yourself over it as much as you are all collectively thrashing him.

I'm neither arguing in bad faith nor ignorant. I don't care about your multiple citizenships - many of the most culturally obtuse people I've met had two or more citizenships, so that doesn't mean much. You can pass through a place on paper and have the place not pass through you, as we say in my country.

In my social circles, which encompass all kinds of races, citizenships, genders, incomes and educational levels, any functional adult would interpret his opening pic in a dating app which allows for screenshots that can get him into trouble as a (goofy, funny, pathetic, ... you name it because you're entitled to your opinion) attempt at humour and provoking some form of relaxed and goofy engagement, NOT as an insult.

There is no "disingenuous false understanding" in my take of the previous poster's message - the way the sentence is phrased, mine is a possible (dare I say the most natural) reading made in good faith. If you disagree with my reading of it and really think you're right, ask the other user to rephrase it - I'll be happy to revise my opinion. But someone as utterly rude as you is in no position to call me disingenuous or call me out on arguing in bad faith. I think the bad faith side has become rather clear the moment you didn't allow me to defend myself.

As I've said elsewhere, I'd be more than happy to get an opening pic like this from a woman, and there are plenty of women here who've stated they would interact, claiming it shows personality. As I've said elsewhere as well, you're free to dislike the approach, but it's a mistake to project one's worst fears and moral judgements onto something as pathetically innocuous as this opening pic or small things we don't like (cough reverse halo effect cough).

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u/Taharki 15h ago

They'll use examples of men being ass holes after getting a match, to dismiss the struggles of men who complain that they aren't getting matches.

While sometimes it's true, it's a very wrong assumption.

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u/401LocalsOnly 15h ago

Exactly. Totally oblivious that someone could have had a different experience in the same area that another person could’ve had.

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u/Straight_Breakfast_4 10h ago

It's just a joke. Lighten up, Francis! Besides, I'm a Chad and I approve this message. šŸ™‚

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u/IndependentDry8210 9h ago

Because misandry and white knighting is how feminist men get laid. Just look at all their likes..stupid, hateful and bigoted...but undeniably rewarded.. because feminisms about equality and stuff. Lol.

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u/Prudent-Bicycle-9210 15h ago

Or he is sicl of having no responses when using normal openers.

At least he managed to get "some" interest from op

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u/World_May_Wobble 14h ago

I don't know. I've slowly moved in his general direction, because if you've spent years watching nothing work, what do you have to lose by being weird?

I used to ask women deep, thoughtful questions about their lives and interests inspired by their profiles. Now I'm just like, "You get to have a conversation with the iceberg that sank the Titanic. I'll roleplay as the iceberg. Go." Same result, but now I'm having fun at least.

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u/Actual-Bee-402 15h ago edited 10h ago

Is he calling you a pig? That sucks if so and is really weird behaviour

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u/CycadelicSparkles 15h ago

Yeah I think this is the issue. I wouldn't be sure if I was being made fun of or if he was just getting me to laugh, and I really don't enjoy the feeling of having to figure out if someone is making fun of me or not. I had enough of that in high school.

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u/Pip-Pipes 15h ago

I think so.

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u/Ok-Quarter-8499 15h ago

Yeah that’s exactly what I was thinking

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u/OvercookedBobaTea 12h ago

God some men really have zero clue on how to talk to (most) women. Idk how people don’t realise the fast majority of people would be put off by this

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u/Rude-Soil-6731 15h ago

It’s very weird and lame. I bet he’s somewhere in this sub complaining about lack of success on the apps šŸ™„.

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u/Rude-Soil-6731 15h ago

Like what are you even supposed to say to that? He couldn’t just written ā€œhi.ā€

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u/Rude-Soil-6731 15h ago

Why send a message at all then? Hell, might as well delete the app.

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u/Peppered_Rock 15h ago

The hottest guy known to man could ask me out and if he was a dickhead, i'd still say no. youve got it backwards bud.

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u/francislaideux 15h ago

he's not the one posting here though

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u/Rude-Soil-6731 15h ago

You see yourself in him, eh? Cope.

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u/CraisinEnjoyer 15h ago

You're getting downvoted because you're right, people are just making up things about this person despite knowing nothing about them.

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u/Maxie0921 15h ago

Not really sure why people think this isn’t a strange first opener. I’d just unmatch.

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u/Albino_Neutrino 13h ago

I don't think people are denying this is strange as much as people denying this makes him a bad person, as so many others are suggesting. I have seen some people project their high school insecurities over this opener...

OP and this guy's ideas of humour don't match and that's fine. He'll have to find a goofy queen and OP shall find whatever she's looking for.

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u/Maxie0921 13h ago

People are calling OP a mean girl, boring etc. We have no evidence to suggest he’s a bad person but I can’t fathom how this makes him more attractive. He may have been trying to be goofy but it can also even come off as is he calling her a pig?

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u/Moisture_ 14h ago

Lmfao. We need a reset.

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u/_bonedaddys 10h ago

This would be an immediate unmatch for me lol I ain't even replying

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u/throwawayanylogic 15h ago

It's wiiiiild seeing people defending what basically reads as if this guy is calling OP a pig.

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u/kilawolf 12h ago edited 12h ago

Noooo you don't understand...it's not calling OP a pig, it's "CoCkInG a SnOoK" a completely different gesture intended to show contempt and disrespect a person. You know, like showing your middle finger, like how a normal person flirts.

How dare you insinuate an insulting gesture is not the way to initiate a convo with someone.

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u/LittleJaySmith 15h ago

It is super weird. Also, the people commenting are super weird.

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u/jjhebert21 14h ago

If it makes you feel any better I can tell he has fetal alcohol syndrome lmao

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u/aestheticeddy818 15h ago

I think he might be acoustic

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u/Gemmles_is_gem 14h ago

He thought he was being quirkyāœØļø ā˜ ļø

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u/graelmakar-sune 14h ago

And he was. He just wasn't good-looking enough for the amount of goof so now he's getting ridiculed online instead. Many people in this thread are evil.

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u/_Danizzy_ 12h ago

Jesus Christ, don't you realize how dumb you look when you jump to "it's because he's not good looking" when we can't even see the guy's face? He might be super handsome. OP matched with him so it wasn't a problem before.

Why is it so hard to accept that making a pig face at a woman you want to date is a terrible fucking idea?

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u/graelmakar-sune 12h ago

Maybe he's looking for someone who would enjiy that type of opener? I'm not saying it's a good idea, but it's not ground for absolutely slandering him online, is it?

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u/Gemmles_is_gem 14h ago

That's quite the assumption, this seems personal for you. There's no way to know is he's truly unattractive, but his choice of photo was. Get over yourself. šŸ˜®ā€šŸ’Ø

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u/Albino_Neutrino 13h ago

That's quite the assumption, this seems personal for you.

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u/Gemmles_is_gem 13h ago

Wow, original šŸ‘ nice try 🤔

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u/Albino_Neutrino 13h ago

Are you denying that the statement of his pic being unattractive is subjective? Not everyone here agrees with you and OP. For the record, either opinion is fine.

Also - how do we do this? Are we supposed to take the most uncharitable interpretation of your response, i.e. that you're calling me a clown over... nothing much, really? It says more about you than it says about me, just so you know.

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u/Gemmles_is_gem 13h ago

Wow, the behavior is unattractive, I never said anything about his appearance considering his face is scribbled out. You just assumed I was talking about his face? That's quite the assumption āœØļø

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u/Albino_Neutrino 13h ago

I never claimed you said his face was unattractive, read again, it's plain for all to see. You claimed his choice of pic was unattractive, which I shortened to his pic (that he chose, ergo his choice of pic...) assuming you'd implicitly understand what is clearly redundant. Guess I'll have to type it all out from now on.

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u/graelmakar-sune 14h ago

Yeah it is personal. I despise you assholes acting like you're better than some poor dude just shooting his shot.

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u/OvercookedBobaTea 12h ago

This is a horrific way of shooting your shot lol

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u/Gemmles_is_gem 13h ago

If you're going to shoot your shot in a place where you have limited opportunities, do it right. Maybe you need to work on yourself instead of taking it out on people for not liking your approach. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

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u/graelmakar-sune 13h ago

The fact that you don't see the problem with that comment is actually absurd. It's not the pwn you think it is.

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u/Gemmles_is_gem 13h ago

Sure buddy. I'm not the one pointing fingers at randos calling them evil just because they don't find your behavior appealing. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

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u/graelmakar-sune 13h ago

You're actually doubling down, trying to make me feel bad by grouping me with the guy to illicit a reaction.. Project your pain elsewhere - I'm sorry someone hurt you

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u/Gemmles_is_gem 13h ago

I'm fine, but you seem very hurt with all the accusations and name calling. I hope you can feel better some day. Good day šŸ¤™

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u/graelmakar-sune 13h ago

Projection again! You will see the light one day.

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u/SyrianArmpit 11h ago

I mean, regardless of the two of you’s exchange, thats exactly what the majority of people in this comment section are doing.

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u/Albino_Neutrino 13h ago

I stand behind this sans the name-calling.

People on Reddit really like acting all enlightened about how the world works and doesn't only to become really uncharitable and judgemental when it comes to others acting slightly weird-ish in specific situations. You don't have to like everything other people do, but assuming the worst when someone deviates from the norm is... well, uncharitable and judgemental.

For the record, if a woman sent me something like this I'd find it rather funny and engaging - much better than the "hi"s, the "wbu"s or the ghosting.

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u/Gemmles_is_gem 13h ago

If it a appeals to you, that's fine. But it doenst mean it does to everyone. It clearly didnt for OP šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

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u/Albino_Neutrino 13h ago

I haven't claimed everyone has to like it. I'm saying people should stop projecting their worst fears and moral judgements onto small-ish behaviours which they are of course entitled to dislike. I thought this much was clear.

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u/graelmakar-sune 13h ago

Thanks for calling me out on the name-calling; lost my cool after trying to be civil and just getting absolutely bashed on by immature people

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u/Albino_Neutrino 13h ago

No problem and don't beat yourself over it. It can happen to everyone (and it has happened to me). Let's all just strive to become better versions of ourselves, that's all. Have a good day!

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u/graelmakar-sune 13h ago

You're one of the good ones. Have a good day

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u/rydan 11h ago

We can't even tell since OP conveniently masked his face.

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u/sackfistin 16h ago

God it must suck to date at 40

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u/Deathrattlesnake 15h ago

It sucks to date at any age :(

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u/KrisOTS 16h ago

And some people just need to relax and take the broomstick out of their asses.

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u/milfdestroyer69420x 15h ago

That's how some of us clean up there man don't judge

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u/ObviousSalamandar 14h ago

Yeah I’m not impressed but I’d be willing to chat at least. I like goofy men

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u/SyrianArmpit 11h ago

Idk why you’re getting downvoted - as a goofy guy this is the best and exact response I’d expect

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u/ObviousSalamandar 11h ago

I do believe that it is important to present your best self when dating, but some things just indicate this is not your person lol. Pig nose is definitely not OP’s person!

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u/SyrianArmpit 11h ago

Yup, and I don’t understand why that would upset or anger someone, like its just not meant to be

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u/kaskoosek 16h ago

Lol that's funny.

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u/Will0JP 13h ago

It's possible he's got an odd sense of humor and is looking for someone to send him a silly picture back, hoping to start a silly-pic dialogue and make a connection that way.

It's an unusual (and risky) approach, but maybe it's worked for him before.

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u/BlindBard16isabitch 10h ago

I would have just typed "ugly" and left it lmfao

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u/Overwhelmed_Catty 15h ago

would work on me ngl. Shows personality 😭

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u/SyrianArmpit 11h ago

Everyone up in arms about it when they aren’t the target audience, people like you are :P

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u/skabeel 11h ago

It's weird how angry everyone is about it šŸ˜‚ but I guess not weird cause it's reddit. But damn they're acting like he sent CP or a dick pic or something abhorrent

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u/East-Celebration626 11h ago

Why does he remind of Scott the Woz?? 🤣

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u/BornInWinter1973 6h ago

Is this a dating app for local people?

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u/Defiant_Client1634 4h ago

I don't understand why we're shaming these people online. Weird sure, but he's trying to be unique and stand out above the crowd of desperate men that these dating apps have been flooded with. Who cares? If you don't like it, move on. No need to blast him like this on social media.

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u/Randomsicilianguy 16h ago

Maybe he's just trying to be fun in his own way. Also, you can be the one writing the first message and create an interesting environment.

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u/throwawayanylogic 15h ago

By basically suggesting OP is a pig?!

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u/Randomsicilianguy 15h ago

Or maybe he's just trying to joke doing what he thinks is a funny face. You know, sometimes people joke in a silly way.

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u/kaskoosek 16h ago

I agree.

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u/graelmakar-sune 14h ago

He uses this opener yet you seem to be the immature one between you two.

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u/LonginForNostlagia 15h ago

I’ve done this as a woman…lol šŸ˜‚I think goofy is attractive.

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u/2akshay 14h ago

It's definitely different but not at all in poor taste... people are just harsh. I Know for a fact OP puts 'communication and consistency' in their bio

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u/LonginForNostlagia 14h ago

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u/SyrianArmpit 11h ago

Seeing the downvoted comments and the super high up ones literally just shows anyone that wants to look what the issue is. I find it particularly interesting how it’s framed as his loss, etc. when this seems to be a good test to weed out people that lack whimsy and silliness - which is something I at least find most attractive. You don’t need to shit on people because they’re different - we’re all human and trying to make the best of life :)

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u/skabeel 11h ago

I don't get what's so bad an it lol a little strange but he was probably just trying to be funny. It's not like it was his peen.

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u/dontKair 16h ago

I could tell by that guy's hair, that you should have swiped left on him to begin with

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u/[deleted] 15h ago

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u/dontKair 15h ago

It's giving Neckbeard/goofball vibes

Like Bro goes to Great Clips, or has his Aunt cut his hair

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u/Reddittreefiddy 14h ago

Hey. How was your day?

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u/SugarBeefs 13h ago

you can send pictures on Bumble????

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u/Working_Cucumber_437 11h ago

Ok kind of funny. But there’s no accompanying message so still can’t land.

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u/Few-Fox-2888 8h ago

Yall want men to "be themselves" but then get uset when you run into one who is himself.

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u/ilovebigwomens 14h ago

No doubt a weird opener and I don't recommend this as an opening line, but I suppose it makes sense considering he's probably said "hi insert name. How are you today" and then maybe even a couple of little blurbs to generate the conversation? Probably got nothing. This is a bold new approach and definitely elicited a reaction even if it ended up here lol

Reply back oink for me Piggy... 🤣

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u/Least_Muffin2666 14h ago

Send one back he’s checking if you have the same sense of humourĀ 

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u/Danknoodle420 10h ago edited 10h ago

So many of y'all are so fucking stuck up and legitimately boring if you see this and think this is weird.

It's a dude being playful in his opener with something unique(a playful selfie) and so many of you are up in arms.

It's honestly sad that you can't send an innocent picture without it turning into a game of "what did he really mean".

At least it wasn't a dick Pic or "hi".

Learn to have some fun.

Downvote me, Idc. Hopelessly single fools.

My gf and I love making silly faces to each other. Stay lame.

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u/Aggressive-Freedom83 9h ago

For real though. I don't get how everyone is so pissed at this guy, it's super weird. If you don't like it, unmatch and move on, don't need to blast him on Reddit jfc

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u/Danknoodle420 9h ago edited 7h ago

Seeing some of the hoops some of these people jumped through to justify their hatred of a random man is inane.

A whole lot of "he's doing this or that and it makes him an incel." These people want to point out the dude is being immature, but I'd make a counterpoint saying these people are the ones being immature. A picture is worth a 1000 words and it seems like all these people heard from those words is negativity.

Like, I get it if you're a "serious" person and this turns you off. Just unmatch and move on to the next super cereal person. You'll find your lame eventually. No need to blast a random on the internet because they sent you a silly face.

I shouldn't be surprised though. The amount of garbage from women in my local "spill the tea" group has been rather eye opening.

I wouldn't be surprised if I'm called an incel after my few comments here. It seems to be par for the course.

E: after seeing more of the discourse in this thread I completely understand why many of y'all are still single.

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u/Big-Extension-1513 13h ago

its cringe but idk why people are saying its weird,

whats weird is creating a dating app where woman are suppose to message first, then change it cause women don't want to do that, then complain when you get cringey first messages from socially awkward weirdos, what were you expecting ? a guy who doesn't need to use dating apps to date, to be on the app ?

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u/Actual-Bee-402 7h ago

There’s plenty of normal guys on the apps. Most guys do not open making a pig nose

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u/HartHeadTony 15h ago

To anyone who gives the dating advice "just be yourself", try to recall the reactions this guy gets here.

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u/Full-Raise-4707 10h ago

better post him online immediately then.

This fucking generation

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u/Dan-tastico 10h ago

Whats on your profile, maybe hes responding to something on there

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u/itzNazo 14h ago

Still better than ā€œhiā€.

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u/flyeaglesfly510 16h ago

You're the weird one lady...

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u/Crunchy_OG 16h ago

Please unmatch with him so he can dodge a bullet (you)

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u/Initial_Ad_9857 13h ago

Well if a girl did it it would be nice

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u/AccomplishedRatio960 15h ago

Or maybe you're quite boring

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u/Exotic_Banana9016 10h ago

Not your cup of tea, I'd send another and a way better weird face.

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u/Badluckwithlove 16h ago

What’s weird about it? He’s trying to break the ice

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u/throwawayanylogic 15h ago

By calling OP a pig?

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u/graelmakar-sune 14h ago

No, by making a funny face. Not everything is done with ill intent

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u/AdEuphoric422 13h ago

You are either disingenuous or have the IQ of a pulp if you genuinely believe that gesture on a dating app to a woman you’ve never talked to before isn’t rude

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u/graelmakar-sune 13h ago

Looks like you need some love and reassurance in your life. It will come, inshallah!

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u/Inevitable_Archer827 16h ago

You are boring and soulless. He has a specific type of vibe. No need to post it online. If you don't match, move on. If you want to have a conversation with him, try to reply with something funny. It's that simple.

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u/Atmosphere_Master 16h ago

You were a mean girl in high school weren't you?