Hey everyone! I'm new to this sub and I need some advice.
My cat, Nigel (2yo male), has struggled being too aggressive with my roommate's three cats. They have two 4yo twins (male and female) and a 1yo kitten (male) and we've been living with each other for a little over a month. Nigel and the 1yo play quite a bit and are sort of rough with each other every now and then, but Nigel and the 4yo male struggle to get along at all.
(The 4yo girl just doesn't leave my roommate's room anymore because she hates Nigel's scent so much and actually hisses at her brother and the kitten when they have been around Nigel).
My roommates and I have sat down and tried to figure this out because it's not fair that the three cats should be shut in the master bedroom at all hours of the day, especially when there is enough space for them. We've tried separating them and keeping Nigel in my bathroom at night with his food, water, litter and his bed, but he'll cry for a long time trying to get out. I'm worried that he feels abandoned because he sleeps on my bed every night, but I can't keep his litter box in my room because of the carpet.
Edit to add: All four cats are spayed/neutered and have been since way before we all moved in together.
Nigel can be a bit aggressive when it comes to playtime with the 1yo, but we try to supervise when we can. When it comes to the 4yo, they get really loud and aggressive with each other. My roommate is rightfully cautious because she found a scratch near the 4yo's eye, but from what I can tell they're just trying to hash things out? My other roommate doesn't want the kitten to pick up Nigel's habits either, which I guess I understand.
All this to say, I really want all of this to work out because I love my roommates, I love all of our cats, but I don't know how to have my cat calm down and have them all get along. I really want to do right by everyone, but I don't know how.
Any advice would be so appreciated. I'm so tired and exhausted trying to figure this out.