There has been a lot of discourse on this topic of late, and not unwarrantedly so. As a merriment haver at my local faire for many a year, I wanted to reflect the sentiment of my fellow constabularies and provide a guide to the art for all who may be new to this wonderful hobby. Below is a set of rules/guidelines to follow that may help shift this meaningful tradition back to its roots of promoting positive social interaction and away from the commodification it’s headed toward. Even the original name of this act, “giving favor,” has changed to reflect the current sentiment.
By no means is this a hard-and-fast guide that is exhaustive. If I’ve missed something others feel is important or you disagree with any of these rules, please comment below and help make this a resource for all. I will add rules to the main post if they are favorable to the masses, credit will also be given to those that contribute.
**Rules to Follow:**
**1. Follow all of your local faire’s rules on this topic.**
**Some locations prohibit the act in its entirety.**
**2. The favors you give out should not be of significant, or even moderate, monetary value.**
They should mean something to you, your character, or the person you give them to. The crafters at these events spend their lives honing their craft to make it to these faires and sell to you. Giving away free stuff can take business away from them.
**3. The giving of a favor is about the act, not the item.**
The connection you make with the person you give your favor to is what’s important and what makes the experience memorable and meaningful. If, three years from now, that person finds your favor and can remember who gifted it to them, you’ve done it right.
**4. Thematic and handcrafted favors are king, and remember, this is the time of kings, so they carry power.**
Again, if your favor has some tie back to you or the moment it was given, it will mean more to those who receive it. *(Bonus points if your favor can be worn in any way!)*
**5. If you possess no skill in a craft but would still like to take part in the tradition, do not fret. You have two equally good options:**
A. Compliments are currency of the heart, and trading in kindness is equally, if not more, valuable than items. Compliment someone’s costume and watch them light up. There is nothing better!
B. Purchase something to gift to others. Be intentional with this and do your best to be thematic. *Remember Rule #2 when choosing this option.*
**6.** **Never expect to be rewarded for giving someone favor, or for getting one in return.**
This interaction is not a transaction, nor should it be done to gain clout of any variety.
**7. Scarcity fosters value. If everyone receives your favor, then no one truly possesses it.**
Only bring a few items to gift as favors. Your pocket full of tiny plastic ducks is cute, but unless you’re a duck necromancer, a duck druid, or Queen Duck herself, your minions are likely to end up in the ocean or a landfill with no memory attached to them. That is the antithesis of the act as a whole.
**8. Respect others.**
If you wish to give favor to someone and they refuse, do not force it on them or take it personally. Pocket space is often limited.
**9. You cannot give someone else’s favor, nor should you ask someone to give another’s.**
If you have run out of your own to give, *remember Rule 5B.* Kindness is free and almost always welcome by all.
**10. Favors are never asked for, only willfully given.**
*(This is not entirely true in the historical sense, but hear me out.)* If you see someone gifting favor to another, do not ask for one yourself.