Oppression and double standards are built deeply into the fabric of this society

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[u/Telamo]

Personally, my unsolicited opinion is that an open relationship can totally work as long as both people are on the same page more or less from the beginning. It can’t just be something that one person in the relationship decides they want while the other person isn’t ready for it. In that case, you should probably stop seeing each other.

I believe the exact same thing is true for getting married.

[u/rattlenroll → u/Telamo]

Yep, the term I've heard for that is "poly under duress".

[u/Argovan → u/Telamo]

I think there’s middle ground here, where there can be a mutual decision to open but not right in the beginning of a relationship. But I definitely agree it must be mutually desired, not just accepted to keep the peace.

[u/Eeeef_]

The open relationships that don’t go well are the ones where one partner is way more into it than the other. Honestly that’s kind of a similar pattern to marriage.

I think part of the stigma about open relationships and why people always think about them not going well is that there’s more potential for a more dramatic failure of the relationship. The nature of involving more people in something is that if it blows up it blows up bigger. I think people also mix up open relationships and polycules with the phenomenon of an unhappy couple looking for a third in an attempt to save their marriage which usually doesn’t end well either for the couple or the third

[u/MoneyParticular]

All intimate relationships are fraught with perile. Marriage is a lot harder to get out of though

[u/Only_Lecture4920]

alt-text: An image of a tumblr post of a comic by PolyamZeal on oct 31 2023. It features two panels of two feminine people talking. The first has black curly hair, tan skin, and a tan shirt. The other has pink hair, lighter skin, and a purple sweater. The background is purple. The first pane has the first person talking saying "my partner and I are in an open relationship now" with the other person saying "oh I see, I know many couples who do that and it didn't go well..." The next panel is similar the first but with dense markings on the background and the first person looking angry. The second person starts with "my boyfriend and I are getting married!" While the first person says "oh I see. I know many couples who did that and it didn't go well..."

[u/StoniMohoni → u/Only_Lecture4920]

Huh, never seen anyone do this, very cool of you!

[u/Argovan → u/StoniMohoni]

It’s pretty much standard in the sub this is crossposted from!

[u/PeachFreezer1312 → u/[deleted]]

This is a meme from leftist to leftist. This is not facing the common worker. You are stifling discussion on social topics among leftists.

[u/Shadow_on_the_Sun]

I just don’t care. People do what they want. Not everything is everyone’s cup of tea. That’s fine. Fuck who you want (consensually), have whatever kind of sex you want, as long as there’s good communication, consent, and everyone’s respectful, who cares?

[u/RadiantGene8901]

Using that line.