r/ExNoContact 17h ago

Help Will this help in the long run?

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u/Brynhildr16 17h ago

Cons list might help, but pros list destroyed me personally. Having to go through all the good just made me forgot about the bad. I think focusing on the bad is important not to idealise the other person. Not make them the villain, just realise they weren't perfect.

This list with both options is actually better way if you are tempted to break up to find things to keep trying.

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u/First_Beautiful3700 16h ago

this is post breakup as a dumpee

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u/Brynhildr16 16h ago

So in that case I would advise you not to. As mentioned, having to go through all the good and the happy moments actually made me suffer more. Just do the "cons".

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u/First_Beautiful3700 16h ago

will it help to ? i think so as its all i can think for two months