Friday Free Chat

[u/DirkDongus]

Any plans for the weekend?

I'm so glad this God forsaken week is almost over. I got laundry done after work so I'll just be going grocery shopping for the weekend. Thinking of making a pot of spaghetti and using the leftover veggies I have for a salad. Picked up this ultra delicious Dill Pickle Ranch dressing. It's so freaking yummy.

Just got done playing those classic WWE games on GameCube. WrestleMania 19 is so much fun. Had a blast playing a Tornado Tag Team match in a Hell In A Cell. Trish Stratus(me) and HBK vs Goldberg and Scott Steiner. It was freaking fun. Those WWE games have such great memories.

I'm thinking about checking out a festival after work tomorrow. The only thing that sucks is it's about 10 miles away so I gotta keep track of time cause I don't want to miss the last bus and be stranded.

[u/finanon99]

No plans. Had a shitty week and I'm considering going back to therapy. Tried to exercise and hurt my back which is giving me considerable anxiety.

[u/Objective_Bowl_3550 → u/finanon99]

Have you had multiple therapists over the years? What is the most useful part when it works? I have a good online social life but am very isolated in terms of in-person socialising. Last time I got counselling over video I really appreciated the 50 minutes of time and attention purely about me, talking to someone with no vested interest the way a friend might, and knowing that the things I confided wouldn't be fodder for gossip the way confiding in a friend can be risky. On the downside, with my depression I found it hard putting the good advice into practice and making actual behavioural changes. I knew what to do but couldn't get myself to do it. So it had a lot of emotional value in terms of feeling supported during the 50 minutes, maybe it worth it just for that, but I was frustrated with myself for not following the advice.

[u/finanon99 → u/Objective_Bowl_3550]

I had one therapist which was a lady about the age of my mother. She couldn't comprehend that no woman had paid attention to me ever (turns out she was right, there were a few but I missed the signals)

Anyway, I would look for a local therapist unless you live in a remote area, the idea of having a therapy session over zoom sounds awful to me, I have zoom calls for work all the time.

[u/bannedovernothing → u/finanon99]

Can confirm; I had psychology sessions over the phone and it was useless.

[u/ICQME → u/finanon99]

are you sure you missed the signals? Sometimes I thought I might've received 'signals' and when I asked them out or flirted they rejected me. I'm skeptical about signals.

[u/finanon99 → u/ICQME]

I'm talking few and far between. I basically told my therapist that no woman ever showed any interest in me and she couldn't believe that to be true.

Months, even years later I started recalling events from the past that were pretty obvious. I regret not taking those chances obviously.

[u/throwaway54734]

might go see my ~2 month old niece, who's not the most vibrant company yet, but cute as heck. otherwise nothing too exciting - cook, lift, the usual. finally finished Expedition 33 (aight, but way overhyped), probably gonna start some new game after I stare down my Steam library paralyzed by options for a few hours. also saw The Odyssey the other day - as an analog photography geek the 70mm IMAX print was lovely indeed, but the film itself didn't captivate me as much as I hoped. Nolan needs to hire someone to punch up his scripts, the man cannot write dialogue to save his life... not a new problem with his films, but wasn't quite enough here to make up for it for my taste.

also probably going to plan/book a vacation somewhere, need to burn some PTO. if anyone has ideas for cool places to go in September somewhere on this planet, lemme know.

[u/TechnologyBeautiful → u/throwaway54734]

I like Hawaii. I usually go once a year. September is a great time to go since it's the slower season so things are a bit cheaper. 

[u/fingerberrywallace]

I used to play SmackDown: Here Comes the Pain (on PS2) as a kid. I remember climbing the fist on the stage and brawling in the shower area. Good times.

[u/DirkDongus → u/fingerberrywallace]

That game is a classic. I remember brawling in times square , jumping from helicopters, and having snowball fights in that game.

Goldberg, Brock Lesnar, and the Road Warriors were so strong and impossible to beat. I used to have no dq handicap matches as Victoria( my teenage crush. Yeah I preferred her over Stacy Keibler) vs Brock and Goldberg. Matches were insane. I think I won like twice.

[u/SisterLoli]

No plans. No progress either.

Nothing good as happened. I am still here. Still struggling to gather the energy to take steps outside every day. Shoulders feel so heavy. With every exhale I feel tremendous weight on my chest.

I have had thoughts. Thoughts to take small steps. To send some enquiries.

What is the point though? To better myself? To improve my life? Every time I have taken steps I fail.

Small steps. Maybe this time will be different. Say it enough times to convince myself to try again.

Maybe this time will be different.

Maybe this time will be different.

Maybe this time will be different.

[u/Objective_Bowl_3550]

It's good you are keeping on top of laundry, a lot of bachelors don't. One of the things I like about hotel stays in the feeling of clean crisp bed linen.

Good you can cook somewhat too, it doesn't need to be fancy but it beats Muccy D's.

[u/bendsy → u/Objective_Bowl_3550]

Laundry is the worst for me. I get right up to the end, fold all of my clothes right out of the dryer, and then… I just can’t bring myself to put them away? I’ll do most other chores without fuss but god forbid I open a drawer.

[u/jsjip]

Not much is happening. I'm making an attempt at writing a journal to collect my thoughts, I'm reading a bit more lately, and I've also been to the gym a few times. Haven't had a beer for almost two weeks which is good because I drank far too many over the last few months.

[u/SoundTheReveille]

Its spring here so I think I will go to the nursery and get some new plants to replace last years annuals. Maybe I will try strawberries again too, just need to water them less this time.

[u/ICQME]

I'm going to mow the lawn and maybe go for a bike ride but not sure. After a while everything feels boring and I just nap after chores are done until it's time to go back to work.

[u/SportsGamer357]

Buffalo Bisons are having "Theatre Night" tonight in honor of the 100th anniversary of a local theater so hoping the team's mascot dresses in either a top hat and tuxedo or as Phantom of the Opera 🤣⚾🧸

[u/DevelopmentPrior5572]

You sound so... Normal and well-adjusted.

I'm genuinely jealous.

[u/d-loner]

In people's own experiences but also observations of regular people around them like family and work colleagues, how well does that line of "you can't change <blah> any more so stop worrying about it", or thinking, or obsessing, ... (you get the idea) work?

I mean sure I get the basic jist of it, but in my book I certainly cannot let go of 20+ years of adult life and a wasted youth that is permanently gone literally we only live each time period once.