I think I want to stop working or at least drastically slow down. I love what I do but I work too much and have a hard time saying no to interesting work - I’m freelance and am offered more work than I can realistically do. And it’s hard on me physically (a lot of time on trains and on a sofabed when working in London, and on planes as well).
I know by many standards we are very well off, but I want a friction free retirement. Until we moved back to the UK we always had to scrimp in order to save. I’m happy we did but I’m done scrimping!! And I don’t know that we are there yet to allow that. I can’t figure out what calculations I need to run to establish when I can stop.
Current circs:
Couple -
61F working freelance and earning about £160-260k per year if I want. I am guessing £190k for the current tax year based on what I’ve accepted so far (I worked too much in 2025).
67M - stay at home dad since age 50. Would love me to be home more, but quite likes the freedom to pursue his hobbies that my income brings.
Assets.
House: £340k, with £165k outstanding on mortgage (taken out at 2.19%, which ends July 27 and I would prefer just to pay off at that point, given that rates are not likely to be that good). We bought a house that made work optional. And we’re perfectly happy in it.
Brokerage c. £800k. Don’t think any is in an ISA simply because we are also US taxpayers and ISAs are not recognized and are taxable.
U.S. IRA (pension pot) Mine c. £1.15M. Husbands c. £80k. Treated the same as UK pension pots for tax purposes. Except no lump sum withdrawal.
Pensions: husband currently drawing £1250 monthly in US state pension
Me - I will receive two years short of UK state pension at 67 (£225 a week ish). And £3000pcm US state pension if I wait to 70 (in today’s money). Or about £2300 if I take it at 67. I could take it next year but the discount is unacceptable. I’m healthy so plan to wait till 70 unless something changes.
Between US and UK pensions, we will have a chunk of our retirement income covered. But the benefits die with us so we need to be prepared for when there’s only one of us left.
UK SIPP recently opened. Currently at £190k. Expect to be at £300k plus growth by 27/28. Can’t take the 25% lump sum until such time as I have sufficient tax credits to offset US taxes due on that lump sum. Being able to withdraw £75k tax free to pay almost half of the mortgage balance appeals as an idea, but it may be a couple of years away. Otherwise I’ll have to cash out stocks.
Other income: when my mother (85 and in poor health) dies I will receive an income of about £12k per annum from a trust. I’m also slated to inherit capital but think it might make more sense to decline and have it go straight to my son - hate to give HMRC two bites at that money.
Future goals:
we want to travel a lot. We are already part way there with at least two family holidays a year but time is the challenge while I’m still working.
We’d like to be sure that our son receives at least £800k net (assuming it doesn’t get eaten in care costs) after all taxes are paid when we’re both gone. We can partially accomplish this by handing him excess income (as we have started to do).
We have done almost all major work to the house. We’ll need a new boiler, windows, and doors in the next year or two but then it should be very low maintenance.
Our car is low mileage and only 4 years old. We might need to buy one more before we stop driving. But maybe not as it’s a Volvo.
We would like an income of £70k net. This covers all living costs plus travel assuming no mortgage.
I am struggling with how to exit work. Not sure I want to entirely. But what income level makes the most sense? What would get us to our goals? Can I just stop at the end of my existing commitments? I really haven’t figured out what calculations I need to run…given my high income level the last three years, my goals for retirement have shifted. I now see the option to have a friction free retirement that didn’t really feel possible three years ago.
Sorry for the length of this!! Any advice on where we stand, and ideas for managing our goals would be greatly appreciated.