Last year I posted on r/Sweden about our alcoholic neighbour. The vast majority advised me to go to the police, but that’s not a step I take lightly. I’ve now finally gotten to the point where I want to file a police report, but hubs doesn’t agree. He thinks things aren’t severe enough. Can you please advise us?
Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/sweden/comments/1lp4eh4/alcoholic_neighbour/
Update then - now:
In July 2025, we attempted to resolve the situation locally by reaching out to the chairman and former chairman of the association where both I, hubs and our neighbour volunteer. The chairmen agreed his behaviour was unacceptable and held a stern meeting with him.
Our neighbour promised the chairmen that he would stop, but subsequently called us very angrily on the phone and shouted at us. Still, things were quiet for a short while, but then the harassments resumed.
Whenever anyone steps outside into our garden, he instantly starts making noise (power tools, hammering, loud radio) to let us know that he is watching us.
After we installed privacy screening along our fence, he began cutting down trees and bushes on the property line specifically to regain a better line of sight into our garden.
He has started leaving passive-aggressive comments on the association’s FB posts and emails.I have blocked him on my personal FB account, but I do emails and social media posts for the association, and our neighbour knows that. So he’s now placing passive-aggressive comments there.
His driving continues to worry us. He lives about 30-40 meters from our house, and when he drives home he has to cross a bridge that’s in a sharp bend, and then pass by our house. He almost always accelerates aggressively as soon as he’s on the bridge, passing our house at full speed and then needing to slam on his brakes to be able to stop at his house.
December, we were walking the dogs (y’know, Swedish winter so all almost unrecognizably wrapped in). When he saw that there were people on the road he slowed down to almost a halt. Until he saw that it was us, and he then floored the accelerator and drove by so fast his trailer rattled.
Thing is, we don’t know if he’s drunk when he drives like that. He could be doing this ‘just’ to harass us. Which is bad enough. But the thought that he could be drunk and some day decide to do even more stupid stuff while in his car is horrifying.
Meanwhile, when he thinks we aren’t home, he drives past excessively slowly while peering directly into our house/garden.
This whole situation has impacted our daily lives/well-being. It causes constant anxiety/stress, even nightmares. I am mostly staying indoors, not enjoying our garden anymore. I no longer feel safe walking along our gravel road.
I have a small business at home: a sensory garden aimed mainly at people with intellectual disabilities. Due to personal reasons, I am having a break during 2026. The idea was to reopen in 2027.
But honestly? I don’t see it happening. A lot of work needs to be done in the garden before reopening. He will constantly be letting me know that he sees me. And then, when I’m open again, his actions might cause my visitors to feel unsafe. A lot of them are stimuli sensitive. Our neighbour is so set on being hostile and making our lives miserable that I don’t think he cares about my visitors.
Do we have any legal grounds to file a police report? Or do we need to wait until something worse happens?
Oh, I’m keeping a document where I write down everything that happens, put pics etc. Unfortunately, we have no proof on camera of his reckless driving.
One day, he accelerated hard on the bridge when my husband was by our roadside containers, speeding up further upon seeing him, before having to slam on his brakes to stop before his house. Our front door camera (at the side of the house) doesn’t show the bridge or front of our house and has no sound. On the footage he had already braked and the situation looks innocent.
We are not allowed to film the road specifically, so installing more cameras doesn’t seem to be an option.
I’m thinking of having my phone on standby to able to start recording in an instance so that I might feel safer going on walks on the gravel road. My mental health hasn’t been all that great and going on walks would really do me good, but right now the thought of possibly encountering him causes me stress. Any tips for that? Is there a way to have my (Android) phone start recording in the blink of an eye, without me having to fumble my way to its camera?
Any advice you might have will be much appreciated.