r/LegalAdviceIndia • u/Street-Scar3341 • 15h ago
Legal Advice Needed Got physically assaulted by wife and in-laws in Bangalore
Hi guys, sharing a really painful 1.5 year long story of my marriage. Will try to keep it very concise.
Got married early last year. From the start itself, there were a lot of arguments as she was mostly driven by what her parents and friends were saying. And they rarely said anything good despite not knowing the full picture. She used to call me bhikari on multiple occasions because I don't have a house or a car (which she knew before marriage) and she hated cabs/auto and can fight full day for not sitting it in. But still there were some good things.
But things kept going down the hill pretty fast. I am quite attached to my mom. So either she used to visit or either I used to take her to my hometown a bit frequently. On her second visit, she asked her to leave as that disturbs our privacy. She said she is okay with me visiting my parents. So we complied. After 2 months of staying here, I used to go for around 3 weeks to my hometown. Now that might seem a lot to some folks, but I truly want to be with and take care of aging parents. For this reason, I never went to US for job though I had plenty of options.
When I went for these 3 weeks last year, she was ridiculing, humiliating, abusing me the entire time. Even blamed something so disgustful as incest. Called me bhikari, ra*ist, impotent, dowry seeker, greedy, etc. and every bad thing you can think of. Even faked pregnancy to traumatize me. She was okay with me going for 2 weeks, so I started going to my hometown for 1.5 weeks after a month. She still had lots of problems with that.
I though things would improve slowly when I return. It did a very little bit, but arguments above finance splitting, going home, my sleep problem (which I don't have actually, she just happened to see my 6 yo report where I went to a psychologist for sleep medicine due to stress, falsely assuming medicines have been continuing since then) were rampant. She won't mind humiliating me at a public place.
I kept thinking things would improve. Stupid me. Or I was just avoiding/delaying the problem of court cases, possible alimony, fake cases, miserable life for years, etc. This was also miserable but thought is less miserable than that, and it might improve over time.
This time I went, she was initially talking okay, no connection or love but just okayish arguing as usual. For instance, picking a call 1 hour after she called is a big issue, but she might ignore my call for 6+ hours for work, and I should be perfectly fine with it. But later during my visit, I caught dengue, and had fever for long and weakness for longer, so I had to stay back for longer. In the last one week, she started asking me to leave the place and find a new house. Btw, this house is rented, and we mostly pay half of everything (2 times I paid full). She regularly fought with me for splitting with her and not paying entirely by myself (I find it odd since she earns equal or more than me). But later during the stay, first she dissappeared for 2 days without any response (I used to call her everyday), and then started asking me to leave. I said why should I only leave when I searched and setup most of it. Ideally we both should leave as the rent agreement is also on both our names. Reason she was giving was she didn't want to stay with me, and felt unsafe, which is weird again as I never hurt her even after her saying such things.
Later when I came back she stayed for 2 days without talking much. She then went to her homeplace (in bangalore only) for rakhi, and returned yesterday on Monday.
As soon as I entered into my room, her parents appeared initially asking to talk normally. When I said they shouldn't stay here as they were arguing, her father started yelling like anything and pushing and beating me up. Later she and her mother also joined in hitting me on the head repeatedly. I was crying with pain, but they still continued. They took my phone and also broke it entirely, so I couldn't call anyone. Blocked me in a room so that I don't get out. When I tried to, her father wrapped his arms around my neck very tightly and didn't leave for quite sometime. It was paining like hell and causing me shortness of breath still. Her father also was planning to hit me with a wiper but later stopped. Later they called police trying to make sure they complain first about me, and made me say everything is good in front of them. Police did scold me a bit, but didn't do much and left, even took my side on occassions. After that, I was allowed/forced to leave my house. I left and came to a temporary PG with nowhere to go.
They were scared that I will file an FIR, so they asked me multiple times if I plan to file a complain. They even offered no alimony, no FIR, no problem if I also don't file FIR. My parents later called them as they were angry, so they might have thought an FIR is going to happen. Not sure.
Anyway, I went to the hospital to get myself checked up, sighting physical assault as the reason, so there is a police record. Police called me to take my statement, and wanted to know if I want to file a complaint. I said I will decide after consulting my lawyer.
I am writing this to ask you guys on what path should I follow now? I will go to doctor today again for additional CT scans/tests, if nothing comes out, should I drop the plan of FIR, and use this to get a clean exit? Or should hold them accountable for all the hell they have put me through the years through this incident? Really appreaciate any guidance here. Thank you so much in advance!