Hello everyone I’m a 18 going to be 19 in a couple of months ( pls excuse my poor grammar and English before reading this)

How do I stop thinking about sex
All I keep thinking about is sex and to the point where it’s affecting my studies, for example I’ll suddenly find myself drifting off thinking about it while I’m studying.

The moment I wake up I start thinking about scenarios about it. I think it’s mainly due to me being exposed to pornography early on in life (7-9ish) and

how do I release myself from constantly thinking about it. And sometimes I would just try to distract myself from thinking about it but it’s all I think about. But I feel so dirty afterwards from thinking about it

I feel so frustrated from this whole situation is there something wrong with my mind?

I’m wondering, those who relapse, does the thought come across your mind:

“If I do x or engage in y behaviour there is a high likelihood that I might relapse” and then you decide it’s not worth it and then actively decide to ensure you don’t do that

Or do you have that thought and then somehow convince yourself you can resist or that it won’t happen this time… but deep down inside you know it will and still decide to anyways and then with the blink of an eye your back at day 0

for me I know a prime time of weakness is at night just before I go bed I like to just have a scroll through YouTube.

It’s one of those things where after a long, hard and difficult day I just like to tuck in and fully relax. But I also know that for me this is the prime context where a relapse can happen.

Triggers aren’t always the things you may see but they’re often times the actions, context and environment where the relapse happens.

But I really struggle to give up my phone scrolling before bed. I don’t do it at night intending to relapse or even wanting to relapse but I convince myself that I can just have a scroll till I’m tired and then go sleep

Honestly I think the hardest times are when your home alone. When you are alone with nothing but your thoughts.

I guess it should be said, yes I’m a revert to Islam. I struggled with this for so many years even before I became Muslim.

I want to improve myself, to learn more about who I am, and who I’m meant to be.

I think each of has struggles, and no 2 people have exactly the same urges or desires, for some of you this may be as simple as saying no, and for others it may be as hard as quitting breathing.

If it was meant to be easy then what would be the point.

I think I need to have a group of Muslim friends, somewhere to spend my time and energy. Less scrolling more doing you know?

I know this is probably a silly post, but it helps. Just to… be me, not be consumed by it, to focus on something real, something that makes a difference.

Thank you, all of you, for being here, and for wanting to help those whose bodies betray them.

Barakah Allahu Fik

I am ashamed to admit that I’m 30 and I’m stuck in this vicious masturbation cycle. I wanna get out of it. I realized whenever I’m talking to a potential, I usually get a lot better at self control because I wanna give it effort. So that’s why I’m posting this question. Like anyone close to my shoes?

I’m so ashamed that I’m 30 and I still struggle with this. Feels so embarrassing.

40-Day self purification through salah challenge

The whole premise of this challenge is built around one āyah and its tafsīr:

**Al-'Ankabut - Verse 45**

ٱتْلُ مَآ أُوحِيَ إِلَيْكَ مِنَ ٱلْكِتَٰبِ وَأَقِمِ ٱلصَّلَوٰةَۖ إِنَّ ٱلصَّلَوٰةَ تَنْهَىٰ عَنِ ٱلْفَحْشَآءِ وَٱلْمُنكَرِۗ وَلَذِكْرُ ٱللَّهِ أَكْبَرُۗ وَٱللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ مَا تَصْنَعُونَ

**Sahih International:**
**“Recite, \[O Muḥammad\], what has been revealed to you of the Book and Establish prayer. Indeed, prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing, and the remembrance of Allāh is greater. And Allāh knows that which you do.”**
**— Qur’an 29:45**

Allah tells us that Salah prevents *fahshā’* and *munkar* — indecency, immorality and evil.

We see in the ahadith:
Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه reported that a man came to the Prophet ﷺ and said:
**“This person prays in the night but he steals in the morning!”**
The Prophet ﷺ replied:
**“Verily, prayer should stop him from doing that if what you say is true.”**

*Musnad Ahmad 9778 — graded Sahih by Shu‘ayb al-Arna’ut.*

Ibn Kathir explains this āyah:

**“Prayer includes two things: the first of which is giving up immoral behaviour and evil deeds, i.e. praying regularly enables a person to give up these things.”**

The premise of these 40 days is instead of spending another 40 days only concentrating on **“I need to stop this sin, I need to do another nofap streak”**

we are going to spend 40 days concentrating on **establishing the thing Allah Himself tells us should prevent us from sin: our Salah.**

**A salah perfection streak.**

One of the greatest victories we can give Shaytan is allowing him to make us doubt that Salah will be able to prevent us from sin.

Because if he convinces us of that, he has made us doubt the very promise contained within this āyah.
So for 40 days, **we’re putting the āyah into practice.**

Each of us chooses a Salah goal appropriate to where we currently are.
Maybe yours is:
praying all five prayers every day
praying every Salah on time
praying in congregation
adding your Sunnah prayers
improving your khushūʿ
slowing down and praying properly
becoming more conscious of Allah during Salah
Whatever level you’re at, **choose something and work on establishing your Salah for 40 days.**

Everyone participating: **post your daily performance in the comments.**
Tell us what your Salah goal is and how you did today.
Be honest. The point isn’t to pretend we’re perfect. It’s to hold ourselves accountable and see what happens when we genuinely work on our Salah for 40 days.

I wont take your time alot. I'm ashamed and feel the guilt and its a loop. But I was addicted since 2021. Couldn't resist for more than a day but this time I resisted for over 45 days. Things is Fap is the problem more than bad content for me. I have still avoided bad content for a long time but Fap Is something I'm still trying to control. I need advice from the community. I feel ashamed andI can't work or study properly and this thing has led to me in having a weak Iman (I'm not proud of saying this), The passion for becoming a great muslim day by day seems to vanish just because this sin is in my life and I can't control it. I need help guys.

What is your experience with reciting this surah? i have been stuck in life for a long period, and nothing seems to work for me.i have heard a lot about this surah and its miracles, but i want to know real life experiences.please share

I always make the mistak of this horrible addiction, i hate it so much, i need freedome from it.

The holy book was right when it said that we should not even come close to the zina, also the prophet was right when he said that there is the zina of the eye, the way to beat this addiction to to not enter it from the begining

It's been more than 3 months since I relapsed but today I did this sinful act.

I thought that I had overcome this addiction however from nowhere I got a sudden urge which I couldn't control. Even after praying 5 times a day and making so much dhikr still I couldn't escape this addiction.

Here I only blame myself because I did this sinful act after coming back from Isha prayer. Here I write this post because I want this to be recorded so that in future if I get the same temptation I could come here to seek help.

I don't have any valid points left in me. I feel ashamed of myself. May Allah forgive our sins.

Hi brothers,

Is there a method,treatment or any solutions for someone experiencing homosexual thoughts and addictions, if yes please let me know the solution

Literally get aroused for absolutely no reason some times, feel like I am hitting puberty again at the age of 20. I haven’t done it in a while idk how long cuz I don’t count days but maybe like 10 days max? And I’ve randomly been getting aroused for no reason no trigger nothing just happens? Anyone else have the same thing happen to them?

4 days of no relapse, the urge is there but feeling pretty confident I can make it to at least 6-7 days this time which will be the longest I've gone in a long while. Been keeping myself pretty busy with regular work, movies etc and I feel like keeping myself busy and not giving the time to relapse might be the key, although being busy or occupied all the time might be pretty hard to begin with. Someone suggested the rubber band method in my last post but haven’t tried that yet.

I know It's a regular normal thing for human body and It means that hormones are working just fine

But what's tge right act after that feeling coming along

Like in the addiction days process would be like that:

- the conversation begins

- holds the phone

- seeking porn

- starting to do it

Now after 2 years clean with 6 slip ups

My brain starts negotiating and prevent me from doing it but THERE IS TWO VOICES

I just want to know what's the right act to do when this urge coming

The whole premise of this challenge is built around one āyah and its tafsīr:

Al-'Ankabut - Verse 45

ٱتْلُ مَآ أُوحِيَ إِلَيْكَ مِنَ ٱلْكِتَٰبِ وَأَقِمِ ٱلصَّلَوٰةَۖ إِنَّ ٱلصَّلَوٰةَ تَنْهَىٰ عَنِ ٱلْفَحْشَآءِ وَٱلْمُنكَرِۗ وَلَذِكْرُ ٱللَّهِ أَكْبَرُۗ وَٱللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ مَا تَصْنَعُونَ

Sahih International:
“Recite, [O Muḥammad], what has been revealed to you of the Book and Establish prayer. Indeed, prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing, and the remembrance of Allāh is greater. And Allāh knows that which you do.”
— Qur’an 29:45

Allah tells us that Salah prevents fahshā’ and munkar — indecency, immorality and evil.

We see in the ahadith:
Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه reported that a man came to the Prophet ﷺ and said:
“This person prays in the night but he steals in the morning!”
The Prophet ﷺ replied:
“Verily, prayer should stop him from doing that if what you say is true.”

Musnad Ahmad 9778 — graded Sahih by Shu‘ayb al-Arna’ut.

Ibn Kathir explains this āyah:

“Prayer includes two things: the first of which is giving up immoral behaviour and evil deeds, i.e. praying regularly enables a person to give up these things.”

The premise of these 40 days is instead of spending another 40 days only concentrating on “I need to stop this sin, I need to do another nofap streak”

we are going to spend 40 days concentrating on establishing the thing Allah Himself tells us should prevent us from sin: our Salah.

A salah perfection streak.

One of the greatest victories we can give Shaytan is allowing him to make us doubt that Salah will be able to prevent us from sin.

Because if he convinces us of that, he has made us doubt the very promise contained within this āyah.
So for 40 days, we’re putting the āyah into practice.

Each of us chooses a Salah goal appropriate to where we currently are.
Maybe yours is:
praying all five prayers every day
praying every Salah on time
praying in congregation
adding your Sunnah prayers
improving your khushūʿ
slowing down and praying properly
becoming more conscious of Allah during Salah
Whatever level you’re at, choose something and work on establishing your Salah for 40 days.

Day 1 Check-In
Everyone participating: post your daily performance in the comments.
Tell us what your Salah goal is and how you did today.
Be honest. The point isn’t to pretend we’re perfect. It’s to hold ourselves accountable and see what happens when we genuinely work on our Salah for 40 days.
I’ll post my own Day 1 performance in the comments too, in shā’ Allāh.
Day 1/40. Bismillah.

Damn I nearly forgot to post. It's nearly midnight - like 16 minutes until Day 8 is completed.

Yeah today I'll be honest, it was almost like I've gotten used to abstaining. Realized I've got bigger problems than not giving in to pleasure 🤣🤣

Alhamdulillah tho. Hope everyday is like this.

Assalamualaikum guys,

I have been addicted to Porn and masturbation, and that has rapidly destroyed my life. I got addicted as a young guy growing up at the age of 13.

I didn't go looking for it. I stumbled upon it. That's where my life took a nosedive.

Now, I am in my 30s, and I have lost the connection with Almighty Allah.

Can't think, don't know what to do with my life. I am unmarried, living in near abject poverty, and also living with my parents.

Everyone sees me as a total failure, which I am. I have failed myself, my lineage, everything.

I have lost my focus. My spark and determination to succeed at something. During solat, I often feel like I have lost the eagerness to pray. I don't feel it anymore. The Almighty has left me to my plight.

I wish I had never discovered porn.

I just relapsed. And honestly I feel like I should just give up. I’ve been trying to get married recently but I’m too scared to start because of this. I’ve told myself that I’ll start looking once I’m 3 months clean. But I can’t even keep clean for 10 days. Marriage is starting to feel impossible to me now. I’m starting to think I should just give up on marriage. At least that way the suffering stays with me.

Does anyone ever feel like this? Has anyone ever been through all of this?

Day 1:

I am not a very practicing Muslim and I know that's bad. Getting rid of this addiction is the top priority issue in my life right now. I will take daily actions however small they may be to get to the point where I am no longer haunted by this sin anymore. The strategy I will follow is to consider this as a marathon and be consistent. Goal for tomorrow is to pray atleast one prayer and avoid doom scrolling too much which seems to be a major trigger these days. If there are any urges during the day, I will play a video game for some time and recite some verses from Quran to keep me going.

I am not a perfect Muslim. I need to spend time on my deen. I feel so far from perfect. I’m a revert, and I hate the way it makes me feel, after doing it… I just… I don’t even know how to describe it, like my body is acting on autopilot, like a haze or a fog overcomes me. It’s like an obsession. I know I have to stop, I want to stop. I just don’t know how. I feel stupid, not even being able to control my own body’s desire. It makes me feel so far away from who I want to be, so far away from Allah. I know if I can’t get past this it’s going to get worse, it’s invasive, and it affects every part of your life. I know I have to face it alone, it’s not something you can exactly share with someone in person. Ya Allah, help me, guide me, protect me from myself, from sinful thoughts, for sinful actions. Bring me closer to you again, please, show me the right path to walk. Muhammad sallahu alahi wa salam was right to fear for this dunya.

Sorry, I just needed to get that out

السلام عليكم I have reached day 10 alhamdullah I wish to continue .

Allah will help inshallah inshallah to reach to the paradise is hard .

Anyone motivate pls motivate me.

Just wanted to vent a little bit after failing once again.
So whoever said that Lust is the final boss, it really is. It just makes me sad at this point that I was taken over by this disgusting evil act at a very young age, like many of our brothers and sisters here and at this time it has warped our reality, and our human physiology.
Ya Allah, I beg for your mercy, I only yearn to be loved, be with someone, feel human again. It’s been too much and the weight of this sin is making my chest hurt, please help me and everyone suffering from this get rid of it, for good. Please Ya Allah, help us

A common advice that’s usually given for overcoming this addiction is to wake up for tahajjud. I wanted to ask if anyone here has truly done the following with istiqamah (steadfastness).

Have you genuinely woken up for tahajjud every day for at least 40+ days in a row without a miss and made dua at tahajjud to be free from this, and that tahajjud is something you are still doing to this day but have still not been able to overcome it despite this?

This is only for someone who has reached 40+ days and is still currently praying daily tahajjud

Also what is the level of khushu of your tahajjud? Is it on the level where you are praying as though you see Allah or that he sees you?

I’m not asking so you can expose your good deeds but I’m asking if tahajjud has solved your issue given you have performed it in the manner as described and with that length of time or longer

so guys i am in a weird problem. i am married and have been on and off porn sometimes for as long as 6 months. but nowadays not more than 30 days.

The reason nowadays the streaks are so low is because of "flatline".

When I leave all the p*rn, and m*stur*ation, i get very weird energy crashes.

In a few days when the horniness period goes away, I stop getting morning wood.
Then stop getting erection on demand. Get very depressed. Looks like testosterone goes down a lot. External meds work but when I am m*sturb*ting,

But when I am masturbating every like 10-20 days I have good energy, wake up with morning wood like atlesat 90% of the time. Can do a lot of sex without worrying about it. And am not depressed.

Is it just in my mind?