Recovery/Remission The post I’ve been wishing to make for years. I consider my self recovered now!
Hello everyone,
First of all this moment was like a dream to me, I would have never imagined to reach this point and get any better, but here we are. I suggest you actually fully read this post, I tried to put my heart into it because I know the pain very well!
PSSD started with me around 8 years ago, I was taking sertonin and sertalin daily for GAD and IBS for around a year. It started with a dead libido and good sexual functions, then turned into dead libido, weak erections, no imagination, and weak orgasm, as well as many other symptoms that I would never know the cause of. PSSD made me extra anxious, and I can seriously say for the first 4-5 years, PSSD has crossed my mind every day a few times, and was a serious cause of depression at many times… making things worse; I couldn’t vent about it to anyone, and to this day no one knows my story and how much I have suffered, and I really wish everyone here truly believes that if I did it then so can you!
So I lived for years and years in this griefing victim mentality, reddit helped to see that I am not a lone, but tbh this subreddit has usually given more negativity than hope. It’s understandable, since pssd can drive us to depression and anger given its nature. Anyways I don’t need to explain to most of you the pain, if you are here you probably are living something similar.
Let’s get to the useful part, my pssd recovery guide is not a simple do this and you will recover, it’s like a package plus a lifestyle, that will help pssd symptoms fade away with time, as well as give you other life wins.
First step to me was accepting; I know it’s hard and it’s not a switch you’ll click, but focusing on other lifestyle factors, staying busy, and actually succeeding in life, apart from the pssd part will help you accept and be more positive about recovery. Overthinking this will only cripple you so start helping yourself.
Second thing for me was the physical health part, which actually is different for everyone. I was always searching for a problem, hoping that treating it would also treat my pssd fully, but it doesn’t exactly work this way. I did find a few health issues along the way. First was varicocele. Many people online claim that it kills their sex drive and erection quality. I have treated it, and still had pssd. Then I focused on physiotherapy and trying to improve my posture and reduce my pelvic tension, also not a switch that will fix all things. Then bloodwork and supplements, same scenario.
All that being said, these things WERE useful. Having pssd means you can’t really afford to lose your performance from many factors. Lets say if my varicocele treatment would enhance my hormones and sexual functions by 5%, then I need that. Learning to relax my pelvic floor would also improve by 5%, I also need that. Basically what I mean is that we can’t afford to lose more performance in addition to pssd. So yes; being healthy, good weight, eating clean, good sleep, no alcohol/smoking, treating deficiencies, cardio, etc. All these factors will pile up and show you a real difference, as well as giving your brain more space to heal (because natural healing is already slow)
Next thing is also related to the previous point. Gut microbiome. Although I had no obvious symptoms, I decided to do an accurate “gram negative” full gut microbiome analysis, and it came back with an obvious dysbiosis. I started a year of treatments including very limited food, no sugar, no dairy and no gluten. I took an antibiotic as well as tried natural antibiotics before that. I am no expert in treating this, but If you test and find out you also have that, you’ll need to do your research, and maybe follow up with someone specified with sibo and similar disease. Months after the protocol, I have been seeing real progress as well. My diet has totally changed since this period of my life, because I educated myself a lot about actual good food.
Another VERY important one was nofap. I don’t claim nf will give you super powers, but for sure the amount of exposure that your brain has been getting for sex and nudity is unreal. The generation is sexual and the way we masturbate not only affect our sensitivity, but also our brain and arousal. Especially for pssd sufferes like my self, I have had the habit of masturbating or watching porn just to “check” things work; which is actually damaging more and giving me more performance anxiety. It’s a loop, and you have to work on breaking it. No nudity, no masturbating, and no porn, morning wood and wet dreams might also come after a very long streak, which would be a sign of healing.
Then comes other things that all fall under healthy living, like maintaining your stress, having sunlight walks, and most importantly prioritizing your sleep. Everything I have said in this post contributes to healing, but none is enough by its own, and don’t expect to do this all and overwhelm yourself, but start a journey. Maybe a note or a journal, set your goals, take it step by step, make it better. Relapse, come back, lose hope, see progress, keep pushing… it’s all very random and never a consistent run. Just keep pushing and things will eventually improve.
For myself, improvement wasn’t always consistent, and a year ago I wasn’t even close to how I am now. Now I get inconsistent morning wood, my erections are hard again, and my ejaculation has regained some power, not the same but better. Libido works differently now, idk it’s still partially affected by pssd or that’s how the mature brain works, but I get aroused when something sexual is happening, but I wouldn’t feel crazy horny out of now where (I was a teenager when I go pssd), so yeah I have no reference, but what I can say is that I can fully enjoy sex now.
I’m sorry if that was super long, but I hope it can change a thing or help some people. PSSD is a terrible thing to have, but I need you to believe in recovery and work towards it. It’s not 0 or 100, you can definitely see progress along the way! And if you do recover, please comeback and tell the community how you did it and your story.
All the best ✌🏼
