I am so picky when it comes to these movies/shows. I need the perfect blend of action + romance. There has to be some high stakes, but also I would like there to be somewhat of a happy ending. I do not like the shows/movies that are depressing the whole time and nihilistic. And the romance has to be EARNED. Also bonus points for a good old fashion damsel in distress. Truly they don’t make these today and it makes me mad. Like, why does every girl gotta be a girlboss? Can’t she be also smart witty clever strong AND BE KIDNAPPED BY A PIRATE OR SOMETHING.
Pinpointing exactly what makes a romance work for me is difficult but please see below for some examples that make be able to shed some light on what I am looking for (spoilers so beware):
my top tier unbeatable pieces that nothing can compare to:
Pride and Prejudice** (specifically BBC mini series but I enjoy the 2005 movie as well)
• not exactly groundbreaking news, but the romance in this is so beautiful. It makes me twirl my hair and giggle like a little school girl.. ok? That’s how I want to feel. The chemistry, the ending but also the drama? It’s perfection. Also a great example of a strong female character as well as a strong male character, it’s all about balance! The restraint displayed is also something you don’t see in modern movies. You have to read between the lines and focus on the characters and plot, but that’s what makes it all so much sweeter! The pay off in the end is earned. Also Collin firth walking out of a pond. I honestly could have just lead with that.
***North and South*
• I just rewatched this for the zillionth time and MY GOSH. THAT ENDING SCENE. Amazing. Iconic. Makes me feel alive again. Makes me wonder - John Thornton will you marry me instead? Where is my Thornton in this world of Mr. Wickhams and Willoughby’s?? the enemies to lovers trope is so well done. The softness in his eyes as Margaret gives her business proposal. THE BILLOWY WHITE SHIRT AND POPPED COLLAR R U KIDDING?? If someone could inject this show into my veins I would very much appreciate it.
It is truly the perfect mix of darkness and drama and high stakes, with love and tension and yearning and a happy ending!!!
Guilded Age
• This show is so cute!! So far so good and I am rooting for the romances in the show. In comparison - I actually enjoy Glady’s romance more than Marian and Larry’s because of the arranged marriage and tension (although I love both). This falls more on the low stakes side of things, but I love it so much. I don’t mind a happy show, I prefer it actually, but I don’t want to feel bored.
Outlander
• James Alexander Malcolm Mackenzie Frasier. Need I say more?? Truly the most perfect blend of action, danger, drama and romance. I love their relationship… it truly makes me feel something. I’m swooning over Jamie constantly. I love that they save each other a lot and are constantly in danger lol, truly epic.
Persuasion
• beautiful. A second chance romance? The yearning is 10/10. Specifically the 2007 one is just AMAZING. The 2022 one is an abomination that we all should somehow invoke the powers of the Mandela Effect and collectively forget it’s existence. Occasionally, we shall wonder if it was real, only to be relieved by the fact that it is not real as we have the 2007 and 1995 versions to calm our fears.
Off topic but the hunger games??
• Ok so technically not a period piece, although set in the future, but the romance between Katniss and Peeta is unmatched. Oh they have tried with other dystopian dramas, but nothing comes near, the bar is too high you may need a pole vault to touch the bottom of it. The understated moments, the little glances, the pressure and environment the whole romance is under. I feel like the surrounding circumstances are what catapults this romance to the top of my list. Similar vibe to outlander in a way, with the action and romance walking hand in hand throughout the series. Without either, the plot falls apart.
Naruto the last
• Coming out of left field with this one. I know I know… Anime?? Yes’m.. how could I deem a Naruto movie as one of the greatest romances of all time? Let me tell you something - the childhood, oblivious guy, she fell first he fell harder trope is everything EVERYTHING. NOT TO MENTION: kidnapping, forced marriage, pouting man male lead, RESCUING A DAMSEL IN DISTRESS. this movie has it all.
Sanditon
• And I’m talking season 2 and 3. Season 1 was great. I originally couldn’t finish cause I was sad about Theo James leaving. Came back to it a year later. UM. Alexander coulbourne, my love, Sidney Parker cannot hold a candle to you. The drama, the miscommunication, the yearning, it’s like a lighter version of Jane eyre in the best way possible. Mix that with the most adorable side romance between Esther and Lord Babington? And dealing with actual tough topics. Oh we’ve struck gold with this one.
BE GONE. I DESPISE THIS BEHAVIOR.
Please I beg… do not recommend
downton abbey
• I know I know… this is a sin against the period drama community. And listen I watched multiple seasons of this show, and was it good? Absolutely. Did it have a good mix of romance and high stakes and danger and drama. Sure. But. BUT. Did Matthew’s death completely and utterly ruin the entire show for me causing a fiery hatred deep within my soul for this show that will never be expunged? Yeah. Yeah it did.
Poldark
• I don’t know WHAT the period drama romance community is on for this show to be so highly recommended. The main character, while being a fine FOINE man, is a complete and utter, dare I say, boob. I hate him. And who TF wants a main male lead who cheats on his adorable beautiful stunning queen of a wife?? WHY OH WHY is this recommended at all?
The white queen
• Nope nope nope. It had me in the first half ngl. But again with the cheating!! I refuse to watch a man cheat on his wife and be ok with that. I did not find it romantic at all, maybe the first episode albeit kind of r*pey?? Everyone just wanted power and to rule and it just stressed me out.
Vanity fair
• The side romance was the best part of this show. Main character was a conniving evil heartless sociopath. Not for me.
Brigerton
• Listen : I read the books ok? Loved the first and second season. Couldn’t finish the 3rd. Kind of refusing to watch the 4th. They ruined the characters. Changed everyone’s personalities. Changed the storylines from the books. Very disappointing. The viscount who loved me is the best in the series (on the way to the wedding is a close second), how they deal with trauma, panic, miscommunication, forced marriage, then falling in love? Perfect mix of romance with dark themes and a happy ending. Queen Charlotte was beautiful and did make me cry (I liked the drama in that one) but yeah I have complicated issues with this series.
Anna karenina
• Okay sure.. blonde Aaron Taylor Johnson is very entertaining to look at. And fine.. it’s a classic novel so technically I have to like it right? WRONG. I hate the main character. I felt terrible for her husband. I do not find this some “great love affair” and have no clue why this is recommended whenever people are searching for romantic period dramas. I feel similarly about Titanic and The Great Gatsby. Boooo
Atonement
• I feel like this is self explanatory. Tragic. Depressing. It’s saving grace is the green dress Kiera knightly wears but besides that? Nope. Terrible. I cried. I was angry. I now have an intense hatred for 12 year old blonde girls with F**k A** bobs….
Also no judgement if you like the ones I hate. I truly do understand why people like them. They are beautiful films or have great acting/costuming/etc. it’s just that the romance, the core of what I’m looking for, is not it. when those pieces get recommended, portrayed as something they are not… it bothers me.
Anyway that is all. Help.