Tonglen. There are threads discussing the practice here. I don't know how relevant they are to this. My understanding is Tonglen affects the part of the brain related to empathy and compassion. As do other semi-related practices.

Maybe you secretly want a threesome ? Bi-curious in the closet? Why does this even bother you? Look into your emotions man. You're keeping something inside perhaps. Jealousy?

By that logic, married bisexual people shouldn't have trainers at all? If you don't trust your partner you shouldn't be in a relationship at all dude

Stay in your own lane and stop projecting your failings as a man onto others. How's that sound? I have second hand embarrassment for you, bro.

Why do you think that every opposite sex person is a sex object? Do you think that about people? That’s not the standard

If someone does harm with the intention to help, it's bad. How bad it is depends on the action, whether the other person agreed to the supposed help and knew its risks, and whether the person who tried to help reasonably should've known they were causing harm.

Someone who did something good when intended it to be harmful is bad because they intended to cause harm, but again exactly how bad depends on the circumstances. It also depends on whether they try to do harm again.

Why do you care? People hire the best trainer they can afford. It’s really not yours or anyone else’s business who hires a personal trainer.

I've had both, tbh my younger, very fit, national guard trainer is by far the best. Functional and multi purpose/balance/flexibility workouts. My most recent favorite is where he has me balance on a bosu, squat with a 10 lb medicine ball, stand, toss the ball at him then he tosses it back and I repeat.  He also has me do the battle ropes while balancing. 

Cheaters gonna cheat. Removing temptations doesn't mean they won't still seek them out on their own. Foolish to think otherwise.

My local gyms dont have any women trainers. Its a job, just like anything else. It doesn't mean that the men trainers are only doing it to hit on or hookup with their clients. Sounds like a lot of insecurity to me.

Can a person committed a horrible act be redeemed?

Depends on what you mean by "redeemed," the circumstances of the act, and what the act itself is. I don't think anyone's irredeemable on a behavioral level, but people can certainly break a relationship forever with their actions and them being able to exist in society without breaking laws doesn't mean their original acts have been forgiven by those who've been harmed by them or even by the entire justice system (for example, if past offenses are taken into account if someone is accused later then they haven't been truly forgiven by the justice system). Someone who did something under duress or when they didn't understand the gravity of what they were doing is less bad than someone who maliciously does something, although in most cases it doesn't completely absolve their act of badness.

Can you call a person good if they are that way just for validation?

Generally yes. Assuming the person isn't abusing the validation to cover up evils they do, their motives don't change the helpfulness of their acts.

What does 'good' actually mean?

I think it means helping others when you don't have to but are reasonably capable of it. The actions don't have to be huge or concrete: if the only thing someone is physically capable of doing is smiling or frowning, them choosing to brighten someone's day a little by smiling at them counts as good. Someone who wasn't that limited would also be good for smiling in the same situation, but to a lesser extent because they could do a lot more with the same amount of effort.

Do you get out much? This is not a serious questions. All my OBGYN’s were men!

Do you get out much? This is not a serious questions. All my OBGYN’s were men!

it's incredibly insulting to say that grown up adults don't have the basic self control and impulse control necessary to do a job together. Like, you have to think VERY little of men to believe they can't manage that.

What an absolutely insane take. Keep your insecurities on your manhood bro. Normal people don’t operate this way. Stay off the Hub.

The fact that you posted this in r/serious conversation. Aren't you being just a bit ridiculous?

Hate the game, not the player. If its not him, it'll be someone else. Just enjoy your turn.

or… hear me out… they can do whatever works for THEIR relationships and THEIR health. what does some woman you’ve never met having a male personal trainer do to impact your life?

your point about the trainer not looking in shape has nothing to do with sex or gender.

you sound miserable, i hope youre able to find something to bring you joy and closer to meaningful relationships with the people around you.

Do you think married men shouldn't have female trainers?

You have misunderstood the concept completely.

Please do not share your opinions.

We’ll see how much money you have left after the market crash and you can see what poverty is like the.

Make sure to make good decisions!

I had a friend who constantly struggled with rent. She was a single mom. I once “lent” her $300 to pay her rent on time so she wasn’t evicted (I didn’t expect it back).

Then a very kind lady gave her $2,500 to help her “get ahead.” She also bought her a used minivan.

The friend was upset the gifted van was ‘old’.

Instead of saving the money so she didn’t have to worry about rent in the future, she went to a dentist. NOT to have cavities fixed. She wanted 4 teeth pulled because she thought they made her face look weird and she got braces to pull the rest of the teeth where she wanted. So dental cosmetic work (and she didn’t pay me back).

She told me that next she was going to get a boob job. Then she asked me for more money.

Many people are poor because they consistently make poor choices.

I am sorry that you have had that experience. With everything human, there are no guaranteed rules of how people will behave. My intention is not to dismiss your experience, but just to share mine.

Also, how we approach other people can have a large effect on how they respond. If I tell my doctor, "this drug is hurting me," then the doctor could interpret that to mean that I think I know better than them what is hurting me, and furthermore, that because they prescribed the drug, they are hurting a patient whom they intended to heal.

If I say, "I am hurting and I am wondering if you think it could be because of this drug," then I am acknowledging their expertise and their good intentions.

I'm glad you've had better experiences with experts than I did. I was never rude, unless you consider trying to advocate for myself (saying things like "[drug they prescribed] is hurting me") as rude.

I don’t think being religious in and of itself is a bad thing, just those who try to shove their faith at others