it seems to me that a lot of suffering comes from something as simple as framing. what i mean to say is, in this wholeness we call existence, we are all collaborators, and a lot of that collaboration is free, or mostly free.
yes, i hear the whispers. frog, get real. the untamed wild will eat you alive. just stop.
yeah, i get it. lots of wrenches get tossed into life’s gears. but maybe that tossed wrench, by its very nature, is also a tool. and the gears need maintenance anyway. existence is yelling: need attention. the squeak is here.
i’m driving down the road, running a tad late. traffic is not helping. i’m stuck behind a semi-truck, there is no passing lane, and someone feels the need to ride my bumper, like that is going to make anything go faster.
i feel the urgency, buddy. chill.
then, suddenly, i get the splash thought of a presidential escort. the semi ahead of me is the lead car, and the cars behind me are keeping the formation close. it is protection.
yes, this is an illusion. i am wide awake in traffic. the urgency has not disappeared. but the idea that something ahead of me and something behind me are protecting me, rather than merely preventing me from getting where i need to go, turns the whole matter around.
same thing at work. a coworker comes over with a real problem. it is a valid issue, but they drop it with a posture that says, here, you fix it. and that posture can stall a person right out. suddenly, it is not only the problem. it is the weight of being handed the problem.
another wrench. another gear catching.
but maybe the issue is not only an interruption. maybe it is the part of the work that has been trying to get seen. maybe it is the squeak. no, it does not make the work easier. the issue is still the issue. but now it has attention. now something that was sitting there, unaddressed, has a way in.
maybe these are cheats. the wrench, the traffic, the coworker. three little examples that make their own small problems look solved.
but that is not really the point. the point is the frame. not because it makes the problem disappear, and not because it makes hard work easy, but because it can show what the first story kept hidden.
maybe that is the practice. notice the frame. not to force a better story over the one already here, but to let the first story loosen some. then see what else is here.