Problem/Goal: Title

Context: I (26F) was happily married to my husband (32M) until he admitted that he had drained our savings through gambling and taken out hundreds of thousands of pesos in loans to gamble.

I gave him another chance last year because we were newly married, and I genuinely believed he could change. This year, it happened again.

I helped him seek professional help and supported him through his treatment and medication. I’ve been trying so hard to help him rebuild his mental health and overcome his gambling addiction. But somewhere along the way, I became the one who was slowly falling apart.

I've been mentally and financially suffering. The trust I was already trying to rebuild after what happened last year was broken again.

What hurts even more is that he sees all of this as just another “challenge” in marriage. I understand that marriage isn't always easy, and I know that difficult seasons are part of life. But I don't know if I'm supposed to keep sacrificing myself financially and emotionally because my husband keeps making choices that put us in debt.

I feel manipulated and financially abused. I work hard, but instead of being able to enjoy the money I earn or save for our future, I feel like I'm working just to help pay for debts that I didn't create.

I don't want to spend the rest of my life feeling this way.

I love my husband. I really do. That's what makes this so difficult.

But I love him, and I don't want this life.

I want to feel my own salary. I want to see the results of my sacrifices. I want to be able to save without being afraid that everything we've built will disappear again. I want to feel financially safe with my own husband.

Previous attempts: I've tried talking to him about how exhausted I am mentally. But when I opened up before, he said, “Natatakot akong sabihin mong sa akin ka napapagod.”

I stopped myself from saying what I really felt because I was afraid he'd think I was saying that he is the reason I'm exhausted, or that I'm being a bad wife for feeling this way.

So I just said, “Napapagod lang ako.”

I don't want to hurt him. I don't want to abandon him while he's struggling. But I also don't know how much of myself I'm supposed to sacrifice before I have nothing left.

How do I tell my husband this without making him feel like I'm abandoning him or that I don't love him?

Problem/Goal: Paano ko sasabihin sa asawa ng boss ko na niloloko siya ng asawa niya?

Kamakailan lang, nalaman ko na may affair ang boss ko sa isa naming babaeng staff, at honestly, hindi ko alam kung ano ang dapat kong gawin.

Context: lahat kami sa workplace ay nagtitiwala sa babaeng staff na ito. Madalas niyang ikuwento sa amin ang tungkol sa mga problema niya sa pamilya, love life, at iba pang personal na pinagdadaanan niya, kaya naaawa talaga kami sa kanya at sinusubukan namin siyang intindihin. Hindi rin namin masyadong binigyang pansin noong una kung gaano sila ka close ng boss namin dahil sa tingin namin, ganun lang talaga ang personality ng boss namin. Mabait siya, understanding, at parang naging counselor na rin siya ng lahat sa workplace.

May mga napapansin na rin ako dati sa kanilang dalawa, yung paraan ng pagtitinginan nila at ilang kilos nila sa isa’t isa. Pero dahil ayaw ko ng issue at drama, binalewala ko na lang at inisip ko na baka nag o overthink lang ako.

Eventually, napansin ko rin na parang may special treatment yung babaeng staff. May mga pagkakataon na bigla siyang naglileave at parang madali lang itong e approve ng boss namin. Minsan, kapag naka leave siya wala rin ang boss namin. Marami naman kami sa workplace kaya hindi rin siguro agad napapansin ng iba o binibigyan ng meaning.

Pero kamakailan lang, nalaman ko na hindi lang pala ito simpleng chismis.

May nakita akong actual proof na may affair talaga sila. Hindi ko na sasabihin kung saan o paano ko nakuha o nakita ang evidence dahil ayokong madamay o ma identify ang mga taong involved, pero may mga pictures silang magkasama sa mga hotel at may mga outings/trips din sila kung saan saan.

Ang mas nagpapahirap sa akin ay alam kong nasa postpartum pa ngayon ang asawa ng boss ko. Sobrang naaawa ako sa kanya dahil baka wala siyang kaalam alam sa nangyayari habang nasa isang vulnerable stage siya ng buhay niya.

Guilty ako na itago lang ito sa sarili ko, pero natatakot din ako sa maaaring mangyari kapag sinabi ko sa kanya. Ayoko ring makasira ng pamilya o gumawa ng gulo, lalo na kung may posibilidad na magkaroon ito ng consequences para sa akin sa trabaho.

Kayo, ano ang gagawin ninyo kung nasa situation ko kayo? Dapat ko ba siyang sabihan, o dapat ba akong makialam? At kung sasabihin ko sa kanya, paano ko ba dapat ito lapitan?

Sobrang kinakain na ako ng konsensya ko ngayon at gusto ko lang makarinig ng honest advice mula sa mga taong maaaring nakaranas na ng ganitong situation.

Previous Attempts: None

Problem/Goal:

First love is coming back after 18 years. Please enlighten me on what to do.

Context:

Thank you sa lahat ng nagbigay ng advice sakin, sobrang naappreciate ko yun ☺️ Sorry if hindi na ako nakapag reply sa iba kasi busy din pero I took everyone’s words by heart.

So eto na nga, last night, we were chatting like what we have been doing for weeks. This is during work hours so naturally, hindi agad ako nakakapag reply. I went online sa ML while waiting sa approval ng boss ko for my presentation. 🚩Then he sent me a screenshot of my account na online with the emoji “🤔”. Di ko agad pinansin pero mejo nainis ako pero nagreply pa rin ako at sabi ko nga na lalaro ako saglit habang naghihintay. Tinanong ko sya kung binabantayan nya ba ko to which he said:

“Nagkataon lang na nag online ako. Di naman kita kailangang bantayan, ano mo ba ko? 😅***”***

Followed by random updates dahil nasa inuman sya with his coworkers. TBH, I really don’t mind kung anong ginagawa nya at the moment kasi nagsabi naman sya na magiinom sila. Edi go, diba? Bat ako mangungulit na makipag chat eh may kasama syang friends? And also, wala naman kaming something sa ngayon.

Wala pang 5 minutes, he called and said na bakit ang tagal ko magreply tapos binaba. I was like “huh?”. 🚩🚩Di man lang ako binigyan ng chance sumagot. Then I had to attend an emergency meeting kaya lalong di ako nakapag reply sa kanya. Pero nag chat ako na nasa meeting ako and will talk later.

After the meeting, ito nireply ko sa last chat nya:

“I understand. Ang dating lang kasi sakin, parang “Sabi mo nagtatrabaho ka, bat online ka sa ML” tapos may “🤔” pa. Na para bang kinukwestyon mo yung pag online ko. But if not, sorry if I assumed otherwise.

Also, maraming nagbago sa 18 years na hindi tayo nagusap. As a working adult, hindi ako mabilis magreply dahil may mga iba din akong ginagawa aside sa work. Like sa pag aasikaso sa bahay, etc. Sa totoo lang, tamad talaga ako magreply at magrereply lang ako pag may tanong, urgent, emergency, or about work. And ang tagal kong single, hindi ako sanay na maya’t maya nag uupdate ako. If that is out of concern, thank you; naappreciate ko. Pero napansin ko na kapag di ako nakakapag reply agad, sunod sunod yung chat mo and worst, nagdedelete ka ng message which I really hate pag ginagawa sakin. Like di ko gets yung point na nagdedelete eh, unless na wrong send.

Masaya naman ako na nagkaroon tayo ng chance na makapag usap ulit at magkita, kahit as friends lang. Pero sana, alam natin kung ano tayo sa isa’t isa.

Thank you sa pag intindi and sorry if naoffend ka.”

🚩🚩🚩Yes, mahilig sya magdelete ng chats pag di ko nababasa agad at dun ako sobrang pikon. Ayoko talaga na ginagawa yun kasi, sorry kung may masasaktan, self pity ganon? Na parang “Delete ko na lang, di mo naman ako pinapansin eh.” 🤯 Ang lala, papansin amputa.

We continued chatting until he got home and pagka out ko sa work. Pero ako, nagisip at paulit ulit binasa yung mga sinabi nyo from my first post.

And given all the advice from my first post, THANK YOU! Kay ate girl na nagsabi na maraming nagbago sa 18 years, TOTOO! Wala pang ilang linggo na naguusap kami pero di ko napansin yung mga red flags. Beause of you guys, malinaw na sakin lahat. HINDI KO ISASAKRIPISYO ANG PEACE NA MERON AKO NGAYON.

Again, thank you!

Previous attempts: I’ve made up my mind, I will not continue talking to him anymore and just live the life I built for myself, my family, and furbabies.

Problem/Goal: Travel with friends. Itutuloy ko pa ba? Baka kasi maoffload lang din ako. Nobody knows that I’m currently unemployed except my husband. I haven’t had the guts to tell my friends this kaya mas natatakot akong tumuloy dahil baka ma-offload. This is just my 2nd out of the country trip.

Context: The trip was booked on February. About 9 months before the trip on November. Everything was paid for, including the tickets and day trips. However, I lost my job last July at hanggang ngayon unemployed pa rin. Took it as a sign to rest na rin dahil diagnosed with depression. Ayoko na sana tumuloy dahil si husband lang ang may work and nahihiya ako kay hubby na magtravel knowing na I don’t have work. Wala kaming anak pero may mga bayarin din like rent.

Previous Attempts: I told my husband na hindi na ako sasama dahil ayoko naman magtravel nang walang fund. Hindi praktikal. He told me na he’s willing to give me money, or if ayaw ko ng bigay, bayaran ko raw sa kanya. Hindi naman daw kasi anticipated na mawawalan ako ng work when the trip was booked. I’m grateful kay hubby pero at the same time nahihiya ako sa kanya. Pakiramdam ko masyado akong pabigat. Sabi niya hindi naman kami nagbibilangan and he wants me to enjoy and relax. Sabi ko hahayaan ko na lang yung mga nabayaran kaysa mas madagdagan pa ang expenses.

Edit: Thank you so much everyone for your advice. Lahat po ito binabasa ko and y’all have been really nice. Sobrang appreciated ko po marinig ang insights niyo. 💗

Problem/Goal: Masyado bang dependent ang girlfriend ko sa'kin?

Context: I (F20) have been sick for about four days now. I'm assuming it's tonsillitis, since sobrang lala ng fever ko tsaka throat pain. My girlfriend (F19) knows about this—kaninang umaga lang ako nagcommute pauwi after spending a week at their place and I had been constantly telling her about how my head was hurting so much, nagpapakapa rin ako sa kanya kung may fever ako and she always tells me na sobrang lakas daw, ganu'n.

Normally when I'm at their place, I do everything for her. Washing the dishes, pagsasaing, paglilinis ng bahay—you get the picture. Which I don't mind naman since she works as a call center agent habang ako naman, I'm taking a break from school this year due to mental health issues. I know she needs a lot of rest. Pero when this happened, it was during her days-off. She got a good amount of sleep naman, we both woke up pretty late, and she was just playing sa tablet niya habang nagpapahinga ako dahil sobrang sama nga ng pakiramdam ko. We had dishes to wash and I told her na "sobrang sama ng pakiramdam ko but I still had dishes to wash," and to my surprise, she told me "it's fine, pwede namang mamaya". I mean I guess it was kinda on me since I didn't tell her directly na I wanted to take a break from doing chores, but you know, a part of me also wanted her na magkusa.

Kahit noong before pa siya mag-work at nag-aaral pa siya, ako na ang kumikilos kapag nasa kanila ako, which I don't hold against her in any way—I genuinely like doing things for her. But I can't help but think sometimes na I might be getting taken for granted especially during moments like these.

After reluctantly washing the dishes, she then asked me if I could buy snacks outside since she was really hungry. Then she asked me if I could get her clothes since maliligo na siya. Then she asked me if I could sweep the floors. Then she asked me when we were about to eat dinner kung pwede ba akong mag-hain for us. All while I was telling her about how physically terrible I was feeling.

Kinagabihan, I asked her a quote-unquote hypothetical question when we were in bed. I told her, "Magtatampo ka ba kung may sakit ka tapos I asked you to do stuff?" to which she replied, "Hindi. Sorry kung inuutusan kita." then she tinalikuran niya ako seemingly out of guilt, only talking to me and hugging me about 20 minutes later. Sabi niya hindi niya na raw gagawin, kesyo she felt like mas maganda raw kasi kung kikilos ako. I gave her the benefit of the doubt.

Kinaumagahan, which is earlier this morning, we needed to leave at 4 AM since she got accepted sa isang company na morning shift and it was her first day. Sinamahan ko siya sa sakayan ng jeep and we parted ways noong nakasakay na siya. I am still sick, tulog ako nang tulog to regain my strength. We found out na the route she took that morning wasn't the most optimal one since late nang umaalis 'yung jeep (5:30 ang alis ng jeep, 6:00 naman ang pasok niya) and she is now asking me to wake up at 4 AM so I can guide her kung paano 'yung mas optimal na route (train route) para sa shift niya. I asked her if she couldn't just ask the guards there (maraming guards sa lugar na 'yun + we have been there multiple times already) kung saan pupunta since constant talaga 'yung headache and throat pain ko alongside my fever, pero she just said she wasn't sure so I reluctantly agreed since I don't want her to get lost.

Am I being taken for granted? OA ba ako? Is she too dependent on me?

Previous Attempts: None

Problem/Goal: My brother has a wife (fulltime housewife) with two toddlers. My bro earns considerably well and is a good provider for his own family. They go out weekly, give her all that they need and want, and even give his wife her own allowance. While myself, I live away from home, renting an apartment with my BF, no kids.

Now, the family we came from needs help because our brother has schizophrenia and stays in a custodial facility that we’ve been paying 15000 monthly for about 5mos now. We both pay it, 50/50. Now his wife found out and is mad about it, saying he has his own family now and is not obligated to give. Is his wife being reasonable? It’s not like my brother starves them. The amount he gives is something he can afford without going into debt.

Just a bit of a background, the wife came from a poor family and was a breadwinner, with a job that didn't pay really well. I mentioned this because I think it made her financially insecure. Her life became comfortable when she married my brother. My brother is a hard-working man who worked so hard to get to where he is now in his career

I know it’s our mom’s responsibility to pay for his sick adult son’s expenses, but she is now 70 yrs old and has no steady income other than her 5,000 monthly pension. 8 years ago, our mom bought a house & lot for us, her already adult kids. Though she’s not obligated to, she did it out of love for her children. I know we’re not indebted, but I feel like we should do what we can to help. Btw, that house is where my bro and her wife, and kids currently live. If it’s not for that house, they would’ve been renting.

Please give me logical, yet sympathetic advice. I don’t want to be unreasonable and unfair. I really want to see the situation from a wife’s perspective. What would you do if you were in her or mine’s situation?

EDIT: I know na madalas nadedemonize natin ang inlaws because minsan valid nman tlaga ang dahilan. But pls hear me out and try to look at our situation objectively. Kindly read my replies. I'm not meaning to argue, I only want a healthy and insightful convo about the matter.

I try to be as objective as possible because sooner I'll be a sis-in-law din naman to my partner's family.

Problem/Goal: Confused ako kung good thing ba or bad thing ang pagiging sassy at work.

Context: I work for an offshore company and Australians ang mga boss ko. I’m part of a commitee and dun ko lang nakakaharap ang CEO via teams.

I answered positively and confidently to a question and the CEO said “I go to work so I can avoid the sassyness at home, and you are an embodiment of them.. very funny”

I laughed awkwardly, kasi di ko nagets kung positive or negative ba yun 😭

Another context: I don’t contribute to this meeting, parang assistant lang ako. I was asked to do this specific task, and I said “Sure, my pleasure!” with full smile and confidence. So di ko gets kung nakakaoffend ba or what -.-

Problem/Goal: Ano kaya need iprepare ng fiance kong technically unemployed for our 1st international travel para iwas offload?

Context: My fiance and I will be travelling to Vietnam this Dec and 1st international travel sya. Booked na ang RT flights and hotel, 7 days. Employed ako under a PH company and at the same time, I have 2 different clients - independent contractors type.

While I can provide mostly the docs like COE, pay slip, remittance etc, my fiance is unemployed since April. Pero he is the one kasi working for one of my clients but still under my name. Bale sya talaga nagwowork don and almost yung sweldo is kanya din (my cut lang me na 10%), kasi naka 2 full time na ko. As for sahod, ako din lang nagsesend sa bank account nya. May ipon din kami for wedding pero nasa account ko din.

Financial: with car and house both under my name

Worry ko lang is ano need nya iprepare. Since unemployed, baka super red flag.

Any advice would be very helpful. Thank yew!

Problem/Goal: Need to know if I end the relationship na or keep on fighting like how I usually do

Context: Typical relationship fight except this time, mas nakikita ko na I’m the one fighting and making more compromises. Ako yung mas gustong bigyan ng plano or assurance yung kung anong magiging future namin. Ako yung willing maghustle or gawa ng paraan just to save us

Previous attempt: At saving us? Marami! Nagbeg? Oo lol hahaha mahal ko siya guys! lumalaban naman ako. i just cant bear the thought of being the one always making compromises. nakakaubos pala isipin

Problem/Goal: Deodorants or perfume for daily use? Cuz I want to smell good even kahit daily lang

Context: I can say na I'm a hygienic guy naliligo araw-araw and also may dalang payong to avoid the sun and also use some cream para face ko. May deodorant ako which is Nivea men Yung blue and ang scent ko lang for daily is Rexona chocolate pero kapag aalis ako or may event ako bench yung color black na pabango ginagamit ko which is so good kapag may errands ko lang ginagamit.

But here's the thing I lack with my scent daily. Gusto ko kasi yung kahit sa daily ang bango ko kahit nasa bahay lang or daily nasa labas lang bibili ng ulam ang bango ko whaha. I kinda feel insecure sa mga tao lalu na sa mga guy na kagaya ko na kapag tumabi ako nalalamangan ako kasi amoy mabango sila kesa sakin so any advice to improve this?

Problem/Goal: As an introvert person, socializing is one of my weaknesses, idk how to continue a conversation without being awkward and i always run out of topics to talk about so we always end up being quiet and awkward. I also don't have that energy some extroverted people show/have whenever they hangout with people, so some would call me nonchalant when, i, In fact is giving my best to act energetic and sociable. I'm having a really hard time making friends, i feel like an outcast sometimes bc of it.

Can you give me advice?

Problem/Goal: Am I being too needy for wanting my bf to call me every day and spend quality time with me? Or should I just understand that sometimes he’s genuinely too tired from work?

Context: Almost 1 year na kami and LDR. Siya nasa pinas, ako nasa ibang bansa. Before, wala pa kaming work so halos everyday kami nagca-call. Ngayon pareho na kaming may work, and video editor siya so gets ko naman na nakakapagod talaga.

He still chats and updates me, and sometimes we call or watch movies together. Kaso may mga times na hindi sya nakaka-call, after ko siya antayin sasabihin nya lang pagod sya so mag-slesleep na daw sya bukas nalang call. May times tatawag yan to say goodnight, less than a minute lang unlike before nag-slesleep call pa kami. I just need an assurance lang naman, I am asking him if mahal pa ba nya ako sinasabi nya naman na oo and hindi na daw ako bata para maghanap ng constant reassurance :( We are in mid 20s na and seryoso naman kami sa relationship namin. Pero nami-miss ko yung dating initiative and sweetness niya. Since may time difference din, minsan inaantay ko siya after work, so medyo nakakasama ng loob kapag hindi man lang siya nag-iinitiate ng call. Avoidant din siya and ayaw niya ng “drama.” Whenever I try to express how I feel, parang feeling niya pinapalaki ko lang yung bagay.

I understand na pagod siya, pero calls are important to me, especially since LDR kami. For me, iba talaga yung connection kapag nakakausap ko siya kaysa puro chat.

So ayun, needy ba ako for wanting regular calls and quality time, or reasonable naman yung need ko? May mga tao ba talaga na contented sa chats lang, instead of call?

Problem/Goal: Problemado sa sitwasyon kung ma offload ba kami sa IO huhu

Context: May flight ako [F24] this Nov sa Taiwan, kasama ko si mama for 5D4N, pero yung ex ko pa yung nag book ng flights nung early 2026, so email niya yung gamit nun. Unemployed ako now since nag resign ako para masamahan si mama sa hospital. gastusin sa travel is own ipon ko po. Any advices? Tips? Opinions? 🥲❤️

Previous Attempts: puro lang ako search online pero gusto ko parin yung peeps na may exp na sa IO huhu. Thank you!!!!

Problem/Goal: I want to break no contact pero ayokong magmukhang ako ang naghahabol.

Context: Nag away kame ng bf ko last last weekend regarding gawaing bahay. Na f frustrate kasi ako na kailangan ko pa magbunganga bago sya kumilos. Yung bf ko is the type of a guy na kapag may problema hindi na nya pag uusapan pa, kumbaga pag lumipas na tapos na, okay na. On the other hand, ako yung tipo ng tao na kapag may napag awayan o problema, nag o opt ako for usap or simply communicating para ma address namin yung root issue at ma intindihan ng bawat isa bakit hindi na dapat sya gagawin. Ngayon, ako ang last chat saamin sa messenger, yung chat ko na yon yung nag aaway pa kame. Tapos hindi na nya ko nireplyan. Nag away kame last last Friday, then saturday nung week na yon tinry nya akong kulitin pero di ako kumibo. Nung linggo ng week na yon hindi na kame nag kibuan talaga. Nung monday, ihahatid nya dapat ako sa work, nasa labas na sya ng bahay pero dumiretso ako hindi ko sya pinansin, the same ng ginawa nya sakin nung weekends that time na umaalis nalang. Nandun na sya ulit sa bahay nila kasi Fri to Mon ang schedule nya sa bahay ko. Then Tue to Thursday naman sa bahay nila. Nag agree na kame sa schedule na yan. Then etong weekend hindi sya nag punta, wala ding paramdam. Walang chat pero sinend nya yung share nya sa bills through gcash. Gusto ko I break yung no contact kasi na co confuse na ako, bakit kailangan patagalin ng ganto kung ang gusto ko lang naman eh pag usapan yung problema. Pero may part kasi ng pakiramdam ko na ayokong ako ang nagmumukhang naghahabol sakanya, considering in my pov sya ang walang paramdam at sya tong may gusto ng easy fix.

Previous attempts: None

Problem/Goal: asa context

Context: may jowa ako of 2mos, once palang kami nagmeet sine malayo. sobrang bait nyang gf, kaso one time nagbibiruan lang kami at namura ko sya, ewan ko biglang parang ang disrespecting ng dating sakin ng joke. tas ang ayos ko makipagusap pero parang pinagttripan, ganon feeling ko nung time nayon kaya nakapagbitaw ako ng mura sakanya. diko naman jinujustify, alam kong mali yon at nagsorry din ako na diko dapat sinabi yon. pero walang response. ayoko namang kulitin, pero nagguilty ako na parang ang dating sakanya tumatawa sya tas out of nowhere nakapagbitaw ako ng mura kaso alam ko din sa sarili ko na kahit maulit mangyare, makakapagbitaw parin ako ng mura, kaso ang mali sana sinarili ko nalang yung murang yon. okay lang kaya to na naghahayaan muna kami?

Previous Attempts: wala, nagsorry lang ako once.

Problem/Goal: Nagmahal ako ng taong hindi pa tapos mag mahal ng iba.

Context: medyo napaasa lang ako tas biglang ok na naman sila ng ex nya. yun set aside na ko. hindi ko alam kung maghihintay pa ba ako. sinabi kong inlove na ako sakanya ok lang daw maghintay ako maging ok sya. pero ngayon wala na. mas pipiliin nya pa rin yung ex nya.

nakakapagod lang umasa. sana yung mga mahilig magpaasa tumigil na rin kayo.

Problem/Goal: help me pass the io for 1st time traveller unemployed, Worried ako baka ma offload?

Context: Planning to travel to taiwan first time with my boyfriend as my sponsor sa mga major expenses im unemployed we have 1 baby pero kame lang dalawa ni bf this time. im ex ofw japan work as cca and still in rest pa since nanganak ako this year lang cs delivery january 2026 kaya unemployed pa now.

Previous Attempts: n/a

Problem/Goal:: Yung asawa ko may inutangan ng malaking pera at may malaking tubo, Lately nya lang inamin nung pagkaalis ko.

Context: Matagal nya na pala tinatago na may utang sya na napakaling pera at lumobo dahil nga sa interest. Yung inutangan nya ng pera pagkabigay ng pera may 20%interest agad tapos may 15%interes kapag hindi makapagbayad sa nakatakdang usapan na babayaran.

Ngaun na-momoblema ako at nagtataka san nya gibamit yung pera subalit tama naman ang nabibigay kong pera para sa kanya pag nauwi ako at padala.Kada tanong ko sa kanya lage nyang hindi alam which is nakakabwiset.

Pilit kong inaayos ung problema para matapos na subalit pag magtatanong ako sa kanya na may kasamang galit gawa nga sa nangyari umiiyak lang sya. At puro hindi ko alam ang sinasagot kada tatanungin ko.

Ang masama pa nito may police report na pala sya dun sa inutangan nya na hindi ko alam kung totoo. Dahil nag counter report sya sa kabilang istasyon ng police(na isa pa itong problema, kung bakit sa ibang istasyon nagreport kesa sa lugar namin) dahil nananakot na irereport ako da kumpanya para mabayaran ung utang na hindi ko naman inutang at madadamay ako.Pinagtataka ko bat dun sya nagreport hindi sa lugar namin , so ibig sabihin may iba pang issue bukod sa utang. Pag tinanong ko naman sya hindi nya alam ang sinasagot. Hindi ko din alam kung may lalake ba sya don kaya dun sa nagreport at nagpatulong.

Iniinsist ko na para maayos ung problema kakausapin ko yung inutangan nya kung maari tanggalin ubg interes at babayaran nalang kaliwaan ung utang para matapos na ung problema. Pero ang siste inabisuhan sya nung police na finagfile-an nya ng report na wag ko daw kausapin ung inutangan (kaya lalo ako nagduda , bakit may ganun na sistema at dun pa nagreport na hindi nya masagot kung bakit.)

May 2 kaming anak at umabot na sa puntong puno puno na ko gawa ng nadamay ako s akalokohan nya na hindi ko pa alam at napakalaking pera pala ang hiniraman nya tapos malaki din ang tubo kapag babayaran.inaalala ko ung 2 kong anak kasi bata pa sila ano po ba ang maipapayo nyo? Problemadong problemado ako ngaun kasi ung pinagipunan ko para sa future mappunta lang sa pagwaldas nya ng pera sa utang na hindi alam san ginamit at may ginawa pang kaduda duda bakit dun nagreport hindi masagot bat dun ng file ng report.

Previous Attempts: Kinaudap ko sya kung magkakabayaran this week andun din dapat yung hinaraman ang problema hindi sisipot ung hiniraman kung kayat ung magulang ng hinaraman nya ang sisipot kasama ang magulang ko para maliwanagan at mapakiudapan kung mababayaran ba ng walang interes ung inutang nya. Dahil sabi din nya ung monthly nya na pagbayad dun sa inutang nya napupunta lang sa interes , so lumalabas ilang buwan nya na nabayara ung utang na interes dapat mawala na ung interes kapag babayaran nanamin buo ung inutang nya. Para matapos ung problema.

Dapat ko pa bang ituloy tong relasyon namin once matapos tong bayarin kasi nagaalangan ako sa bata. Ang problema baka hindi lang ito ung inutangan tapos ung issue pa sa police kung bat dun sya nagreport bat dun sya pinapunta para magfile ng report. Kasi lahat nung savings na inipon ko napunta lang sa wala gawa sa bayad lang ng inutang nya mppunta

Pasensya na kung gulo gulo , laki na kasi ng epekto sa tatabho ko dito dahil malayo ako sa kanila

Problem/Goal: ayaw mag ambag sa pagbubuntis ko.

Context: I'm 6 months pregnant (F18). My ex (M18) and i broke up nung 3 months preggy ako. Before kami mag break sabi niya susustentuhan naman niya yung bata. But now hindi nagaambag sa mga gastusin ko sa pagbubuntis like checkups, labs, ultrasound, vitamins and even food cravings. as in nothing at all. lagi ko siyang chinachat pero wala kahit reply or seen.

Previous attempts: then, i tried to msg his mom pero wala din kahit seen ( were not okay na ng mama niya). after ilang days chinat ko pinsan niya na nakakatanda sakanya na ganon nga hindi ako nirereplyan at nanghihingi ng pang ambag dito, ang reply lang sakin is kakausapin daw ng mama ni ex mother ko. but until now hindi pa rin sila humaharap samin ng pamilya ko.

my mom said kung ayaw nila humarap samin hindi namin ipapakita sakanila yung bata. so what should i do? ipapabarangay ko ba siya?or hahayaan nalang siya? and kung papabarangay ano mas better gawin if i go there?

Problem/Goal: How can I fix my budgeting again? Minimum wage earner problem.

Context: I (24 F) have been working in QC Banawe for 3 years, just recently moved closer to work to save money and hopefully save up a bit.

The place I moved into is my mom's house (the house of her late husband).

Before moving here, I was staying in North Caloocan, commuting back and forth for a maximum of 4 hours every day. I tried living with my boyfriend and his family (it's always noisy and expensive), at my grandmother's house (lots of expenses and things getting lost all the time), and I tried renting on my own, which was also in North Caloocan.

Renting alone is the best decision I've made because I have peace of mind since I'm an introvert and I really want a quiet life, and I've been able to budget my money well (weekly salary).

But ever since I moved here, even though it's close to work, I'm always short on budget, and I'm struggling to manage my money.

The only ones living here with me are my mom (48) and my younger brother (19 M).

I'm the one covering all the expenses here, from food, electricity and water (both on submeter), my allowance for work, and sometimes my brother asks for money for his job applications and occasionally for practice expenses (he's a dancer) at hindi naman ako ganon ka close sa mama at kapatid ko so wala ganong usap or interaction between us except if sasabihin ni mama ni due na ng mga utility bills or if manghihingi kapatid ko ng pera. While typing this, I'm super stressed thinking about how I'm going to pay our electricity bill, which is due tomorrow, because they'll cut us off right away if I can't pay, and I only have 700 pesos left in my wallet.

Previous attempt: I've used up my savings just paying the bills.

Please give me some advice, I'm torn between renting alone again or sticking it out here, huhu, thanks!!🙏

problem/goal: i’m at a new school and i befriended a girl about last week? and ever since, we’ve grown so close and she’s shared EVERYTHN ab her and honestly… me too. things that i haven’t told anybody else of my new friends in the school.

context: ive shared and asked advice ab my complicated dating life, about this one guy, and honestly we joke about our sex lives. honestly, my goal was a fresh start at the school so im a bit worried i trust too much. though she opened up so so much ab her too (probably more than me), i just rlly hope that she wont hve all my secrets leaked bc thts what ive been so so worried about. so much for a FRESH start. 😭

previous attempts: none.

Any advice would be appreciated

Problem/Goal: I need ideas for anniversary gifts for my (19f) boyfriend (19m)

Context: Our 2nd anniversary is on the first week of October and I’m running out of ideas… I’m currently in college, 1st year, so hopefully something affordable :)

Previous attempts: Last year, I made him a scrapbook with our pictures and stuff, wrote him a long love letter too, and crocheted him a little teddy bear.

This year, I’m still doing my traditional love letters, but besides that what else can I give? Something sentimental… ano-anong mga gift nyo sa partners nyo for your anniversary?

Problem/Goal:

Anyone here knows a clinic or lab na nag-ooffer ng DNA/paternity testing? Preferably yung legit and reliable sana.

Context:

Posting this for my cousin. Hindi siya sure if siya talaga yung biological father ng bata because of some things na recently niya lang nalaman.

Yung anak niya is already 3 years old. To make the story short, nag-hook up sila ni BM, then after a few days, bigla na lang siyang sinendan ng positive PT. Medyo naive siya that time, so he decided to take responsibility. Since then, consistent naman siya sa pagsustento sa bata, and ngayon, alternate sila sa pag-aalaga.

What he knew before was single si BM nung nangyari yun. Pero recently, nalaman niya na around 2 weeks pa lang daw na walang contact si BM and yung ex niya nung time na nabuntis siya.

Nalaman din niya na yung bata apparently stayed with the ex's family for around a year (Since hindi nga naging sila and just decided na mag sustento and take turns nalang) and yung ex has also been consistently giving financial support since buntis pa si BM hanggang ngayon.

So basically, ngayon lang niya nalaman na parang dalawa pala silang nagsusustento sa bata eversince, which made him question the paternity. (As of now, tatlo sila since nag aabot din new bf ni BM)

Gusto lang sana niyang magpa-DNA test para makasigurado and for peace of mind. Hindi rin daw kamukha niya yung bata—different hair, skin tone, facial features, etc. Pero alam naman niyang hindi din naman proof yung physical resemblance.

If sa kanya naman yung bata, then that's better and he'll continue to be there for the child. If hindi naman sa kanya, he says tatanggapin niya rin. Gusto lang talaga niyang malaman yung truth para mapanatag siya.

For those who have experience with this, may alam ba kayong legit and reliable clinic/lab na nag-ooffer ng paternity DNA testing? Also, anong type of DNA test yung dapat niyang ipa-request?

Thank you!