And it makes me hate everything!!!

IN NO PARTICULAR ORDER-

-People who think they “gotcha” on social media posts

-Pedos

-People who suck at their jobs

-the town I live in is full of spoiled rich assholes who treat people like shit

-my 11 month old dumped a box of cookies on the carpet after dumping my cup of coffee a few hours earlier

BURN IT ALLLLLLLLLLL

My boyfriend and I seem to have very different ways of dealing with conflict. I'm naturally a calm person, but more importantly, I make a very conscious effort NOT to react in the heat of the moment. Even when I feel attacked, spoken to disrespectfully, or someone raises their voice at me, I try not to give them the same energy back.

It's not because I'm not angry or hurt. I just don't want anger to make me speak to someone I love in a way I wouldn't normally consider acceptable or respectful. I'd rather control my reaction, cool down, and communicate without saying things I'll regret later.

My boyfriend is very different. He is anxious, he can get heated extremely quickly, and I've noticed recently that relatively small disagreements can escalate very fast.Three incidents involving his puppy made me realize how much this pattern is starting to affect me. (For context, I've never owned a dog and have basically no experience with puppies. He obviously knows his dog and its limitations much better than I do)

Incident 1

The first time his puppy came to my apartment, he peed on the floor. I told my boyfriend to take him outside while I cleaned it. After cleaning, I put a few drops of bleach on the floor because I thought it would disinfect the area and help with the smell. I genuinely had no idea that this could potentially be dangerous around a dog. When my boyfriend came back and smelled the bleach, he immediately got very angry. He told me I was putting his dog in danger and that he couldn't trust me. I told him I genuinely didn't know, that now that he had told me I obviously wouldn't do it again, and suggested keeping the puppy in another room and closing the door so he wouldn't be exposed to it. I completely understood him being worried. What was difficult for me was that even after I acknowledged the mistake, explained that I didn't know and offered a solution, he remained angry at me for about an hour.

Incident 2

Another day, after a walk, we were walking home when he noticed that the puppy seemed to be stumbling or walking a little differently. He said something like, "Maybe we walked him too much today. It might have been too intense for him." I looked at the dog and said, "You think so? To me he seems okay, and we also sat in a bar for about an hour, so he had a pretty long break."

That was literally it.

I wasn't trying to tell him he was wrong about his own dog. I wasn't trying to convince him with anything as we are on our way home (5MIN) . In my head, we were simply having a normal conversation where one person says what they think and the other responds with what they think. He suddenly got very angry and said, "Stop minimizing what I'm saying. Am I allowed to worry about my own dog? He's a puppy, he shouldn't walk too much," etc. Again, he stayed angry with me for around an hour. I tried to explain that I wasn't minimizing anything and had zero intention of invalidating his concern. I was just responding to what he said and sharing what I observed.

This is where one of our biggest communication problems comes in: when he gets angry, I try to explain what I actually meant or clarify my intention, but my explanation often seems to make him even angrier rather than resolving the misunderstanding.

Incident 3

The next day, I suggested that we take the puppy to a park. Before leaving, I asked my boyfriend if he was okay with going there, and he agreed. He didn't know exactly where the park was and apparently thought it would take around 10min to get there. While we were already walking, he checked and realized it was actually still about 20 minutes away. He became angry with me because that would be too much walking for the puppy. He asked me whether, from now on, he needed to explain things to me in terms of kilometers — basically, if a walk is over approximately 2 km, I should understand that it's too much for the puppy. I said okay. Then I said I also had one request for him: when I suggest a place or activity involving his dog, I'd like him to do his own due diligence and check whether it works for the puppy before agreeing, because he's much better placed than I am to anticipate his dog's limitations and challenges.

I'm happy to respect whatever constraints he tells me about. But since it's his dog and he has much more experience and knowledge than I do, I don't think I should be the main responsible for anticipating every possible issue when I suggest an activity.

That's when he exploded.

He said what he had explained to me the previous day was perfectly understandable and asked why he needed to repeat himself. He asked whether I was capable of retaining information for 24 hours and whether I was a child who needed things repeated to her. He told me I was putting his dog in danger and said that if his dog eventually needed surgery because of this, I would be the one paying for it.

I still tried not to react to the way he was speaking to me. I told him that I understood his concern about the puppy. I wasn't asking him to repeat anything and I wasn't arguing that the puppy should walk more. I was simply asking him, as the owner, to also check whether an activity is suitable when I suggest something. I also told him that I didn't see why this disagreement justified asking whether I was a child or talking about me paying for hypothetical surgery.

His response was basically, "Okay, now you're really pissing me off. Stop. I'm not coming to your place or your city anymore. You're putting my dog in danger. Stop, I don't want to talk to you anymore."

At that point, I felt like nothing I could say was going to land well. So I stopped trying to defend myself and basically surrendered. I told him, "Okay, I'm sorry I suggested that park."

He walked away saying, "Stop, I can't anymore."

Later that evening, after he went home, he texted me: "I hate myself for getting this worked up every time."

And that message is important to me because he IS aware that he gets disproportionately angry. I am sure he's proud of it, and I'm not posting this to portray him as some horrible person. What concerns me is the pattern I'm starting to notice.

When he's upset with something I've done, he can express that very strongly and I make a conscious effort to listen, stay calm and not retaliate, even when I feel attacked. But when I try to explain my side, correct an assumption about my intentions, or especially set a boundary about HOW he's speaking to me, it almost never seems to land peacefully. It heats things up even more.

If I say, "That's not what I meant," he hears me as arguing. If I say, "I understand you're worried, but I don't think you should speak to me like I'm a child," the conversation escalates. If I ask him to take some responsibility too, it escalates.

And eventually I find myself thinking less about the actual disagreement and more about, "What can I say right now that won't make him even angrier?" ( i hate having coversation or being in the same room with a furious person). That's the part that bothers me.

I don't expect my partner to never get angry. And I don't expect myself to always be right. I can apologize, accept criticism and change my behavior when I've done something wrong. But I also don't want the solution to be that because I'm the calmer person, I'm always responsible for absorbing the anger, for managing the situation, staying diplomatic and carefully managing my responses while he gets to communicate however his emotions make him communicate.

For people who have been in relationships where one person is very calm/conflict-averse and the other gets heated very quickly: have you actually managed to find a healthy middle ground? Especially if you were the calmer partner, how did you handle being spoken to aggressively without either escalating the fight or just absorbing it?

And if you used to be the quick-tempered partner: what actually helped you change the way you communicated when angry? Was there something your partner could reasonably do that helped, or did you eventually realize that regulating your anger was something you had to learn to do yourself?

Im so fucking angry fuck everyone fuck everything fuck you fuck literally fucking everyone fuck off im so fucking angry FUCK YOU

If it was real my life wouldnt be so horrible. Years of thinking positively and hoping for the best and believing it would be better. Since I was child. It just gets worse and worse. If i see one more person say if you just believe in yourself it will go good. Im going to scream.

i’ve (25f) have mild experience dating, i’ve been in 3 relationships in my life so far. they’ve all ended on bad terms so i don’t speak to any of my exes. whenever i see happy couples online or in public, or even exes who still talk and have great relationships with each other, i feel this weird combination of resentment and sadness. i always keep it to myself, but there’s no way it doesn’t impact my life externally, even if i don’t notice. i don’t wanna feel this way forever, it feels good to hate in the moment but in the long term it’s exhausting and only makes me more miserable. i know i’m not the only one, so people who have felt this way and pushed past it, how did you do? hope this is the right sub for this, my post on the relationships sub was removed.

FUCK YOU

21 f
As the title says, i’ve been letting my anger bubble over, and i find it easy to let my anger out, specifically on my amazing boyfriend of 5 years and supportive family. and ive noted that ive been having mood swings. I was never like this until about a year and a half ago, in which that year i lost multiple family members, including my mom.

I find it difficult to overcome this anger and it usually overwhelms me quickly, and retreats as fast as it came in, leaving me embarrassed about my behaviour.

my question is; is this caused from grieving? will it phase out? what is the best approach in preventing mood swings and anger? like i said, i never was this kind of person until recently, so any advice would help me significantly! <3

There is no incentive to be moral, ethical or even the slightest bit considerate of your fellow human. Beyond that, those who behave without ethics, morals or even a miniscule amount of compassion and empathy are constantly rewarded at the direct expense of those who try to leave the world a little better than how they found it. There is no point to participating in anything constructive anymore. The takers keep taking and leaving less and less behind. They'll take your money, your home, your food, your love, your passion, your self worth and your sanity to fill their already overflowing coffers with more and more until they can't even remember why they take so much. If you aren't willing to ruin someone else, you can get in line for scraps and enjoy the slow march towards a miserable death after being wrung dry and reduced to a worthless husk of a person.

Hi guys,

Just wanted to rant about people downvoting for no reason. I published something on a plant subreddit to ask a question as i did not understand why it behaved that way, and some people started downvoting my post just because i was ignorant (hence why i was asking the question duh).

Some guy made a joking comment and i replied sarcastically and got some downvotes too.

Knowing how reddit works, it baffles me how people are downvoting right and left for no good reason.

Anyway, that just made me angry (i wanted to post on rant but ironically i now don't have enough karma to 😅).

"You got what you bargained for," was one official response (from Nintendo, I think).

While the corporations are getting tariff refunds from the hundreds of millions to billions, they're not at all liable to pass those refunds onto the ones who bore the cost: us. The corporate response has been an obtuse smack in the face to consumers. These companies are essentially stealing from us with zero repercussions.

Consumers are being treated like cattle and nothing is putting the ranchers in check. Personally, I'm boycotting any company on the refund list. I don't expect anyone to follow suit, but damn - it seems like the majority of us enjoy getting fucked...

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Ok im only 18 so pretty young but how did I manage to get ghosted four times FOUR times. For some reason life has decided that I'll never get a gf because every single time I've asked someone out I have gotten ghosted it's not even they didn't reply to my initial message we always have a whole chat and they wouldn't show you to the date JUST SAY NO AT THIS POINT. And I don't even know what's the probability of that happening every single time I've asked someone out. For some reason now I have developed a 100% record of getting ghosted in my life. I think I'm just gonna give up at this point

They’re incredibly homophobic last week one was on some fucking bullshit about how water and processed makes men gay. I know for a fact if they knew I was bisexual they’d get me fired because everyone at my job is an Evangelical Christian except for me. Fucking hate it here.

I guess I’m still triggered by married men hitting on me. And when I see posts saying “bored married male looking for penpal or whatever” - it just infuriates me. Fix your home life before you damage people that you once cared about with your behavior. It disgusts me. Your soul is ugly.

Okay so I have this one friend going on and on about hanging out with me, when i CLEARLY said that I can’t or don’t have the energy. But she keeps bugging me so I actually never wanna hang out with her anymore. And ofc I do understand if I cancel plans on her the last minute, BUT I DONT. Cut me some slack I literally don’t wanna hang out with you 7+ times a week. What the fuck should I do, because I’m so fucking tired of this shit!!

Yeah exactly as the title reads. We're all adults. It's a fun, noncompetitive league. They didn't ask if they could make content from the game. They didn't ask if we were okay with them filming. And they were making fun of us because we weren't as good as them.

I never in my life anticipated grown adults filming me and mocking me while I'm trying to have fun and get some exercise in. I THINK they were livestreaming??? Who knows. They didn't tell us.

We got the umpire to ask them to stop because I would have been caught on film saying some shit if I tried to confront them myself.

I have no idea what made them think that was acceptable. I feel like I'm losing my mind.

you kno what u human dirt.... the sword u use one day might be used against urself. so stopriding so high!

ALSO: Do Dirt, get Dirt!

my bloods literally running black

I’m saying it because couples, gay and straight, married, engaged and dating have had the attention and celebration for TOO LONG and as a single person I am sick of it. On behalf of myself and single people everywhere, I am sick of us being underestimated, under appreciated, under celebrated, under respected and looked down on. I will never congratulate any couple ever. I’m only congratulating singles because we need to have our turn to rise. We deserve celebration, respect, appreciation, and a holiday dedicated to us.

Nothing pisses me off more then the fits of those corny bike tok fuckers. Like every time I see one of those videos on my feed i genuinely know my day reached rock bottom. I can’t explain how much this shit pisses me off. Maybe because they are grown men in hello kitty pants trying to act all dorky and shit, so fifteen year old girls can comment horny bs under their videos.
And also why the fuck does every single on of them look copy pasted like does baggy hello kitty sweats and a compression shirt come in a starter pack with the bike or what’s going on? Anyways if you’re on of those fuck faces just remember that I will see you as a joke til the day I die.

Here how this goes. In 2018, during summer vacation, i joined this summer program. At the end of it, we had a talent show I wanted to do breakdancing, but teachers said it was not safe. However, the next summer when i went to the program at the next talent show, a kid got to perform what I wanted to do the previous year. That day still makes my blood boil.

So I'm actually starting to get pissed because every time I tell my dad that I'm changing he still opens the door to the point where he could see me and this morning he actually peeked inside the room while trying to talk to me. So like you can talk to me through the door, you know that right...? The doors aren't made of fucking concrete I can still hear through them. And yes, I'm a hormonal teenager so sometimes changing isn't the only thing I'll be doing. BUT STILL OMFG KEEP THE DAMN DOOR CLOSED WHEN I TELL YOU TO. It's called privacy dad have you ever heard of it? What are you trying to look at? Jesus Christ. Do anyone else's parents do this or am I in the right for getting annoyed as hell whenever he does this shit?

Edit: I tried to have a calm talk about and asked him for some privacy but he got super angry and started yelling at me. I have a voice note of the things he said and he was talking about about how I'm being a hypocrite since a couple times when he picked me up at my moms house (my parents are divorced) I make him wait a little but when I'm getting ready. We did have a conversation about that a couple weeks ago and I told him I was sorry and that from now on I'll do better and be out the door on time and since then I haven't been late. Anyways he says that because of that he feels disrespected so if I want my privacy respected then I should respect him. I don't know the way he said it really made me feel like I'm in the wrong and overreacting but what do you think?

today I wanna be PISSED. so here's my lineup of activities to fulfill that:

1: SENSORY OVERLOAD FROM TAPPING MY BOTTLE ON MY DESK OVER AND OVER UNTIL FUMING.

2: PLAY WAR THUNDER UNTIL FUMING OR SHAKING.

3: PLAY BRAWLHALLA UNTIL FEEEUUUUMMINN.

4: ANGRY ASMR LISTENING.

5: PLAY ROCK PAPER SCISSORS WITH MYSELF UNTIL I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE

6TH AND FINAL ACTIVITY: FROLIC IN THE FEILD

I just fucking hate it report this post idgaf anymore

I am always and constantly feeling a huge unforgiving rage and need for vengeance. I feel as inside I am full of fire and anger. I see the innocent being harmed and I feel responsible to enact vengeance. I have experienced a lot of tragedy in my life and wicked people. I feel like I need to rid the world of evil and become vengeance. I hate so much, the world has so much evil, prejudice, and wickedness. I feel like I am the only one feeling emotions as powerful and burning as these. I want vengeance, I want justice, I want to not be angry.