r/askteddit • u/External-Clock-4326 • 5h ago
Advice Question loyalty
hey guys im wondering if loyalty comes naturally when you fall in love with someone
ive never been in love but i have gotten close to it a few times, and every single time ive thought about hooking up with other people. ive never acted upon it obviously, but i still wanna know if this is normal
will it be different when i actually fully fall in love with someone? like will i just naturally not want other people anymore or is that not really how it works?
i really dont want it to be this way. i dislike it when i realize that i wouldnt mind hooking up with other people even though i know it would absolutely destroy me if my partner did the same thing to me. and i dont wanna be hypocritical about it either
i guess im wondering if this is just because ive never actually been in love, or if even when youre genuinely in love with someone, you can still have thoughts about other people and wanting to hook up with them
for people who are actually in love / have been in love for a long time, does loyalty feel natural to you? like do you genuinely just not want anyone else, or is being loyal something you consciously choose even when youre attracted to other people?
i know having thoughts doesnt mean id actually do anything, but i still dont love the fact that my brain goes there in the first place ðŸ˜
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u/SnooFoxes691 4h ago
No. An SO takes way too much of your time and weekends. Unless you grow distant there's a chance you might get bored.
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u/Kibrab-Thembi 4h ago
loyalty is basically just the daily choice to ignore your own brain which treats every stranger like a free sample at a grocery store
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u/Bassey-Quesi 4h ago
loyalty is just the administrative burden of not having to introduce your parents to someone new every six months
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u/McbootsinShaddaii66 4h ago
loyalty is basically just the fact that we're all too exhausted to manage the logistics of a secret life