I was on the fence about going to this postpartum baby yoga class near me because it's pretty expensive, $30 for an hour whereas all the other classes at this studio are $20 for 90 minutes. And money is really tight right now. But I thought, what the hell, I'll treat myself to one class and see what it's all about.

Class was at 10:45 so I started to get ready around 9 am. Got myself showered and dressed while baby was napping. Baby woke up at 9:45, I changed her, fed her, got her dressed in this cute little outfit to show her off, put her down under her baby gym while I ate breakfast. She was in a great mood and I was feeling proud of myself for leaving plenty of time to get ready. Got all her stuff together, diaper bag, change of clothes just in case, grabbed my yoga mat. At 10:40 just as I was getting ready to put her in her carrier and walk out the door (later than I was hoping to leave but the yoga studio is just down the street) she starts crying and rooting. I'm not proud to say, I immediately burst into tears.

I considered trying to show up late -- surely since she had just eaten 45 minutes ago this would be a short feed -- but that didn't pan out because she ended up staying on the boob until 11:20. I emailed asking if I could move my reservation to next week but I'm not hopeful since I didn't get my email out until after class had started.

So now I'm out $30 and my baby is all dressed up with nowhere to go. I feel like a complete idiot for thinking this was a good idea. Learn from my mistakes, don't try to go to mom & baby activities before 6 months. Save your money and stay home.

Idk if this is normal but I got the final bill for both my baby’s NICU stay and my labor

For my birth is was almost $70k (THANK FUCK INSURANCE COVERED IT) and for the NICU is was like $90k for a week

WHAT THE FUCK, from the bottom of my heart, truly WHAT THE FUCK

I got laid off so don’t work and my partner and I aren’t married so the state essentially paid for my birth and NICU minus $3k because I’m on state insurance but from the bottom of my heart whhyyyyy wtffff who tf can pay this???? Why is it this much???? Who has this money just laying about????

Is this really how much this cost??? Am i insane for thinking this isn’t normal?????

I’ll keep it simple since there’s no way around it. The hospital, Memorial Hospital down in FL, is charging us $27k for delivery our baby. The hospital is out of network for the baby but the hospital was in network for mom for the c-section.

Bottom line, apparently we had to find a hospital that was in network for both mom and baby prior to any of this so that we could get covered by both companies. As a surprise to no one we did not know that and now we are being billed $27k.

We already sent an appeal to the insurance which got denied, the hospital just points back at the insurance, and we have no idea what else to do. Looking for any advice from people in similar situations.

Also, out of curiosity, in a situation like this, what are you supposed to do during birth? Get the c-section at the designated hospital and then somehow convince the doctors to transport the baby to a different hospital that is in network for them?? Genuinely, this is baffling, i think i would have been better off sending my wife away to canada or something for the 9 months and then have her come back after everything was done 🫩

Posting here mainly to vent after the sixth night wake-up of our sick one-year-old while my husband snores.

My husband and I had very little marital issues up until the birth of our first child together. He mostly cooked, did his own laundry, paid for a cleaning service, and more. I genuinely felt like our domestic duties were split fairly.

Cut to the birth of our son and I was immediately saddled with 100% of the nights despite many conversations about my desire for him to take over mornings (he always gets up around 5am so I can sleep uninterrupted). I went so far as to purchase and organize a second set of everything for his downstairs office/guest room so this could be done—extra crib, sheets, clothes, blankets, towels, etc. He never used it. It sat at the top of our steps until I finally put it away myself.

I even used to pump, keep up my over supply so he had bottles to give and had a stocked freezer for this very purpose. All while only getting 2-3 hours of sleep at a time for MONTHS.

At the time I justified the brunt of childcare falling on my lap because he was working long hours at a startup and I was only working part-time. However now that I am working more, watching my son full time, and going back to school to get a secondary degree, having to study late at night after my son goes to bed, I am STILL doing nights by myself.

Even more infuriating, if I’m not in bed and am trying to get work done for class, he will text me to let me know our son is up crying and I didn’t respond in a quick enough matter of time and it’s interrupted his sleep.

I’m so beyond resentful of him it’s destroyed everything I felt we had in marriage. He’s a good dad during the day, our son loves him, but he’s not a partner. He hasn’t even done a fraction of the work I’ve done and honestly I want to leave once I’m financially stable again, but I don’t want to do that to my son.

Anyways, there’s not really a point to this other than to express my growing resentment and frustration. I never thought I’d be in this situation either. I thought I married one of the “good” ones, but having a child has changed our marriage for the worst and I don’t know how it will recover.

TLDR: my son is one-year-old and my husband has never done a night shift despite us both working and me going back to school. I’m burnt out and resentful, this isn’t the man I married.

OH. Editing to add that I do basically 100% of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, food shopping, and household management.

I really didn’t think I could experience gender disappointment. But I found out we are having our second boy. We only want two kids, so this is it for us. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t incredibly disappointed and grieving the daughter I thought I would have. I don’t doubt I will love this baby boy so much, just like my first; but I cannot pretend I’m not insanely disappointed and sad that I will never have a daughter. I have a great relationship with my mom and wanted to have that with a daughter.
Those who have boys; what did you do to help you overcome your gender disappointment? What are things I can look at as positives moving forward knowing I’ll be a boy mom?

how do you feel about it?

Our first baby is about 6 weeks old. Due to a lot of factors we are currently triple feeding him.

Therefore, he gets a lot of cold formula and pumped breastmilk out of the fridge unheated.
Several times now while family has been over they’ve seen me get a bottle straight out of the fridge and give it to him. They act like they’ve seen a second coming of Christ and can’t believe he’ll drink a cold bottle.

Before having the baby we saw all the bottle warmers and such and figured babies probably preferred warm ones but never thought too hard about it.

Is this really that big of a deal? Are we unknowingly really lucky not having to heat milk/formula up at 3 am or while we’re out in public?

I would love to hear from others about their experiences with cold vs. warm feedings.

I’m still pretty freshly postpartum (5 weeks) and I’m exclusively pumping. I’m 25 pounds heavier than my pre pregnancy weight and although I’m trying not to stress about it right now, the number on the scale is in the back of my mind. Is it even possible to lose weight while breast feeding? I want to get back to lifting weights and I do go for nightly walks with my family. I know my body did an amazing thing and is still doing an amazing thing by breast feeding but I’d also like to feel good about myself.

My mom meal prepped for my first and it was a huge help when I had a c-section. My second is due in early January and will be a second c-section. It’s a little different this time as my mom won’t be able to do the prep for me and I have a toddler. For those who have meal preped for postpartum, what were the family faves? bonus if it landed well with a consistenly inconsistent picker eater.

Starting out by saying that me and my MIL have a good relationship and she is a good person but jesus she sucks with babies.

She only had one kid and my baby is 3 month old, she just doesn't listen. I tell her he is getting tired she says she is going to try to make him sleep but gives up after about 3 minutes into soothing him.

She puts toy after toy after toy on his face and think that's playing. She literally put him in his carrier and just stood there looking at him singing thinking he would just fall asleep.

How do you deal with your in laws or family overall when they are helping you taking care of the baby? I am a FTM so nothing that I would actually appreciate more than a more experienced mother showing me some tricks or sharing this heavy job with me.

I have always had some health anxiety but now that I’m a mom I’m just so extremely scared of getting sick and dying.
Has anyone else had the same experience?
And yes, I have a therapist etc!

Anyone else experience this? I’m not concerned, just curious. My baby’s adjusted age is 10 weeks, and chronological age is 16 weeks.

Probably around 2 months home, I’d let my in-laws watch him for a few hours. It was nice, but now, I can’t stand to even be away that long. I think part of it is that he’s more alert now, and I feel like if I’m distressed without him, he must miss me too.

I also went back to work recently and have someone who babysits him in my house while I work from home. I hate it lol. I just want to take care of him.

Hi everyone,

Mum to an 11 day old baby, and sadly I’ve got 0 breastmilk supply so he’s exclusively bottle fed. We’ve been using ready made formula, and now have a Nuby cool system to move to powdered formula.

My question: the scoop for actimel powder doesn’t nicely empty into the Nuby powder dispenser. Are there any recommended tips and tricks to make that easier that anyone’s aware of?

Thanks so much, love this community, it’s been so helpful so far 💜

Hey guys, I’m getting the itch to take my 6 week old camping. The thought makes me excited but then I think about all the things we need to bring and get a little overwhelmed… please tell me all the products you brought and or bought for your baby that made your life easier for camping.

Is anybody experiencing pain in calves? It feels like precramping pain. Sometimes it’s just one leg at a time, sometimes it’s both. It would stay for a few days and go away then come back. I’m 3 months postpartum and I have benign fasciculation syndrome.

My LO just turned 10 weeks old today. My wife and I are wanting to add a book to our nighttime routine. We use soft books during the day as a playtime activity. Currently our routine is diaper change, pajamas, sleep sack, white noise, feed (breast fed) and rock to sleep before placing in bassinet. It has worked well so far and luckily we have a good sleeper. Where should we add a book/bedtime story? Before the entire routine starts? before the last feed? or after the feed before we place into bassinet? We are having a hard time deciding as we want baby to engage with the book but feel that would also serve as a distraction when we are trying to wind down. I have also suggested me reading the story out loud while baby feeds as to not disrupt the current routine but still have some “story time”.

Side note: I know baths help with a nighttime routine also but am worried it would dry their skin out. Do you use soap every time or just get them wet? Sorry for all the questions, I’m new to this!

Thanks in advance for any help or suggestions!

Like I wouldn’t put dirty underwear on after taking a shower and don’t want to put a diaper on her that she’s already worn after she’s just had a bath but at the same time diapers cost money as we all know here and I’d hate to throw away a diaper that’s still dry so my solution has just been to wait for a wet diaper first. Please tell me I’m not crazy for this

We have a 4 month old and we’re on the 4 naps/day schedule. Usually we try to have the last nap ends at 530-6 for 730-8 bedtime with 2ish hours wake window. Sometimes his 3rd nap is at awkward times like 3-330 to 4-430. In this case, is it better to have a 4th quick nap at 6-630 and put him down for bedtime at 9-930? OR skip the 4th nap and put him down early at 6-630?

My third child is 16mo and barely talks. It took forever to get to “mama” and “dada”. He doesn’t label either of us, he just says them for anything. Even when he cries, it’s just crying, not asking for anyone. He can also say “nana”, “gaga”, and “gog”.

He also knows a few signs but they are meshed together. “Help”, “more”, “and “milk” are all the same sign. “Please” is a chaotic Wheels On The Bus motion.

If you ask him where the car/ball/keys are, he will look for them and maybe go get them. If you say to give a kiss/hug, he might do it. If you say “outside”, he goes to the door.

He points to his nose, ears, belly button, and fingers when asked.

But “gog” is EVERYTHING. If it’s because of a dog, it is a very distinct “Gah-g”. But everything is “gog” too. Cow, car, ball, book, shoes, ect. If you ask him to say xx, he says “gog”.

Is this remotely close to normal? I’m stressed out. I know I shouldn’t be but admittedly, my anxiety is worse with this kiddo.

Thank you in advance.

hello!

i am currently 4mo pp vaginal delivery no complications. after about a month i started going on walks ~3x week and after 2 months i tried to go daily (really just when baby allows) about a month ago, i started working out again. i’m trying to lose weight for my brothers wedding in november but making sure to eat enough to keep my supply up.

about a week ago (the day after my husband and i had sex), i saw some tissue like stuff when i peed and had a light pink discharge for a couple days, then it turned into darker red (not quite bloody like a period, more slimey). that happened for about 2-3 days. it started calming down, then just yesterday i passed a quarter (ish) sized clot thing when i peed.

i am also getting some lower abdomen pain when i go for simple walks after about 10-15 minutes. i just switched insurance so i am trying to set up an appointment asap but wanted to hear if anyone else has experienced something similar.

im not convinced it was my period, but it could have been. i’m not sure if im working out too hard, or maybe sex stirred up some loose stuff i had in there. i have no idea. but the pain while walking is what concerns me.

edit: spelling

My mom came to help with baby for three weeks after the birth and ever since then she’s been acting so weird. She takes everything personally and it’s all about her.
Baby is two months now and she’s complaining that she never hears from me. I’m like come on lady I barely have time to shower so you’re lucky if I remember to send you a photograph here and there. I don’t know what to do about her. I don’t really feel like I need to be managing her emotions when I have so much else going on.
I’ll be forty years old in October and I feel like she doesn’t remember what having a newborn is really like. Also on my plate is managing my husbands visa process after we moved back to my other passport country so paperwork has been plentiful.

So my three best friends and I all had babies within a couple months of each other (which has been amazing!). Our babies currently range between four and six months old.

I’ve always been the biggest baby person in our group. But it’s like something happened to me postpartum where I just do nooooot care at all about anyone’s baby but mine. Obviously, I’d never tell them this or make it known in any way. But these are friends I’ve had for 20 years; they’re the closest thing I’ve ever had to sisters. I really thought I’d feel more of a bond toward their children.

Did anyone else experience this? Did it go away?

I was solo parenting this weekend with our 11 month old and 2.5 year old while my husband was out of town on a guys trip. Work has also been hectic lately, and my kids (and me) have been sick on and off with daycare illnesses for the past month. I told my husband before we went to bed last night that I’ve been feeling really burnt out and haven’t had a break in weeks. He was supportive in the moment and says he’ll support me anytime I need a break.

Then, this morning he tells our toddler that “mommy is going to take you” to his little friends birthday party this upcoming weekend and “daddy is going to stay here with baby sister while she naps.” ☠️

And then turns to me, and says he forgot to mention he’s taking a client to a baseball game tomorrow night and won’t be home until after the kids go to bed. (No issues with him having to do stuff for work like this, but this keeps happening where he forgets and tells me at the last minute)

Since our kids were there I sent him a strongly worded text telling him that he is now in charge of buying a calendar that will hang in our kitchen that he needs to update as soon as an event for work is scheduled, no more volunteering me for events until we have a mutual conversation first, and I will be leaving the house and doing something for myself at some point this weekend.

I am just incredulous and absolutely done with being treated like my bandwidth has no limits. Just venting and so frustrated. My husband is a smart man, and it’s really hard for me to look at situations like this and believe he really just doesn’t know or realize what he’s doing and how it impacts me. Regardless, it needs to stop.