As a 641 I can tell that I help others so that the things I fear as a 6 don't happen to others. But I don't have any drive to actively help or volunteer that a 2 would.

Can anyone with 2 and 6 in their tritype tell me how they differentiate 2 giving from 6 giving?

I'm just hoping to get some more activity going on this subreddit. I'm Sx / Sp 6w7 683

- severe fear of confrontations / difficult conversations
- swallows their hurt / negative feelings so as to not create problems (this causes resentment to build which then leads to an inevitable explosion)
- always feels responsible for other peoples emotions
- gets lost in other peoples emotional worlds to the point of self abandonment (why are they behaving the way they are)
- self blames/ criticises a lot (v introspective?)
- can be evasive to avoid emotional reactions from others
- feels like they walk on eggshells around hot tempered/ loud/ blunt people
- overthinks to a ridiculous degree
- oversensitive (cries quickly)
- suppresses anger a lot
- cant handle disappointing others / others being annoyed or upset with them
- inwardly very emotionally intense
- highly compromising in interpersonal relationships / will bend over backwards to save them
- prefers to keep things such as love life / family life / conflicts private
- difficulty expressing needs
- feels very guilty after doing something that they perceive as bad (such as speaking ill of someone)
- v regretful after emotional outbursts
- sensitive to being misunderstood
- potential martyl complex deep down (i keep trying to make everyone happy but still everything falls apart in the end)
- tries not to hold grudges
- can be overly optimistic about peoples intentions at times

what would ur opinion be on instinctual variant as well?

hi, I think i have a general idea of how 6 works, but this question just came up after reading different descriptions.

I've seen some say 6s are proactive, but i also see others say 6s can be very avoidant. the former deals with danger before it affects them while the latter avoids being at fault if something bad does happen.

based on your experience, is one of these more correct than the other? or is it more about differences between wings/fixes/natural variation since 6s can be very diverse? or maybe both are absolutely possible?

apologies if thw title does not accurately encapsulate my question.

There seems to be a stereotype that 6s are always testing their loved ones until they fully trust them. Do you do that and how?

I will be posting a version of this to every type's subreddit, and when I'm done I'll go back in and edit it with links to every other one for people's interest.

Here are the others: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 7, 8, 9

I’m not anxious like 70% of the time. Also, I’ve been called chill, intimidating, and grounded. Grounded seems crazy for 6.

that’s it :)

how do phobic sixes tend to deal with conflict and anger as opposed to nines (myself)? As a nine I avoid conflict or wait it out by being passive aggressive or just disappearing and can easily go all day without texting. I know phobic sixes also flee when it comes to conflict but I know they are in the Reactive triad so I'm curious about the nuances here?
Thanks!

Sx6s, from your experience, people with which instinctual variants are the most compatible with you romantically? And with which instinctual variants are the least compatible with you romantically?

Please write if you're sx/sp or sx/so.

Also if you noticed that you tend to be compatible/ incompatible with certain Enneagram types, you can add that as well.

Hey I’m a type 5 and my boyfriend is a 6. Does anyone have thoughts on how to make this work as a match? I value space and independence a lot and he isn’t very good at respecting my boundaries and needs constant reassurance. We are similar in a lot of other ways: we are very loyal, both a little weird & introverted. The need for reassurance is getting to be a lot though, as someone who isn’t naturally expressive. I communicate a lot to reassure him but no matter what he always feels the need to overstep my boundaries or have me prove that I really care about him. I love him a lot and my need for a bit of independence in no way takes away from that, so I find it difficult when he is constantly seeking attention in unusual ways, because it just feels false and disrespectful. I know all 6s aren’t like this and he probably has some insecurities to deal with, but does anyone have any helpful advice for how to do the best I can in this relationship?

I’m having insomnia because I’m imagining worst case scenarios for a situation that’ll happen in a few days.

So I figured out I’d write some stuff about type 6:

• I don’t understand why it’s sometimes called the loyalist. We’re not dogs and I don’t think 6s are necessarily more loyal than other types. I think the skeptic is a more appropriate label
• 6s doubt themselves but others/outside systems as well
• I feel like the world or existence inherently lack safety barriers and that there isn’t anything that can fulfill that need of "security" all by itself
• I’m mainly looking for security, but in my case I translate it as a need for certainty, solid grounds that I can rely on
• I wish I could trust myself more and not second guess so much
• I’m envious of people who believe in God because I think it gives them a sense of safety when everything else fails
• My "stressors" can be super existential but also super mundane
• I feel stressed when I don’t know how I’ll be able to handle a situation, I don’t like to feel unprepared
• Once I know how to handle stuff or if I’m sure I’ll be able to handle it, idgaf
• I don’t need to prepare for everything, just the things outside of my comfort zone
• I like "controlled chaos"
• Imo the main protagonist from the Polar Express is very representative of type 6
• I thought I was a 5 for a while because of my tendency to withdraw under stress
• I thought I was a 4 for a while because of my strong envy and feeling alienated from others
• I think variants and subtypes are useless