People always seem to claim that men's mental health is super ignored and minimized vs women's mental health is taken more seriously.

What an absolute joke may I say. Our mental health wasn't ignored that's true, it was just used against us to abuse us, discredit us, make us seem stupid or incompetent. In no way is this a good example of how we were treated as people with mental health challenges. Men with mental health difficulties are more ignored because they have failed patriarchy. Both situations are tragic of course.

We go through significant amounts of trauma during our lives and yeah this causes reactions. And the way people depicts women in mental health crisis, or talk about them is always so humiliating. As if suddenly when we show actual symptoms we're pretending. It seems that men can believe PTSD only when it happens to soldiers when it literally happens in their very homes.

Sorry this post is a bit disorganized but I needed this out after learning about Lindsay Clancy. I don't have an opinion yet on the trial or the case but good God people are so stupid and misogynistic.

I recently read about the Lai Dai Han and it honestly stuck with me.

They are people born to Vietnamese mothers and South Korean fathers during the Vietnam War. Some of those mothers have said they were raped or coerced by South Korean soldiers, and many women and children then lived with stigma and silence for years afterward.

What bothered me most was how familiar the pattern feels. Men commit violence, governments argue over responsibility, historians debate numbers and wording, and meanwhile the women who actually lived through it are expected to just continue with their lives.

It also made me think about how selective people can be with women’s suffering. Some cases become symbols everyone knows about. Others barely get discussed, especially when acknowledging them would make an ally or respected country look bad.

I don’t think feminism can talk seriously about war without talking about what happens to women after the headlines disappear.

Had you heard of the Lai Dai Han before?

For decades, the male body was treated as the default in biomedical research.

As Dr. Jennifer Garrison has highlighted, women were often excluded from clinical trials because hormonal cycles were considered "too complicated," and because of concerns that experimental treatments could affect a pregnancy.

As a result, many medications, disease models, and treatment guidelines were developed using predominantly male participants. Female biology remained underrepresented across biomedical research, with female animals often excluded from laboratory studies until sex became a required biological variable in federally funded preclinical research in 2016.

Decades of underrepresentation left major gaps in our understanding of female biology. One of the most significant consequences is how much we still have to learn about ovarian biology.

Far beyond reproduction, the ovaries help regulate hormones that influence the brain, bones, muscles, metabolism, cardiovascular health, and immune function. Their health has profound implications for women's healthspan and longevity, yet for decades, one of the organs most central to healthy aging received remarkably little scientific attention.

Better science starts with studying everyone.

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TW- this is an awful story.

I'm enraged that they didn't mention the rapist father until the third paragraph. A 14 year old girl can't drive, impregnate herself, or abandon anything.

It's not until the third paragraph, they finally mention that the father is hiding his daughter.

Join us on Saturday 5 September for a counter-protest against the British anti-abortion movement's March for Life, heavily influenced by US Christian far-right group Alliance Defending Freedom (ADF), which campaigns against LGBTQ+ rights and women's reproductive rights.

This protest is a vital stand for reproductive rights and a reminder that abortion is healthcare — not a crime.

Women's rights were fought for, and they must be defended. Britain is not immune to anti-abortion politics.

Together, let's make our voices heard!

11AM

Meet outside Emmanuel Centre, Marsham St, London SW1P 3DW

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1PM

Millicent Fawcett Statue at Parliament Square

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I have a friend who was getting told rude things by a senior. Like he touched her inappropriately!! He would always say disgusting thinks like 'u should wear less clothing so I can see better' or say that her breasts are too small that she should gain some weight(she's underweight) one time he had the nerve to say it while I was with her. She finally got fed up and complained to the principal. The first thing the principal said 'y don't u just avoid him' and then he called HER parents even tho she specially said that she didn't want her parents knowing. The principal laughed and told them the problem. Her father thought it was just a false alarm and laughed too. Then her mother was mad at her. She didn't come to school for a week and when she did she had dark circles and her face was completely pale

I've become a lot more politically engaged over the past year — I follow current events, form opinions, and I genuinely enjoy discussing them. But I keep running into the same pushback from different directions.

With my parents: whenever politics comes up and I point out something factually wrong in what they're saying, it turns into a lecture. They connect my interest in politics to me not clearing NEET, saying it's a distraction. Their argument is that unless I clear something like UPSC and actually hold power, caring about politics is pointless.

With friends at my PG: a casual conversation turned political, and most of the girls didn't want to engage. Their reasoning was similar — discussing it changes nothing since we're not public figures, so it just ends up making us feel worse for no reason.

My counterargument has been that awareness matters, that movements start with ordinary people caring before anyone has formal power, and that refusing to even discuss things doesn't seem reasonable just because we're not in charge.

Honestly, what gets to me more than any single argument is just how apolitical most people around me seem to be. It's not that they disagree with me — they don't even want to engage. At my PG, the moment politics came up, it was an immediate wall: "don't discuss politics here," "not right now," "not this topic" — no one even willing to hear the sentence out. And at home, the second I bring something up, I'm treated like I'm talking nonsense, like I'm just a distracted kid who should shut up and study.

It genuinely makes me sad. This is a country of over a billion people, and it sometimes feels like almost no one wants to actually sit with an uncomfortable topic for five minutes. Caring is treated like the weird thing, and not caring is treated like the mature, responsible default.

The one person who doesn't make me feel this way is my boyfriend. He's someone who actually stays engaged with what's happening around him and cares when people are being hurt or treated unfairly. Talking to him about this stuff feels different — like the caring itself isn't something I have to justify or defend. It's made me realize how rare that is, and how much most of my other conversations feel like I'm the problem just for wanting to talk.

So yeah — maybe I'm asking two questions now: is their "you have no power so why bother" argument reasonable? And separately — am I wrong to feel this disheartened by how few people even want to have the conversation at all?

My 5 year old loves princesses and all things girly. This is not something I promote or discourage. I want her to be herself and decide what she likes on her own. So when she recently had her 5th birthday at preschool she chose Disney princess cupcakes to bring to her class. Disney princesses aren’t my favorite but she likes it.

I felt annoyed when her teachers removed the princess figurines from the tops of the boys cupcakes, yet when there have been more “boy themed” celebrations the girls aren’t catered to and just expected to celebrate with the boy items. It’s almost like the boys shouldn’t have to be subjected to “girl” things but not the other way around. Is this trivial to notice or am I right to be a little put off?

"thats not a real man" no that is an a adult male and the majority of them are misogynistic. don't infantalize them, they know what they're doing.

The question says it all, but I have recently noticed a trend amongst South Asian women solo travelling or having gone to the West for education making statements that lack nuance to elevate their own standing in front of white people. They love to portray the women in their culture as oppressed and subjugated (which a lot of us are, no doubt).

However, it often comes off as self-indulging whilst also reeking of colonial hangover. The women in our culture are doing so much for themselves. They're fighting the dated perceptions of their parents, travelling on their own dime, getting out of abusive marriages, and building their own career. To simply shrug and claim that the women in our culture have no little liberty to gain higher education, have freedom, and leave abusive marriages while existing as an antithesis to those very claims makes our people seem regressive and dated, almost barbaric.

Please, feel free to correct me constructively, I'd appreciate a fruitful discussion without personal, hurtful comments.

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and i add my current favourite from Germany

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I work at a tattoo studio, and I recently posted a Reel on my professional social media account discussing women’s experiences in the workplace, harassment, autonomy, and the importance of respecting personal boundaries.

The video was intentionally general. I did not mention the studio, any coworkers, or any specific situation. I did not accuse anyone of anything, and I even left a comment on the post making it clear that the video was a general reflection and not a personal story.
Shortly afterward, the owner of the studio, who is also my tattoo mentor, messaged me late at night on WhatsApp saying that the video “didn’t sit well with the guys at the studio.”

He specifically mentioned several of my male coworkers and said that, because the studio is a place where I am “welcomed” and the staff is mostly/all male, my post could be interpreted as me generalizing about them and creating tension within the workplace.
What bothers me is that nobody was actually named or accused. The video was about a broader social issue, and I never said that my coworkers or my workplace had done anything to me.

I now feel pressured to explain myself and, implicitly, to remove the video. To me, that feels like an attempt to control what I can and cannot say on my own professional social media account simply because some coworkers identified themselves with a topic I was discussing in general terms.

I understand that people can feel uncomfortable with certain opinions, and I also understand that workplace relationships can be sensitive. But at what point does expressing a general opinion become “attacking your workplace”?

I don’t want to create unnecessary conflict, but I also don’t think I should have to delete a completely non-specific post just because other people assumed it was about them.

Am I in the wrong for refusing to delete the video? How would you handle this situation?

Thank you.