I've always said that im pansexual REGARDLESS of gender. and i have no preference really, idc about the gender if the vibe is right it's right. however... come to think of it i think i do have a preference. im currently in a committed relationship with my boyfriend of 6 years (he identified as a girl when we first started dating , and transitioned roughly one year after)
but when i imagine dating someone hypothetically, i really don't see myself with a man. not a cis man anyway. and i do find fictional cis men pretty or attractive even now, but i guess...most cis men's personalities aren't the greatest 😭😭 maybe id be with a queer bisexual cis man, but even that's a stretch.
i dont think men can understand women the way non men can understand women. i think we'd have communication issues and it wouldn't work out. all this is hypothetical of course bc i happen to have found the perfect man who can read me like a book. but idk if i can go around calling myself pansexual when i know that i have such a strong preference. also i think on average, women are prettier, and femininity, even on men, is prettier and more attractive than masculinity on men. masculine men tend to be jerks... (masc women on the other hand 🤭🤭)