r/getting_over_it • u/CapableCoconut7110 • 3d ago
Need help
This guy and I became friends online and have been friends for close to a year. I found him really hot in the beginning but it didn't work out. Then he started dating a guy which he told me about when we met for the first time irl. That was a surprise for me as I had different intentions for our meet.
He still flirted with me in chats and i straight up refused to be someone's second choice.
He broke up with that guy and found a really hot guy at his gym. Which made me feel bad cause why didn't he notice me.
Then he tells me he has been intimate with a guy who was horrible to me(we didn't know e/o that time) and then proceeds to show me pictures of them together.
That was like a knife to the heart for a few reasons. Reasons which I don't wanna tell the world cause of what that would mean for me.
Cut to today we talked after a few months and he wants to catch up. I don't wanna catch feelings for him cause I know they won't be reciprocated.
How do I get over the idea of him and me being together?? Please help.
Thank you for reading.
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u/exit232003 2d ago
What would work for me in this situation is catching up with him but knowing in my head that he is not interested in me in that way and being okay with being friends. If that is not realistic for you at this point I would decline an in person meet up with him. Or decline the catching up and being honest with him about everything.
I would put yourself out there to meet new people and over time falling in love with others. This to me sounds like something that only time will heal!
For whatever it is worth, my hopes and prayers are with you!