r/librarians • u/Dizzy-Stick-1862 • 5h ago
Job Advice Manipulative Manager & Burnout
I am losing hope that any library system is better. I just keep seeing others post about their toxic work environment because of management and admin. Us too.
My boss is extremely passive aggressive. She always assumes the worst of everyone below her as if any mistake is just her staff trying to "get back at her". Every call out or use of PTO used by staff results in her talking shit about that staff member and rolling her eyes.
She never has direct conversations or check-ins unless they are disciplinary. And she has become deeply embroiled in the admin culture. She has grown very close to her boss who does the same things to the managers. I attended a few meetings with her and her boss in it and they just side-chat, giggle, and criticize people to each other.
I don't know what to do. I am applying for other jobs, but the market is terrible right now. I have brought some (safer) concerns up to her and she blows up, denies, and blames you. Then she talked behind my back to coworkers.
If an incident happens at the branch there is no check in. In fact if a situation affects you, she will tell everyone you can't handle things "we should all be able to handle".
We had a rough spring and summer that we talked about and all she could say was "well I shielded everyone from the worst of it".
We have a union, but it is extremely hard to prove any of this as she never puts this behavior in teams. I've been documenting what I can. I am just so burnt out.
Any advice?