r/makeuptips • u/twirlywurlyburly • 4h ago
HELP PLEASE Very uneven face
Ok, so I have just seen this happen more and more as I've aged post pandemic (F34 now), but my face has gotten increasingly unsymmetrical. In the mirror, my brows (which are currently filled using ELF micro-fine brow pencil every day since I have barely any brow) look fine, but photos look insane. I've not been able to do eyeliner because of my eye shapes changing so differently, and I have to overdraw my lips to make them look symmetrical. My eye bags are getting to the point that I can't cover them at all.
I'm genuinely at a loss on what to do anymore. Makeup used to be so simple for me, but it's just getting almost impossible. Please help?!
(First photo is light through the window, the second is the mirror light with my hand used to bounce the light due to it being darker on that side of the room)
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u/One-Mycologist-1285 4h ago
Your face is beautiful, and I know you probably think we're all just saying this, but the asymmetry you see is not the first thing everyone else sees (I wouldn't even have noticed it myself). I think you're being harsh on yourself. Your skin looks great, your eyes are very nice, and your eyebrows look good!
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u/twirlywurlyburly 4h ago
Thank you so much. I am definitely being hard on myself and my partner tells me all the time that I am, but I guess hearing it from others is what I needed. I wasn't looking for reassurance and was genuinely looking for makeup suggestions, but this has been a lovely surprise and I'm so grateful for it!
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u/Impossible-Tank-1969 1h ago
I would never notice this on you but I understand what you mean. We notice these subtle changes well before anybody else would.
I am definitely older than you, so as a woman in my 40’s i see that one of my eyes is droopier than the other to the point that my eyeliner smudges into the upper part of my eyelid because it sags down. Just on one eye!
One side has fuller eyelashes and eyebrows.
And then just normal expected aging like wrinkles and saggy jowls.
I sound like I’m describing Quasimodo right now, and sometimes I feel like thats accurate. BUT To everybody else- they don’t notice or care. Really. You are truly beautiful and nobody would ever see the things you’re seeing but nobody could miss your beauty!
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u/hotheadnchickn 4h ago
I really don’t think I would notice if you hadn’t pointed it out. Botox can sometimes help with eyes being uneven.
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u/chopitychopchop 4h ago
I have (probably) the same issue with the forehead muscle above one eye being stronger on one side which lifts my eyebrow a bit higher and as a result changes the hooding of one of my eyes slightly. I have been told some Botox on that side to relax the muscle would help. But then I figured, in the grand scheme of things, no one really notices or cares. So I just decided to not care. You have a great looking face the way it is.
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u/skully_28 4h ago
yes I came here to explain that I see an imbalance of strength in your forehead. you can teach yourself to hold one eyebrow what feels like a little higher, if you want them to look balanced in photos at least. I used to have this issue with one eye that wouldn't open as much as the other in photos. Either it went away or I strengthened the muscle muscles.
You can put on nude lip liner to correct subtle asymmetry in your lips.
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u/TangerineBoth6966 4h ago
You look like a totally normal person. Nobody is symmetrical. I think you should consider taking a closer look at your feeds. So much of what you see is AI and filters. Real life has nuance and beauty that is eliminated when people try to become symmetrical and flawless.
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u/twirlywurlyburly 4h ago
Yeah I'm thinking that too. I mentioned it in another comment, but I used to model and work as an entertainer (burlesque and music), so I'm used to getting photographed a lot and tend to notice things like this more specifically. I guess I am being too hard on myself.
I promise I wasn't fishing for compliments, was just so tired of trying to figure out a makeup solution and failing by my own ridiculously high standards.
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u/TangerineBoth6966 4h ago
I didn’t think you were fishing. I just see these type of posts often and the photos are just absolutely beautiful, fortunate humans who in my opinion are losing perspective because the world we live in is so fucking fake. In my opinion, we need to actively remove the things that come our way that contribute to this delusion.
I’m not trying to be dramatic or condescending by saying that - I think especially the younger generations can’t even see themselves as they are. Many don’t even know what an aging woman looks like. They think a 35 year old looks 55. It’s quite alarming. Don’t be hard on yourself and see if you can make some adjustments to your algorithm for your mental health. You look beautiful and like an actual human woman. It’s quite refreshing
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u/Immediate-Main183 4h ago
This really isn’t noticeable at all but if you’re truly looking to highlight symmetry, getting rid of the eyebrow slit might help
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u/Bubbly_Delivery_5678 4h ago
You have a normal amount of asymmetry— you’re focusing on it too much! Your complexion is lovely. Your coloring is a lot like Emmy Rossum. She’d be a good one to look at for makeup inspiration. She does well with a subtly smokey eye.
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u/optics_is_light_work 4h ago
Drew Barrymore has a great, quick tutorial on fixing asymmetrical eyes. Might be helpful:
https://youtu.be/35bUfLaV3fw?si=Eu3n5JYr42ERpe7P
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u/Bubbly_Delivery_5678 4h ago
She’s a great example! She always looks beautiful but she has a ton of asymmetry.
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u/PerceptionSome3625 4h ago
First off, you look lovely and what you're seeing is mostly camera lens distortion combined with the mirror effect. Brows are naturally meant to be sisters rather than twins, so forcing exact symmetry up close often creates unnecessary stress. Try stepping back from the mirror when doing your makeup, and swap harsh eyeliners for a soft, smudged eyeshadow. People see you in motion and 3D where these tiny details are completely imperceptible, so please be kind to yourself!
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u/Playful_Champion3189 3h ago
Your eyebrows are so good. I couldn't imagine having such good eyebrows and then shaving a gap in them. (I say that as someone who barely has any eyebrows and has nearly plucked them all off and can't fucking stop doing it)
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u/underwater_111 4h ago
Instead of trying to make your face symmetrical, why not just focus on making it look balanced?
For example, doing eyeliner that is flat and points out horizontally, which means it will be a different angle on both eyes.
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u/twirlywurlyburly 4h ago
That's true. I'm just worried because my job requires me to look down a lot in a customer facing position, so I don't want it to look wild, ya know?
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u/twirlywurlyburly 4h ago
I just finished my daily makeup and can't get a picture to come out how it actually looks in person for the life of me. It just looks crazier than it does irl. I'm so annoyed.
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u/Capital-Emergency202 4h ago
You look perfectly normal and lovely to me. My face is not symmetrical, it’s just a face!
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u/rebeccasaidit 4h ago
You really don’t look anymore uneven than anyone else hun. Nobody is perfectly even. In fact go split your face in half and put one half together to make it totally even and look how goofy that looks. We aren’t meant to be perfect!
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u/callapitterfriend 4h ago
So is mine but I would probably look like someone else if my face was symmetrical! Learning to love it 😊
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u/BankutiCutie 4h ago
I have a very similar thing to your eyebrows! The craziest thing is, i only notice it in pictures not ever irl in the mirror. Its so weird
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u/Comfortable_Good2789 4h ago
I totally get this struggle! Almost everyone has facial asymmetry, photos just exaggerate it a lot. Instead of forcing both sides to look identical, you can balance features subtly.
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u/Ok_Initiative3685 4h ago
I fall down this rabbit hole sometimes. You should Google some of your favorite celebrities who you find to be the most attractive, men or women, and really notice their asymmetry. Look at the eyebrow height/shape, chin/jaw placement, corners of their mouth, etc. I find that helps me a lot when I realize their asymmetry doesn't take away from their overall beauty.
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u/beepbeepboop74656 3h ago
The first thing I thought is you have such a beautiful face and bone structure despite it not being symmetrical, I think it makes you even more beautiful and interesting to look at. As an artist you have the kind of face I would not be annoyed at after staring at it for hours. Each point is beautifully flowing into the next lovely proportions and angles. As far as makeup, think less of hiding and disguising everything, think more of highlighting what you like, you have great brows and beautiful blue eyes, try a purple eyeshadow or a shimmer, a little matte blush to show off your cheek bones. You can probably pull off just about any look you wanted just pick a vibe and try it.
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u/KatherineN510 3h ago
I like to call it, "my sleeping side", whichever is pulled down and mashed around in the pillow...you pick.
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u/gopher-gardener 3h ago
Sutton Foster is an actress who has an asymmetrical face. She always a has a lifted brow.
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u/Alert-Awareness-7146 3h ago
It is not bad at all and I promise you no one in real life notices this. One thing that helps a lot is focusing on adjusting the things you can change, for example, making sure your eyebrows are even and your hair part is perfectly centered. If these two things are not aligned it’s just going to bring out the asymmetry in your face so much.
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u/Fine-Juggernaut8451 3h ago
I'm also quite asymmetrical, and seeing how beautiful this is on your face made me look at my own face with new eyes.
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u/shirazgirlo 3h ago
Stop being so harsh on yourself! Everyone’s face is asymmetrical unless they’ve had extensive cosmetic surgery to correct it. It’s what makes us all beautiful and unique. Not a single person looking at you when you’re smiling, speaking, thinking, or sleeping will say “oh my, look how asymmetrical her face is”. They will see a woman with beautiful eyes, amazing cheekbones, and stunning skin. Please focus on your beauty rather than what you think are flaws (which are not!)
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u/OberlinJo 3h ago
Side note what phone case is that? I have the same phone and I'm looking for a hardy case like the one you have.
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u/ThrowRaoofda 3h ago
Facial massage can help a lot. Tension in your face, scalp, and neck can be pulling at your face. Sounds silly but I’ve seen improvements in myself from doing it. Check out Anastasiabeautyfascia on instagram.
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u/-MotherMaidenCrone- 3h ago
I also really struggle with my uneven eyes, but I didn’t even notice any on you.
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u/Early-Perspective-86 3h ago
I notice this in myself but then in photos I think I look pretty normal. I do think the eyebrow cut thing might emphasize asymmetry but I see nothing abnormal about your face! You look great.
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u/Boring_Insurance_Man 3h ago
I didn’t notice anything. Looked long and hard and still nothing. Eventually I gave in and looked at your caption. It’s barely even notable and not noticed at all on first glance. We are our harshest critics. We were never meant to see ourself this much anyways. You are gorgeous tbh. Skin looks nice and brows I could only wish for
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u/shegrowsonyou 3h ago
My face is uneven in the same ways. Eyebrow shape, jaw angles. It's wild. However I see the asymmetrical aspects and they are stunning. Look at how asymmetrical Christy Turlungton is. It's a vibe.
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u/Emerald_Bobcat7 3h ago
I didn’t notice and still not sure what’s supposed to be wrong after looking. I think you should just enjoy life. You look fine.
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u/NabelasGoldenCane 2h ago
I don’t notice much other than your eye asymmetry and I empathize because my lids did the same thing with age.
I’m thinking you could balance it out by applying slightly thicker liner on the larger eye (bc the shadow will make it appear smaller) or conversely more shimmer on the smaller lid.
They make eyelid tape to help with hooded or mono lids. I wonder if that could be helpful to apply to one eye to even it out.
You could also try slightly different lengths of eyelashes if wearing false lashes or clusters. I’ve heard of lash artists doing different sets to adjust asymmetry.
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u/starlight00824 2h ago
I feel like any asymmetry that's there is so subtle I struggle to identify it! You're amazing looking! You have a uniqueness about you that's actually pretty magical!
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u/bubblegutts00 1h ago
What’s with the slit in your one brow tho? Always wanted to ask someone who has it..
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u/Unable-Guitar-1195 1h ago
For what it’s worth, I do not think your face is very unsymmetrical and you have beautiful skin! I also think there is something with the selfie cam—I swear in the mirror my brows look oh so slightly uneven, then in a straight on selfie one side looks like an inch lower 🫠
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u/__dripnymph 35m ago
hey girl have you looked into fascial release/gua sha/face yoga” exercises as it gets called on tiktok? can help with muscle imbalance or loss as we age:) I don’t see the asymmetry tbh but I know we sometimes see ourselves with much more details than others will
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u/JustWantToRead999 7m ago
Your eyes are beautiful and striking, I don’t notice any unusual asymmetry as others have stated! I think a peachy shimmery eyeshadow would really bring out your eye color and make them pop even more
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u/Funnier_InEnochian 4h ago
Everyone is asymmetrical, it’s natural. I honestly didn’t notice your minor asymmetries until I really tried to look for them. Sorry, I have no make up tips. Just wanted to say you look beautiful!