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u/Scared_Ad2563 Sep 27 '24
That's okay. It was always me, so I know it's not a fun place to be. :')
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u/Iliketobuystuff202 Sep 28 '24
This was me too and it always happened like the bastard of a friend soiling manage to get in front somehow and my little brother also does this it’s extremely uncomfortable and sad
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u/Itookthenamespam Sep 27 '24
Your kindness and self sacrifice will be rewarded in future one day. A higher power is watching over people like you
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u/StereoTunic9039 Sep 28 '24
I often do this even when the path is wide enough. I really don't mind it, and it's s more efficient allocation of space
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u/FootFetish0-3 Sep 27 '24
I've never liked hanging out in groups. I've always been a 1-on-1 kind of friend because I like having and giving 100% focus to whoever I'm hanging out with. I always end up losing my friends after a while because they always want to do group hangs and I'm definitely the guy who's called last, stuck in the back, and opinion or input never mattered. I'm also the one who always calls it texts first, so if I stop that, I just tend to be forgotten about.
It's been a few years (2017) since I had any friends to hang out with, so maybe that's changed for me, but considering how much more antisocial Covid made me, I doubt it.
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u/Fissminister Sep 27 '24
It was me. It was great, kept me out of the spotlight as well as obnoxious questions, and people. Wouldn't trade it for anything
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u/CloudyStarsInTheSky Oct 12 '24
Doesn't seem like you wanted to be with your friends in the first place
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u/Fissminister Oct 12 '24
I do, sparingly. I'm fairly introverted, but those boys want to do everything together, all day, everyday.
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u/CloudyStarsInTheSky Oct 12 '24
Tell them if you don't want to be with them
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u/Fissminister Oct 12 '24
I have. Repeatedly.
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u/CloudyStarsInTheSky Oct 12 '24
Why are you still going then?
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u/Fissminister Oct 12 '24
Because they don't care if I don't want to
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u/CloudyStarsInTheSky Oct 12 '24
Just... stay home? Do they physically take you out of your home?
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u/Ttennessee_Ttop_Hatt Sep 27 '24
I just stepped in front... The feeling of rejection still happens.
You just choose where you want to be about it.
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u/nach_in Sep 28 '24
I was that friend for years, until I realized how to get in the front row.
One of my greatest points of pride is that I never left a friend behind. I took the task of rotating the group and including everyone in the conversation whenever the sidewalk wasn't big enough for all of us.
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u/DG_727 Oct 18 '24
I wasn't amazing at that but always did my best and do tru to I slide some of my groups more isolated members where and when I can. In our case it works out well too because he and I are intelligent sociopaths so we converse without problem whilst everyone else tends to be a bit put off by the conversations topics we prefer. I am not complaining at all.
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u/velveeta-smoothie Sep 27 '24
Or the one who was out of shape and got left behind on hikes. Like, half a mile behind.
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u/Infamous-Moose-5145 Sep 28 '24
Went on a long backpacking trip in Big Sur a while back with two buddies. One of them was 400 lbs at the time.
Remarkably, he wasn't that far behind us, and we would stop every mile or so to let him catch up. He was absolutely gutted by the end of it, but man we made sure to commend him. Was pretty amazing.
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u/Lily_DaBunny Sep 27 '24
It's usually always me Soo... I understand. Which is why I work better in a group of two, not three.
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u/BoobySlap_0506 Sep 28 '24
One time I was walking off campus in 7th grade talking to a friend. One of her other friends came up and interrupted to talk to her, and when I said something back to my friend, she goes "ok, talking to other friends now..."
Yeah she wasn't actually a friend but it was a lesson I had to learn the hard way.
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u/DG_727 Oct 18 '24
Bro, my condolences. I know the feeling fairly well though from different sources. I hope you've found your good people 😊
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Sep 28 '24
I was the third friend and I was perfectly fine in that position. When there were only two of us things could get awkward sometimes.
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u/Musashi10000 Sep 28 '24
Eh. We used to naturally trade that position off. That, and we'd sometimes walk in a very stupid formation where the people in front would keep turning around to continue the conversation, risking broken limbs and such things from not looking where we were going.
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u/Rosevecheya Sep 28 '24
See also the one who sits in front when going on roadtrips and a parent is driving.
I much prefer hanging in groups cause I'm well aware rhat after I while I stop generating things to say and I know that shared silence isn't everyone's preferred way of hanging out. So I do end up being the one who follows. Sometimes I would awkwardly try to catch up and have to walk on the road or be weird then... give up cause the others just don't care and don't even seem to notice.
It sucks. If I hang out with everyone and someone else does that I try hard now to catch up with them, turn around and stuff.
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u/Conissocool Sep 28 '24
I walk faster to be in front of them, leave them in the back
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u/29th_Stab_Wound Sep 28 '24
I was coming here to comment the same thing. If you’re not going to be standing next to everyone, at least make sure to stand in front of them.
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u/Borfis Sep 27 '24
Some of you were never the third friend that the other friends had never met before and who had to walk behind when the sidewalk is too narrow and it shows
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u/Sikkus Sep 28 '24
I was always the third friend who walked a bit faster to get in front, so others don't need to fall behind.
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u/LiveTart6130 Sep 28 '24
I prefer to walk slightly behind people so I can see and hear them. my friends also tend to talk more than I do, so if I don't feel like being as chatty, I can just walk and listen. I like being there
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u/anoniemedame Sep 28 '24
I knew one time. Walked behind them, they only were talking to both of them and not to me. I walked into another street and went home, amazing.
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u/Greyt__ Sep 29 '24
I always wanted to be the person in the back, way less effort, I even did my best to swap with people to do so but from this is implied no one else wanted to do that
What thoughts would you feel being at the back ?
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u/[deleted] Sep 27 '24
Nah this is me, I’m usually the “last wheel” in friendgroups and I very rarely hang out with people, in groups or one-on-one. Which can be annoying because I like seeing my friends, but I just don’t feel like my presence is necessary yk? Like they’d all have just as good of a time without me