r/parentsofmultiples • u/Reasonable-Knee-7201 • 1d ago
experience/advice to give Birth story (from Dad’s perspective)
Just wanted to share my POV (buckle up).
My wife had been pregnant for 36w6days and we were on our way to the weekly bpp testing at the high risk center. One of our baby boys failed the BPP so they referred us for overnight monitoring at triage of the hospital where we had the schedule c section at 38 weeks. This has happened before so I thought it was gonna be a big nothing burger and we’d be sent home in the morning.
Wife got admitted and just in case I went home and got our go bags and car seats. The strap her in and after a few hours everything looks fine and they tell us probably no babies tonight but we’re still keeping you overnight. I thought it would be a good trial run of the dad couch. We settle in around 11pm to go to sleep. It was unusually hot in the room so both my wife and I were tossing and turning.
At 234am my wife says to me “I think my water just broke.” So I stand up and flick on the light only to see the floor and bed covered in bright red blood. I was stunned and froze for a few seconds. We hit the call light, the nurse comes in and calls for backup. Head nurse says, we’re having babies today. My wife asks “is this bad?” And the reply was “it’s not great. The nurses and docs rush her to the OR for a crash c section, meaning no epidural and she’ll be under anesthesia.
I was not able to go back there with her. I had to wait outside. Most difficult time I’ve ever had. My whole life was behind those doors and I had no control of it. I prayed and cried and chatGPT’d “will my family make it?” They told me it would be about 20 minutes and they will come out and give me an update. I remember looking at my watch thinking 10 minutes have gone by and it was 20 seconds. Just excruciating.
Then the doors opened and a nurse came out and said the words that I’ll remember forever: “everyone is ok.” That relief was euphoric. My 2 sons were born at 2:51 and 2:52am. From the time I flicked on the light until their birth was under 20 min. Shoutout Banner Health.
First Boy’s placenta ruptured causing the blood. He was in the NICU for about 24 hours on a CPAP and oxygen because he swallowed some of it. His brother was fine for the most part but needed monitoring.
Fast forward, we’ve been home for a few days with two healthy, beautiful sons and a new appreciation for L&D medical professionals and moms.
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u/Dear_Excitement_5109 1d ago
Congratulations!! So fortunate to be in the hospital when the placental abruption happened. This was a beautiful read.
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u/skrufforious 1d ago
Wow much love to you and your family! Literally nearly the exact same thing happened to me at 29 weeks, down to thinking my water broke but it was blood, crash c section, and baby A's placenta abrupting and ruptured. I had our babies at 29 weeks but after 64 days in the NICU, everyone came home. I'm so glad everyone in your family is okay, that was very scary I'm sure!
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u/leopardskin_pillbox 1d ago
Oh my gosh! How scary. I’m so glad it all worked out. Were these Di Di or Mo Di twins?
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u/Reasonable-Knee-7201 1d ago
Di/Di, and mom was a stud during pregnancy. I guess they just ran out of real estate in there.
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u/Appropriate-Name5538 1d ago
We made the choice to drive two hours to the university of Kentucky for our mfm and we feel like that choice saved us so much trouble. My wife had pre eclampsia with our first so we didn’t want to take any chances with twins. The staff at chandler hospital was amazing at every step we were in a difficult situation but never felt uneasy. Our mfm doctor actually came and performed the c section on his day off because he said it was his duty to bring our babies into the world. The nurse team we had in ante partum also pulled string to be our post partum team as well. Everyone in that place was amazing from the moment the mfm put my wife in to the moment we took our little girl out of the nicu. The right hospital and doctor makes all the difference in the world. I’m so glad your experience turned out for the best I’ll say a little prayer for your new family tonight
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u/wilan727 1d ago
Congradulations. Happy all are well. Dad too and I have a similar story so I can empathise. Too tip once all are well enough take the time to explore the feelings and emotion this traumatic expierence had on all of you. It will be worth it. It's very hard on everyone. Enjoy the ride you are in for some crazy times but I'd never change a thing.
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u/Ill-Wolf865 21h ago
Wow what a roller coaster! So glad everything turned out ok and that you all were in the hospital being monitored when it all happened! Congratulations ❤️♥️
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