I go for a walk every day and there’s this rock along my route where I keep finding random things placed on it.

I never see anyone doing it, and I have no idea if it’s the same person or just a coincidence.

Today’s offering: a rock… and this tiny Halloween-looking figurine.

At this point I’m starting to wonder what’s going to be there tomorrow. 😂

Has anyone else encountered something like this?

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Honestly, don’t lose the charm of writing notes in your books. Underlining a sentence that hits you, scribbling down a thought in the margins, or leaving a little note for your future self — there’s something so personal about it.

A book doesn’t have to stay perfectly clean and untouched. Let it look like you actually lived through it.

Digital notes are convenient, but handwritten notes in a book just hit differently.

This is the toothbrush of my daughter's boyfriend.

Honestly 😮‍💨

I was drawing while snaking and when I went to go take a lick out of my sucker I saw this and thought "great OC potential" I personally don't have any ideas but hey some people might!

Is it wrong that I struggle to understand the idea of having multiple relationships throughout life?

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships, love, marriage, and what all of these things really mean. I don’t fully understand my own feelings about this, which is why I would like to hear other people’s opinions.

I understand the common idea that relationships before marriage can be useful because through them you gain experience, learn how to communicate, get to know yourself better, and understand what you do and don’t want from a partner. But I keep wondering — do you really need to have several romantic relationships to learn these things? Couldn’t you also learn a lot by observing other people, talking to them, thinking about your own values, or simply growing and learning together with one person?

For some reason, the idea of having several romantic relationships throughout life doesn’t really feel like love to me. I understand that someone can genuinely fall in love, have real feelings, become attached, and still eventually realize that the relationship doesn’t work. I’m not saying that every relationship that ends was fake. However, the idea of someone falling in love several times, breaking up, finding someone else, and repeating the process until they eventually find the person they marry feels strange to me.

My understanding of love has always been closer to the idea of: “I choose you, I love you, and I want to build my life with you.” That’s why sometimes it feels like it should be “one person or no one.”

At the same time, of course I have the natural desire to be loved, to have someone close to me, and to eventually have a happy relationship. And this is where the inner conflict comes from: one part of me wants love and happiness, while another part says, “No, something about this doesn’t feel right. Love shouldn’t work this way.”

I also think about marriage. Marriage seems like a very serious and special commitment to me, so deep down I imagine it as something that should ideally happen once. Of course, I understand that if a marriage becomes unhealthy, harmful, or completely stops functioning, people shouldn’t be forced to stay together just because of a principle.

But today, so many people simply choose to live together without getting married, and sometimes it feels like marriage itself is seen as unnecessary or meaningless. I understand that everyone has the right to choose how they want to live, and I’m not saying everyone has to get married. I just don’t understand why some people couldn’t get married simply because of their own values and because it means something to them personally, rather than because of social pressure, money, property, status, or some practical benefit.

I find the idea of officially choosing each other and simply being able to say, “We are husband and wife. We chose each other and we want to build a life together,” very beautiful. Not because society expects it, but because it has meaning to those two people.

But even when it comes to marriage, I often see discussions about who benefits more from it — the man, the woman, or both — what each person gets in a divorce, who owes what to whom, how property is divided, and so on. I understand that these things are important in real life, but sometimes I feel like the actual feeling of love and connection gets lost behind all these practical considerations.

The same thing applies to relationships in general. I often hear things like, “Find a partner, life will be easier,” or see people looking for a partner who can help raise their children, contribute financially, help with household responsibilities, or simply make life easier. Of course, helping and supporting each other is a natural part of a relationship, and I don’t think that is inherently wrong.

However, sometimes it feels like the whole world is deeply influenced by selfishness, materialism, and the search for personal benefit. As if people sometimes aren’t looking for another person simply because they love that person — because of love, closeness, connection, understanding, and the desire to be together — but instead think: “What can this person give me? How can they make my life easier? Will they meet my needs?”

And I feel like this can even be seen in the way men and women talk about each other. Both sides often criticize each other very strongly, talk about the problems caused by men or women, what “women want,” what “men want,” who owes what to whom, and what each side should or shouldn’t do. Sometimes it feels like people create many of their own conflicts because everyone thinks first about themselves, their rights, their needs, and their own benefit, and then complains that relationships have become so complicated.

Sometimes I wonder: what would happen if people simply thought more about the other person instead of only themselves? What if relationships had more respect, simplicity, sincerity, and willingness to understand each other, and less fighting over who owns what, who deserves what, or who gets more out of the relationship?

Divorce also feels very complicated to me. On one hand, it can absolutely be the right decision if two people can no longer be together in a healthy way or if the relationship has become harmful. Nobody should be forced to spend their entire life suffering just because they once made marriage vows.

But on the other hand, it makes me sad that sometimes marriage and commitment seem to be treated so casually, almost as if a person can simply be replaced as soon as the relationship becomes difficult. I feel that if two people truly chose each other, there should be a willingness to try, understand, forgive, change, and work through problems together rather than immediately thinking about finding someone else.

If children are involved, I have even more questions. Is it really better for children when a new partner later enters their life and becomes a stepfather or stepmother? Would it be better for a child if their biological parents, even if they no longer live together, remained their main family? Or can a new, loving, respectful person also become an important and positive part of a child’s life? Although I personally feel that a stranger can never truly replace a child’s biological father or mother. I genuinely don’t know the answer — I’m simply curious how people who have more life experience see this.

So it feels like I keep seeing the same dilemma everywhere: on one side there is real life — people’s needs, mistakes, divorce, money, children, legal matters, and practical problems. On the other side is my very simple idea of love: two people who genuinely love each other, choose each other, and simply want to be together.

And this brings me to another doubt I have. Maybe my way of thinking is too naive, and because of it I could easily be hurt, deceived, or taken advantage of in real life. Maybe someone who believes too much in sincerity, love, and the idea that another person thinks the same way can end up looking like a fool.

But then another question comes up: does protecting yourself mean that you have to become more selfish and start thinking primarily about your own benefit? Can you remain sincere, caring, and believe in love while still having boundaries and not allowing other people to take advantage of you? Is this kind of simple view of love actually possible in the modern world?

Maybe I romanticize love too much. Maybe this kind of simplicity really exists more in movies than in real life. In movies, everything seems so simple and beautiful: people meet, fall in love, choose each other, and build a life together. Real life is obviously much more complicated.

But that is exactly why I want to ask.

Is my view simply a personal value I have about love and commitment, or am I idealizing love too much? Is it unrealistic or even selfish to believe that, ideally, love should be about choosing one person rather than having several relationships as experiences until you eventually find “the right one”?

Can you want one deep love, one marriage, and one person for your whole life simply because that is how you understand love — not because society says that is what you are supposed to do, but because that is what feels meaningful to you?

And is my belief that relationships should involve less “What will I get from this?” and more “What can I give to the person I love?” a beautiful and healthy value, or is it simply too naive for the modern world?

I want to emphasize that I’m not saying my view is correct. I don’t have much life experience in this area. This is simply my current belief and a feeling that I don’t fully understand myself.

Maybe my view will change in the future, although deep down I hope it doesn’t.

That’s why I would really like to hear honest answers — not just “that’s normal” or “everyone does it,” but genuine explanations of what might be healthy and meaningful about the way I think, and where I might be wrong, too idealistic, naive, or seeing relationships too narrowly.

I want to understand not only what is common or convenient, but what is actually healthy, respectful, and human when it comes to love, commitment, and family.

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How can I just walk from Germany to Siberia with no money? I just want to abuse freedom but I don’t know exactly how to do something like that.

If u dislike/ abhorrent / curious about someone, would u always be dragged into them? Being in their orbit, constantly looking at them?

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