Fair warning, this is a selfish post. :(
My 13yo lab mix has recently started whining/crying nonstop from approximately 6pm until bed. She will stare at me (her chosen human) and whine INCESSANTLY. The rest of the day she is totally fine. She settles into bed fine.
I am losing my mind. Obviously I feel bad for her. I don’t want her to be scared or anxious. I’ve tried everything I can think of. Multiple vet visits where we’ve discussed pain, anxiety, dementia, etc. She’s already on gabapentin twice daily for arthritis (plus Tylenol and monthly injections of Adequan and Librela). We’ve tried Prozac but it makes her too lethargic. We’ve changed food, we’ve kept to a strict schedule to make evening activities predictable. She is stimulated every day with varying age-appropriate activities - swimming, hiking, fetch, etc. More frequent potty breaks. She does not want to be snuggled or pet. If I reach for her she pulls away.
I’m sure she’s Sundowning. I’m really struggling. If is A LOT to have her sit two feet in front of me, staring and crying. I can’t help. I hate that the feeling I’m experiencing is annoyance but it is EXTREME annoyance. I don’t know how I’m going to do this every night for the next 100 years (I’ve decided she’s eternal).
She is my best friend. She is my whole world. I will never do anything like lock her away in a room so u don’t have to hear her or give her away. I want her near me, always. She is the best, most wonderful, goodest girl in the whole world.
But dear god. If anyone has any advice on coping mechanisms (for me or her) please let me know.