r/venting • u/Conscious_Fox9914 • 6h ago

hard time with empathy

To start, it’s not exactly that i’m unable to feel the pain of others. It’s that their big struggles are not as important to me as my small issues. I get really anxious and overwhelmed when dealing with any problems. Example, i’m going to college (which is fully being funded by my parents and we are financially able to), i have the privilege of going on month long vacations to visit some relatives, get whatever i ask for (newest phones, games, pc parts, etc), two properties going under my name, and a savings + stocks account (that i don’t touch) made for me which gets money deposited every month. And i don’t pay for my living expenses (i just get a lump sum and if i run out i just tell my parents and they transfer me more).

But, I struggle to emphasize with others. like My cousin has horrible teeth issues that would cost 50k to fix but i was more concerned about my one tooth that needed a root canal (which is covered by insurance and parents) while hers is being denied because it’s too expensive.

There are more people struggling than me and their problems are so much more severe than mine. I don’t know how to stop the guilt i feel when I have my very minor problems. Like i know i can’t fix their problems but it feels unfair comparing my issues with others. I feel really bad worrying about what brand of car to choose, how i can’t find cute decor for my dorm, and idk what restaurant to get takeout from, which mall i want to go to today, and how theres nothing i wanna buy online.

So i guess i just find it hard to live without guilt? Like why am i the one living this life. Why am i even complaining about my non issues. How dare i live like i do when others my age are struggling. These thoughts have been getting more frequent lately. I don’t think it’s a self worth issues. idek

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