r/whenthe • u/[deleted] • 4h ago
ONE đ€ hair away from breaking rule 1 I might have OCD
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u/TheMasterBaiter360 wahhhhh I wanna be a girl eugggggghhhđđđđ 3h ago
Iâm a trans girl and I misgender myself sometimes. When youâve been thinking as someone or even yourself, as one thing for so long, itâs hard for your subconscious to adjust, itâs perfectly normal and nothing to feel guilty over
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u/iahim87 3h ago
Throw a fit of fiery rage every single time you misgender yourself
Works for me with anything really
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u/TheMasterBaiter360 wahhhhh I wanna be a girl eugggggghhhđđđđ 3h ago
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u/Throwaway02062004 3h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/DsCj71gViFj6187Wox
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u/TheMasterBaiter360 wahhhhh I wanna be a girl eugggggghhhđđđđ 3h ago
FUCK I DID IT AGAIN! GRRRRRRRRR
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u/MissSharkyShark 57m ago
Self misgendering is the worst đ©
Took me a year and a half to fully stop.
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u/Electrical-Basket424 3h ago
I like how if this wasn't a sea creature this would be considered insane gore but because it's a sea creature it's funny to look at apparently
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u/stonks1234567890 2h ago
Same with stomping insects. The less something looks like a human, the less we'll be disturbed by something happening to it.
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u/MaeBeaInTheWoods 2h ago
I've seen people on this website brag about doing things to bugs that would probably you tried for war crimes if done to a human.
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u/Atlas_of_history Official Ralsei 1h ago
I've seen people justify and brag about ripping mosquito's limbs off one by one
I get they are annoying as shit, but you can just stomp on them, you don't need to justify literal torture
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u/sorig1373 1h ago
But like. Wasps. Violating the geneva convention on wasps is acceptable, encouraged even.
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u/Individual-Sweet3400 (insert nasty sexual fantasy here) 1h ago
just use a bug zapper like the rest of us you freak
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u/AdriennebutWeird 1h ago
But like, Humans⊠violating the geneva convention on humans is acceptable, encouraged even
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u/AmaterasuWolf21 look! someone thinks they know better about my own country 3h ago
I mean, the bubbles covered everything
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u/Ozelot_4546B 3h ago
I just had to make this edit when I saw this
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u/Different-Bear-9338 3h ago
Chill out bro itâs just your thoughts. Ainât gotta go nuclear we all gotta start somewhere
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3h ago
Idk, it's always like that with me, everyone keep saying that I'm overthinking or overreacting to everything
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u/Longjumping-Ad-5740 3h ago
Cuz it sounds like you are.
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3h ago
I'm sorry for caring too much, my empathy isn't worth it ,nor is ever valued
(and now that's sounds rather selfish coming form me, will I be ever a good person?)
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u/Longjumping-Ad-5740 3h ago
I have thoughts about doing awful things once in a while. Do I do said awful things? No. The brain is weird buddy.
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u/Avalanche_Snows 3h ago
Just don't feel guilty for something you didn't do
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3h ago
Why I shouldn't? I'm a bad person
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u/chaos_gremlin890 i too am in this episode 3h ago
Thoughtcrimes arenât real you canât be punished for something you didnât do
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3h ago
Still, I'm a bad person for just even thinking like that
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u/anomynous_dude555 Why he ourple tho 3h ago
Dude oh my god you sound just like me
We ALL have intrusive and bad thoughts when we have ocd, itâs literally a hiccup in our brain that makes us think things we donât want to think? AND YA KNOW WHAT? We MOVE ON. We just let the thoughts have no control over us. You think the bad thought, you remind yourself that that isnât who you are, and you move on.
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2h ago
I have to remember that bad thought so I would remember that I'm a bed person
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u/burgercourt 2h ago
https://www.treatmyocd.com/what-is-ocd/common-fears/fear-of-being-a-bad-person. I highly recommend NOCD.
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u/General-Biscuits 2h ago
Overthinking =/= more empathy or care
Itâs self-sabotage born from insecurities.
It will often take away from your ability to care for people in the way they want or need you too. So, for the sake of those you care about, stop overthinking things in your head.
Talk about your thoughts with people to get them unstuck from your head. Whatever the issue, you will quickly see the problem never was that serious or complicated as your brain made it out to be.
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u/Legendarien1 2h ago
Most people have bad thoughts sometimes. I catch myself being racist or sexist or transphobic, usually just in thoughts but sometimes stress makes things come out in ways you didnât intend.
The mark of a good person is the ability to recognize what youâve done and correct it. Youâre already doing a good job, and destroying yourself for it only hurts you.
Just think of yourself as someone close to you that you care about. If that person said something bad like that, then recognized what they said was wrong and apologized, would you forgive them? Give yourself the same grace
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2h ago
I don't have someone close to me. Also I would but the same doesn't apply to me. I have a tendency to repeat the same old mistake over and over even if I feel guilty whenever I do it
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u/nick113124 3h ago
You didn't say it out loud and still corrected yourself. That should be where it ends.
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u/AgonyOverdrive 3h ago
I'm trans and if you misgendered me I wouldn't want you to feel guilty about it. It's perfectly fine to simply correct the mistake and move on.
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u/THE_250th_AMERICAN LIVE FREE OR DIE 3h ago
Is misgendering that bad?
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u/Silver-Marzipan7220 local athiest trans girlie 3h ago
Depends. Its like farting. If you do it on accident and apologise, no one will bat an eye. If you do it constantly, but apologise, people will think there is something wrong with you. If you do it in a person's face without apologising, people will think you are a hostile maniac.
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u/Information-leak6575 SCP fangirl who gets mad when you misrepresent it 3h ago
depends on the person
doing it on accident is usually not that bad
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u/Magehunter_Skassi 3h ago
Most people would prefer for you to just not acknowledge the mistake and instead move on with the conversation. It's a minor faux pas that gets weirder when stopping to apologize
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u/BuyFeeling6787 3h ago
Yes
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u/GleamGal8765 3h ago
For a second i thought that I was in a trans subreddit and was wonderimg how tf would people downvote you haha
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u/wild_vika purpl 2h ago
the downvotes bruh, of course cis people think misgendering is okay :/
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u/GleamGal8765 2h ago
Yeah i mean cissies just dont want to feel bad about misgendering someone đ
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u/THE_250th_AMERICAN LIVE FREE OR DIE 2h ago
This sentence would kill a kid from the year two thousandÂ
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u/No_Payment9959 3h ago
As an autistic person, I get the intrusive thoughts. Zazen meditation - as much of a slog as it is - really helped me realize that I am not my thoughts and that thoughts just happen whether I want them to or not. It took I don't know how many hours of sitting in mental agony and forcing myself to focus only on my breath just to get to the point I'm at now, but I'd say it was worth it.
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u/Scout-gaming_ 2h ago
Thought crime ainât real bud. As long as youâre trying your best youâre ok
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u/Mechromancer3X 1h ago
My gfs best friend is enby(they/them) and my fuck ass brain keeps saying "she" every time i mention or think about them. It makes me so fucking mad at myself because I know how much misgendering hurts. It literally makes me so fucking mad at myself but I cant get my brain to stop doing itđđ
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u/Weirdguy1257 3h ago
It canNOT be that serious
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3h ago
for me it is
I'm sorry for making you argue with me
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u/Weirdguy1257 3h ago
Itâs ok man. If you feel this bad about it, youâll probably feel just as regretful if you ever say it out loud. And if your friend is someone youâve judged well enough to be your friend, theyâll understand that you didnât mean it. It really doesnât sound like anyone would do harm here.
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u/unusualicicle 3h ago
Holy virtue signaling
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u/Few_Imagination_6203 Losercity Tourist 3h ago
My killing my trans friend after accidentally turning off auto pilot with my feet while taking a nap.
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u/Yesodisnotop 3h ago
being the only person who know the trans girl before she came out it's fucking confusing I keep making mistakes.
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u/VeryPteri [REDACTED] 2h ago
I'm a trans girl and I hate that I use "man" and "bro" as expletives
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u/paperfungo i (used to) goon to anthro bees now i'm a Better person 3h ago
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u/AgonyOverdrive 3h ago
Not what that subreddit is for
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u/paperfungo i (used to) goon to anthro bees now i'm a Better person 3h ago
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u/nathanpete 3h ago
I thought I spotted one of my high school friends from 7 years earlier at a park. I was going to approach them and say hi when I realized they weren't my friend, because my friend had approached me a year earlier at Pride, were trans now, and an absolute baddie.
I have seen them a few times since and have made a huge effort to seperate the two memories, since they are practically two different people, one was really depressed and troubled guy, and the other is a cheerful and very optimistic queen.
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u/HeroBoy05 the girl with the unfortunately outdated username 3h ago
Sometimes I spend 30+ minutes trying to make sure my phoneâs ringer is on before I go to sleep. I had a single instance in the past where I missed a class because my phone being on silent made my alarm not go off
Every time I think itâs on, my brain just tells me âno itâs not on, itâs on silent. Fix it. Fix it. Fix it fix it fix it fixitfixitfixitfixitfixit.â And then Iâm back to the same loop
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u/pekstonaltyk when the FRAUD /// THIRD // DISINTEGRATION LOOP 3h ago
Yk at some point i misgendered everyone I know accidentally, mostly me for some reason
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u/Max_G-Bloody_Emperor [REDACTED] 3h ago
I used to misgender myself but in the other way around. I'm currently transfem, but before I realized I sometimes referred to myself by feminine pronouns then fixed it to masculine ones. Now I just use feminine.
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u/Petiteythewriter 3h ago
I don't know if this will help, but a way to deal with these train of thoughts is think about it in reverse and ask yourself if the reversed scenario would be just as bad.
If you always gender them correctly in your head, but have bad intention and always misgender them in real life, in person, what would that mean? That would be horrid, yeah? like on a 1-10 moral scale that would be like an 8 (very bad.) So, if that's bad, then the opposite (this situation) would be a 2, not really bad.
This logic also apply to other things. For example, feeling bad that you stick to your diet during the holidays even though you kept a 100 days streak of perfect eating? Just imagine you overeating for a 100 days and only stick to your diet during the holidays. Would that be equally as bad? Does that makes sense?
Like, between thoughts and actions, you must remember that actions will be more impactful. Remember and be kind to yourself gang.đ
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u/Jack_Dunford1 3h ago
Me when I accidentally misgender my enby ex partner in my own head while thinking about how manipulative they were to me and how better off I am without them
I'm trans myself now and I know it's not that big a deal if it's just in my head but it still gets me lol
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u/wookiee-nutsack I trap ants in my foreskin and start pissing 3h ago
I, on the other hand, am quite surprised by how quickly my brain adapts to automatically using the right pronouns for all friends
In speech I make a mental effort to remind myself not to slip up but in text I manage just fine
Even mire surprising knowing my language does not have gendered pronouns so I'm not used to it due to not speaking english as often as native
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u/BrazilBazil 2h ago
The difference maker for me is if someone corrects themselves. Like when someone uses a masculine form and then goes âshit, sorry, I meantâŠâ and then uses the feminine form, itâs fine.
Some people just say âsorryâ but thatâs not enough.
And then thereâs people whom I asked directly to stop misgendering me and they still do itâŠ
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u/LOR3DGuy10 gender? the fuck is that? đĄâȘđŁâ« 2h ago
I misgender myself (enby) all the time bro
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u/silversoul113 1h ago
vro i did this in a voice call during a game but its not my first language to be fair and theres never girls so thats probably why but still x.x
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u/ghostgabe81 23m ago
Me when I misgendered my trans friend twice in one night (it was the first time we ever hung out and was also like 2 years ago, surely he hates me for it)
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u/Denelix skibitye 3h ago
wut ocd gotta do wit dis
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u/Mac-And-Cheesy-43 3h ago
The main symptom of OCD is spending way too much time and energy on intrusive thoughts like these.
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3h ago
When you don't have therapist for 2 years but you have bite marks on your hand beacuse you would bite yourself very hard sometimes
You go desperate
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u/Denelix skibitye 3h ago
Idk. I guess ur ocd is different from mine? I thought ocd was doing basically âritualsâ that ur brain needs to do or else it bothers you until it happens. Mine is where i need my body to feel the same as my other. So if i blow a bit on my right hand my left feels not as blown on so i slightly blow on my left hand until it feels equal as my right. Or if i pass a tree and blink my left eye did not get to experience that blinking while passing that exact tree so i need to do it on my left eye too while also passing the tree or a very similar one.
I thought stuff like that was ocd since my momâs is very similar.
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2h ago
I'm sorry
Now I'm feeling guilty because I'm faking OCD
I should just isolate myself as I did once already, it did help last time, or I think so
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u/Strict_Average_696 3h ago
Trans obsession on this sub is reaching MAGAtard levels. Never go full MAGAtard.
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u/DriverExtension9303 2h ago
This is so real, bad thoughts come swarming me when I do something like that
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3h ago edited 3h ago
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3h ago
If it is I'm going to delete the post
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u/ViaScrybe 3h ago
I feel like, on theme with the post, it's okay to make mistakes like this without knowing and no magical consequence is going to come of it
If possible it wouldn't hurt to speak to a therapist but I get that it isn't always accessibleÂ
Edit: not to mention this might not even be AIÂ
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u/ghigo2008 3h ago
This guy is the biggest virtue signaled ever, what angers me even more is that this type of person never forms their own opinion, they hate something because someone online told them to and then find reason to hate it.
We both belong on r/peoplewhogiveashit
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u/imonlyhumanafteral1 3h ago
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u/ghigo2008 2h ago
Doesn't load, I immagine its very nice though
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u/Depresso_Expresso069 AAAH AAH AUGH AHHHH 35m ago
its the image of the Joe Biden quote of him saying 'what?' but its all in japanese (or korean or chinese, im not good at knowing which is which)
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u/Chainmale001 2h ago edited 1h ago
Their triggers are NOT your problem.
This applies to everyone. Don't beat yourself up if your not trying to be an asshole.
Edit: OP is alone. And yes, forcing your views on others IS an asshole thing to do. You're not wrong. Wanting to be called one thing or another in the company of someone else is one thing. But pitching a bitch fit because someone didn't THINK of you how you wanted to be thought of. Jesus fuck that's daff.
No victim, No crime. No thought police. We have enough issues with our existence thanks.
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u/Revolutionary_Row683 white 2h ago
They are if they want to stay friends. You can be an asshole all you want but don't be surprised when the only people that talk to you are other assholes.
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u/wild_vika purpl 1h ago
shoo shoo go back to porn subs, no one asked for your opinions here
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u/Chainmale001 1h ago
You couldn't even resist. tsk tsk. Who's being judgmental now?
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