I had a revelation recently, while wearing my oversized jelly bra that does absolutely nothing for me, that I NEED a new bra. A couple, probably. Like yesterday.
For a couple years now I’ve been primarily wearing True & Co bras and the aforementioned Amazon wireless bra in an attempt to feel as comfortable as possible. But you know what’s not comfortable? Your post-baby boobs naturally resting halfway down your torso, being barely held in place by these sweat-soaked, light compression bras and pressed against your IMF instead of lifted away from it. I’m done.
The problem is, now I feel like I am looking for a unicorn. I like the idea of unlined when it comes to custom fit, but I know I would feel more comfortable with a little more modesty than mesh can offer. I don’t want the mental friction of having to add nipple covers or pads underneath; c’mon now, it’s the undergarment’s job provide that coverage, right? I like seamless and smooth styles because they work with everything, but so many unlined bras are lace… which is beautiful, but can be a sensory nightmare for me and limit versatility of wear. I’ve never tried a spacer but that seems to be close to what I’m describing; however, I think I want to get away from molded cups since they usually cause so many issues. All these checkboxes plus finding a bra that actually fits… I need the help of people with more bra game than me!!
My ABTF calculator measurements (inches):
Loose Underbust: 33
Snug Underbust: 32.25
Tight Underbust: 30.5
Standing Bust: 36.5
Leaning Bust: 39.75
Lying Bust: 38
This leaves me with 34D/DD. I’m 6’ tall, FOB, lots of loose skin from volume loss post-babies. I really struggle with identifying any of the other shape traits on myself. I think teardrop shape. My frame is pretty wide but I think my roots are actually on the narrow side of average. Maybe average projection? I’ve dealt with the struggles of both shallow and projected boobs in different bras (gapping at the top of cups, gore not tacking, etc).
Bras I have that are close to working [NSFW links]:
Bravissimo Millie—UK 34E. I bought this on a trip to London when I lost my suitcase. My only unlined. At first this seemed perfect, I love the way I look in it. But now I know it’s not quite right. The gore tacks beautifully but is either too tall or too wide—it just presses too much on my sternum to wear all day. And even though it gives me great shape, there’s a finger-width of space between my IMF and the underwire, both on the bottom and the sides. And maybe the tiniest bit of rippling in the upper lace.
Natori Breakout Full Fit Contour—US 36D. I was at a higher weight when I bought this and had more volume in my bust at the time; it fit much better then, but I was also on a trip and needed a bra so I bought the best I could find. This is actually still my most comfortable underwire bra and I wear it despite it not fitting properly anymore. I don’t know if there’s a fit issue here other than I’d need to go down to a 34D?
VS Perfect Shape Smooth Push-Up—US 34D. Don’t judge me, I walked into VS yesterday in desperation and liked this when I tried it on. The fabric is comfy and it made me feel good, and honestly the fit feels pretty okay in the short time I’ve tried it on. But the times I want that much padded lift are pretty infrequent in my life. Planning to return but just sharing here for fit comparison help.
I have other bras that are absolute no’s also—I have a Cleo Faith that is such a bad fit that I can’t believe I purchased it, as well as several old 34C VS bras from my 20s that weirdly still feel comfy in the band but are now way too small in the cup.