Hey yall. 25m Catholic single who’s never even had a girlfriend. Saving until marriage, all that stuff.

Can anyone explain why is dating so unfathomably hard as Gen Z? Especially, ironically, in the Catholic realm?

Nearly every Catholic girl I’ve gone out with has always given me some sort of trouble, especially on the ghosting and just flat out no-contact side of things (which seems a little sinful if you ask me).

I try to date a woman who I could see a long-term future with, I try to find someone I could be Catholic with and raise Catholic children with, but every time I try, I feel like it’s just God tormenting me (which I know He is not, but every date has felt like a battle just to keep talking) because they have all ended in failure of sorts.

And I’m not just going out and about looking for every Catholic girl I can find, I’m still very particular even if they are Catholic.

Most of the world will draw the line at no sex before marriage. I don’t want to ever consider that, no matter how much my dating pool opens if I drop that dealbreaker. But it just sucks that even when I find people who are supposedly in the same mindset, it just doesn’t work out.

I know there’s only so much you can learn about me in a short description of my dating life, so I hope no rash assumptions are made (this is Reddit, after all), but just looking for sympathy and eventual advice, even if it’s the same old “keep going” stuff. And no, I don’t want to be a priest.

It’s gotten to the point where I’m not even awfully sad about it anymore, just hopeless. Life goes on, I guess.

TLDR, even when I make the intentional effort to find a Catholic girl who shares similar interests with me, it just feels like another tough lesson from God. I don’t know if anyone else is experiencing this, but it just really sucks that I can’t find anyone even when I’m being the most intentional I can about dating snd finding someone with those shared values.

Currently single, and I know faithful Catholics are called to be open to life if you want to get married. However, I've struggled for a while with whether or not I'm called to be a parent.

I'm prolife, I judge married couples who choose to be "child-free" and I like kids enough, but I've never been the type of person who dreams of being a mother the way I do being married. Maybe it's a result of being parentified as an oldest child, maybe it's a result of being a school teacher and dealing with other people's kids all day long, or something else.

I was taught that if you don’t want kids as a Catholic, you shouldn't get married

I was mostly wondering, has anyone here dealt with hesitation towards children but changed their mind?

Or had other thoughts on the matter?

I (23f) was brought into the Church officially 6ish months ago. I’ve since joined the choir and began to sponsor for OCIA, and have gotten pretty mixed in with various parishioners and their families. When I joined the Church, I brought a lapsed Catholic and a couple of Baptist friends with me. Lapsed Catholic went to confession and locked in, one Baptist was confirmed with me, one will be confirmed this year. These people have become my closest network of Catholic friends, but I have plenty of non-Catholic Christian friends or Catholic acquaintances outside of them, and a couple of others who are interested in joining the Church and have been asking for advice because they know I sponsor. THANKS BE TO GOD!!!

That’s a bit of context about how I got here. Since my conversion first began, I’ve been far more serious about honoring the Lord in my actions, even though it means going to confession WEEKLY to confess, which 90% of the time includes a lust confession, and the other 10% is just for spiritual counsel to keep myself in a routine and I’ll throw some venial sins that I remember in the chat for forgiveness. My priest, knowing lust has been destroying me as a result of childhood experiences, has counseled me to seek a relationship and marriage, pursue my partner honorably, and aim to marry. I respect it, but I didn’t feel like I deserved it, but he told me to ask a guy for coffee.

My best friend and I (she’s the former Baptist currently going through OCIA), went dancing with some of our young adults and were ecstatic to just make some friends. We both ended up meeting a pair of Catholic gentlemen who also happen to be best friends. Attentive, respectful, kind, etc. Bestie said that since I promised my priest I’d ask a guy for coffee, it should be the guy I met. I shrugged and said “why not?” because there wasn’t much pressure or insecurity there. He was a sweet guy, seemed to check the boxes, cradle and devout Catholic, self-assured, masculine, good career, hobbies, etc. I also was a bit of a mess out there. I’m good at dancing, but I’m very extroverted and energetic and I don’t always read the room because I have (diagnosed) autism. I took a nap on a bench, screamed “RELEASE ME” after he spun me too many times in a row, and complimented any strangers (other women!!) that I thought looked pretty that night. I was sober, if that matters; this is just how I am. I had many antics but he seemed fairly entertained and found my ‘quirks’ endearing.

I asked him for coffee just to say I did it, especially because we clicked pretty well, and he took charge of planning a date and time and activity and has been maintaining a (thin, appropriate) line of contact since then. Our date is coming up in a few days. I’m not nervous or anxious, but I’m so curious. I don’t have the usual butterflies, but the butterflies usually come with insecurity and anxiety and I don’t have that either, so I think that’s a good thing. It’s so strange. I’ve never properly dated anyone, and I’m very particular about maintaining boundaries and who I invest my time in. I became a Christian 8 years ago in high school and maintained celibacy following that because I don’t want my true perception and connection with someone to be hindered by lust. I have no idea what to expect, but also I don’t want to have expectations.

I’m 23, so I know I’m very young and there are many more new experiences to come but I have no idea how to appropriately proceed. I’m very formulaic, but also spontaneous. I’ve had some rough romantic experiences in high school and early into my Bachelor’s degree, and I’m very, very firm on learning from my mistakes and not letting my heart rest in the palms of someone who thinks it’s a stress ball. In my head, it’s like, “Maintain a thin line of contact unless a relationship is established, only have longer conversations in-person so you don’t develop an idealized version of him, don’t engage physical contact until the 3rd date, don’t say yes to a relationship without laying ground rules, make sure he knows you date to marry by the second date, make sure you actually like him, blah blah blah.” And another part of me that understands that my need for formula is related to the concept of routines and guidelines that people with autism desire to help keep things orderly, so that other part says, “Be yourself, treat him with respect, don’t put pressure or demand a timeline, know your boundaries, only bring up this gritty stuff as it arises. If there’s anything essential left to cover before entering a relationship, present it gently.”

I’m also off of work for the week and taking care of some medical stuff so I have really nothing other to do than keep my body busy and lay out plans regarding my job, my Master’s, church, recreation, etc, so this week’s thing is taking care of schoolwork, lining things up for work-work, and planning my weekend because I have a few things that need to be taken care of and built around my weekend Mass/OCIA/confession schedule, including this. Anyone have any thoughts or advice?

Hello. I have been single for a very long time and I feel as if God is calling me to be married, however, I do not see it happening in the near future. For those people who were single for a long time how did you make the most out of your single life and how did it help you down the road?

I 28M went out on a few dates with a woman and after about the 3rd or 4th date she immediately just ghost me. I felt we were hitting it off i planned some fun dates, movie dates, tried to plan stuff that we both would enjoy. I grew up being told to always bring a woman flowers on a date and she told me it was to much. I said ok and backed off with the flowers. After the 3rd date in about a month I asked if she wanted to possibly make it official. I was then told she wanted a few more dates to make sure. Fast forward another month and 2 dates later I then asked where she was in the relationship she then dropped the friend zone bomb. My question to anyone who is willing to read this is why are they on a dating app if they just wanna be friends? My 2nd question why not just be up front rip the bandaid off and say I dont wanna date you and move on with our lives? I was up front with her from the start of what I was looking for and I just dont like beating around the bush. Perhaps I came off to strong? I genuinely am curious what someone might suggest i do differently cause it is tough out here in this new age of dating.

Hello everyone, 20f here. I wanted some advice because on saturday I will be meeting a guy that I have found attractive for like 10 months, I have never talked to him but I always saw him in mass from a distance and thought to myself that he looks cute. Anyway he will be coming to like a friendly meeting of the young people in church, we will be like 4 girls and 6 guys so it will be like a hangout and no adults just a friend of mine organized it. anyways he sent me a message asking how many of us there werw because he is helping my friend organize. I am wondering if I would be his type, I don’t really know his preferences or anything much about him but I don’t think I have the strongest looks, im pretty fit but I dont have that stunning beauty yk, many people have said im the funniest person they have ever met but im wondering if this kind of guys just go on about beauty and like shy girls or could he be melted by my stupid jokes i guess? just need some advice cause some men prefer like more feminine and shy girlies idk how to play my cards help please

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Thank you in advance for your consideration on this rant.

Bottom line up front: I am turning to a life of conviction, and my cradle-Catholic girlfriend is rooted in a life of convenience. Our conflict over fornication and godliness has affected my happiness and physical attraction.

My girlfriend (21f) and I (20m) have been together for just about a year. We met at college last year, and after consistently hanging out as “friends” for a while, I asked to be her boyfriend and she said no. A little while after, I was ghosted for about a month, whereafter she reached out and we hung out a bunch. A month after that, she asked to be my girlfriend and I said yes.

I always assumed that waiting until marriage was a good idea, as well as dating to marry, but these ideas were not from the perspective of an informed Catholic. I grew up agnostic, but her Catholic upbringing inspired me to honestly give Christianity a chance in my life, and I love it. However, the more I learned, the more I realized that my growing conviction would be problematic for us. We had been choosing to live in sin (i.e. fornication), and when I told her I didn’t want to fornicate or feed into lust anymore, she was taken aback. Her view of Catholicism is that it’s interpretational, and that not every “rule” needs to be strictly followed.

My overall wish to have our relationship become God-centered was initially interpreted as “controlling, selfish, manipulative, and illogical.” This includes me wanting to raise a churchgoing family and avoiding cohabitation until marriage. Our conversations would end in her taking multiple stances which were self-contradicting, and thus confusing and sometimes even hurtful. She’s since said that she didn’t really mean the things she said before, and she only said those things because she was stressed/anxious.

The way the conflict was handled has exposed my need to clearly and concisely communicate important things earlier on. However, the way this specific conflict has been handled on her end has seriously affected my outlook on us two. For one, I feel nauseous about the fornication-related things we’ve done, and I honestly regret going that far at all. She regards those things with nostalgia/yearning, and has implied that she would otherwise continue fornicating with me if I somehow gave up on Christ (that’s not happening 🙏). Her word choice and defensiveness in response to my conversion also made me timid to consider doing future things that are important for my growth (both inside and outside of the church) out of fear of apparent selfishness being labeled as manipulative.

My physical attraction to my girlfriend has since plummeted. I can say that she is conventionally very beautiful, but I do not enjoy being intimate (as innocent as a kiss on the cheek), nor spending time together. I can no longer so easily see myself leading a fruitful, God-centered marriage with this person. I’ve prayed every night for this last month for the humility to recognize God’s will in my life, but I’m scared that I somehow exacerbated these events in my own human mind.

TLDR: I am turning to a life of conviction, and my cradle-Catholic girlfriend is rooted in a life of convenience. Our conflict over fornication and godliness has affected my happiness and physical attraction. How can I discern my situation as God’s will? (Is that the right perspective to have??)

I’ve been having a lot going through my mind lately and this post will most likely be all over the place. So for context I’ve been dating my bf for almost 5 months now. I really do love him but I’ve been getting anxious lately and thinking that things won’t work out and those types of thoughts and I feel like it’s a defense mechanism bc of my previous relationships and getting so badly hurt. Everything has being going well between us but I just get scared that I’ll get hurt again. I wish I could bring it up to him but I’m scared and I really don’t want to discuss how my previous relationships have affected me so badly. Neither of us have discussed previously relationships to each other don’t know if that good or bad. The other thing is I wish I could bring up deeper conversation about the future but I feel it’s too soon and I’m scared I might freak him out. I literally might just be overthink everything due to trauma but advice would be appreciated. Are there specific questions I could ask that would not be to forward but would be good?

Yesterday, the girl I was dating broke up with me, we knew eachother more than a year now, and our relationship was something beautiful tbh. We started as friends and little by little things grew into this. However she broke up with me because she was not sure, in her words: "I want for you someone who says yes to your love, not a maybe" (sorry if it doesnt make sense, english isn't my first language).

Tbh I'm devastated, really thought I was gonna marry her eventualy, we agreed a lot in our values and had lots in common. I'm not even angry at her, I love her and if she thinks this was the correct choice then I will accept it and wish her the best.

For anyone who went through something like this, how did you make sense of it, cause I really feel like God was telling me she was the one, but it seems she's not or at least not now. Anyways, any prayer or advice ir appreciated.

Also, please abstain from doing any kind of "oh she just made an excuse to left you" comment, you don't know her nor me nor our history together. Those comments don't help anyone. Blessings and have a beautiful day

Volunteering is alone of course such a rewarding experience. I would love to get involved in volunteering since I had to reduce my formal working hours. I would like to know if you have ever been involved with volunteering and if so have you ever ended up meeting someone special? What kind of volunteering was it? Thank you

so i met a guy on catholicmatch.com and he’s my dream guy. we used to message and call much more, and now we don’t. i mentioned it and he said it was because he was bad at communicating, but he’s said so many times that he likes me “a lot” (his words) and wants to date me. he reassured me that he wasn’t talking to anyone either.

even though he said that he liked me a lot on thursday, i still doubt this because i’m always messaging first, he doesn’t initiate calling anymore, and can go days without messaging me. the last time he didn’t message me for days, he actually had a valid reason, like he decided he was no longer Catholic and didn’t want to lie to me, so felt nervous about talking to me as he saw how Christ saved me. i said this was okay, as i already liked him and I’d rather be with a kind agnostic than a mean Catholic (I’ve dealt with some mean people on Catholicmatch.com and decided on being open to dating non-Catholics). he said so many nice things and said he still wanted to date me anyways and that he “liked me a lot.” this was last Thursday and he hasn’t messaged me back, I’ve sent him another message.

i feel stupid typing this, like it’s so obvious he doesn’t like me anymore but then why would he say he still likes me and compliment me so much?

i’m trying to pretend that i’m not scared about him ghosting me or feel my heartbreaking already over how he doesn’t like me anymore even though he keeps saying he does but i’m already starting to feel hurt and distracted from things in my daily life over this. i really wanted him to be my first boyfriend, i thought because i had healed so much, God was rewarding me but that’s obviously not true. i feel so silly for letting myself get into this situation again (i’ve been ghosted several times recently by long talking stages that promised they wouldn’t ghost me and it hurts like a b**** every time). i’ve just been praying really hard for him and for us but it feels so futile :’) i’m tired of romance being so hard for me, and so easy for my friends, my friends never have been single for long ☹️the problem is with me is that I can’t close my heart to romance, no matter how hard I try and no matter how busy I make myself, I keep getting into situations where I get hurt again and again because I keep hoping but my self esteem is really low as a result. Anyways I’m just yapping now. I don’t even know what advice anyone could give me but to keep praying

It's in the title: what kind of details / information about a woman would you like to see, or hope you don't come across, on a potential partner's dating profile? In other words, what information makes you want to connect or keep looking? This can apply to a Catholic or non-Catholic app. I asked a friend about this and his answer was a little eye opening, so I'm curious to see what other men think.

I (22M) am a Sophomore in college, and quite a few of the people in my friend group are women. Hardly any of us have ever dated. If I were to ask one of them out, what's a good way to go about it?

I would say I am attracted to just about every woman in the group, and since none of them have given me obvious signs they are into me (or I just miss all of them, which is equally possible), how do I ask one out in a respectful way/choose which one to ask? I don't really want to ask them all one by one, as that seems kind of disrespectful, but I could easily see myself dating pretty much any of them.

After many months of disappointment, and zero connections, I’m leaving this space to preserve my sanity and accept my single state. I don’t know what God has in store for me but it’s not partnership and marriage. Maybe it’s just motherhood and writing and the daily grind. And that’s ok. I should be doing better at all those things and praising God I am blessed.

I’m just tired of being lonely and hopeful someone will notice me and reach out and click with me. Catholic dating spaces aren’t yielding much. And frankly, there’s no good time or good way to go in my case.

I will be praying for all you singles soldiering on. You are so so incredible!

Thanks for sharing your stories, advice, and well wishes. God bless.

I know this may seem like an odd question, but curious to hear your thoughts. A lot of people say when they meet their person that it was all
Part of God’s plan, and I do believe that! However like if someone loved someone deeply and like either never said something to them and totally “missed their chance”, or it just didn’t work out cause of the circumstances, or something along those lines, would you attribute it to God keeping them apart intentionally, or rather the responsibility on the person/people? Another example could be feeling like meeting someone naturally / randomly and having an instant connection is all part of God’s design, but doing a dating app doesn’t feel strongly as such if that makes sense. This is a wrestling between our human free will and God’s design and plan. Curious to hear your thoughts on this.

I’m 25M and she is 24F. So to provide some context, initially we connected on Hinge in February. She was interested and eventually I got her number. We tried to set a simple coffee date but she would either cancel, or just not reply for days on end. Her excuse was that she either a) was not by her phone or b) she was really busy. After a month of trying, I essentially gave up and moved on. Fast forward to later in June, I saw her at a wedding. I had already made up my mind that I was not going out of my way to talk to her, but if she came up to me I would. Well later during the reception I felt a tap on my shoulder and it was her wanting to talk. So, we went outside and ended up chatting for a few hours, until the end of the reception. She was flirting pretty hard and the conversation flowed really well. She contacted me the following day and we set up a coffee date later in the week. It went well and we ended up talking for a few hours. I asked her what was the difference between when we initially connected to now - essentially asking her what changed between now and then. She said during that time she was just getting out of a relationship and starting a new job and felt overwhelmed. She admitted she should have handled it differently and apologized. She said she was in a better place now both mentally and spiritually. Keep in mind at this point there had been a complete 180 in her communication. She had been pretty responsive. Presently, I have tried to set up a dinner date to no avail. She’s ghosting me again but still viewing my stories. I am not saying this is the cause of her behavior but I know she suffered some emotional trauma when she was younger. I am just wondering whether I should cut my losses and move on or is this something worth pursuing? I have prayed intently about it. I know God puts certain people in our lives for different reasons. I’m struggling to see the purpose here.

UPDATE: ok guys i did it and he felt the same way!!!! thank you all for giving me the push i needed!

I (25F) have had feelings for a friend (27M) since we did a Catholic young adult year of service program. When I started, I had graduated from college, moved from the west coast to the east coast for said program, and had recently entered into a LDR with a guy that was introduced to me by a close mutual friend. There is a bit of lore here, so bear with me!

For the first few months, I didn’t really talk to 27M. I was trying to adjust to the new environment as well as invest in my LDR. To be frank, this LDR was a whirlwind and was built more on physical chemistry than emotional intimacy/friendship. He was also a non-believer and he was going out a lot at his grad program (drinking), so we were already incompatible in our values. Yet, I wanted to make it work, so I spent a lot of time planning dates and phone calls.

Then, mid-way through the service year, our close mutual friend passed away in a car accident. I was devastated by his death, and I struggled with anxiety and grief to the point where I was isolating in my room. Even worse, my LDR also said that he needed space from me because of school and his own grief, and I felt so alone in handling all of these feelings.

27M stepped up and became a friend that I needed. It started with small acts of kindness, like writing affirmation cards and doing my house chores for me. He soon started working at my volunteer site and we started chatting a lot because of the downtime. I found that we had similar interests, and we became really good friends. We would hang out after work in the house living room (I made sure to put up my boundaries!) and sometimes pray at the perpetual adoration chapel nearby in the evenings. I quickly started having feelings for him, but I buried these feelings out of guilt and also in my desire to make my LDR work. He had also expressed an interest in exploring religious life.

Toward the end of our service year, I also began to wonder if he started having feelings for me, as he would do things that he had never done for anyone else (even girls) in the house. The other volunteers even noticed this too. On our last day of service together, he wrote me a letter, and it basically thanked me for being such a wonderful friend and daughter of God.

We kept in touch sporadically after leaving our service year, and there was a period of time where we weren’t keeping in touch as he had started postulancy and I was starting grad school. I also wanted to put my boundaries up as I wanted to respect my then-current relationship and try to make it work (a bit delusional in wanting my ex to become Catholic.)

We have both gone through transitions over the course of last year: he left a postulancy program last winter, and I broke up with my ex-boyfriend in April. Recently, my friend and I hung out at a wedding weekend for our friends this summer and we started talking again. After the trip, we would text everyday—sometimes late into the evening. I felt like we could comfortably talk about anything like old times, and I started feeling all of my feelings for him again. Around early July, he had casually mentioned that he went on a Hinge date that didn’t work out. Hearing this made me feel discouraged (and I wasn’t quite ready to date yet), so I put up more boundaries in our communication.

I do want to tell him how I feel (lol I know that I have this power), but I have a lot of anxieties that are holding me back. We are currently both on other sides of the country. I am finishing up my grad program and he is about to start his grad program this fall (2 years). I’m also scared that he might not have completely figured out his vocation yet, either. I have been talking to friends and have been sitting with Jesus in Adoration, which has been helpful, but I still leave with a lot of uncertainty and doubt. I would love any prayers and words of support!

I'm 31 M and have been struggling with porn for a long time. I found it pretty young but got caught and then really I was fine until college.

Growing up, I knew 2 things I wanted for sure. My career and I wanted to get married and have a family. I was committed to being chaste and even turned down girl's advances in high school.

But then the porn came back when I was like 19 and I have been trapped since. It was on and off at first. But over time it got worse. The porn wasn't enough. I also participated in sexting, which is arguably worse for the psyche in my opinion. I stopped trying to date because it felt wrong to make this problem, her problem too. I accomplished things in spite of this addiction and managed to still do okay in life generally. But I hate myself. I hate this. It literally makes no sense how I got here based on my upbringing.

I self sabotaged. I became compulsive. Like I paid for OF and I became this pathetic man. And even though i have no attraction to men, I have a history that I have to carry with me now. The thought of it is repulsive and yet I did it a few times. I dont want to get too explicit here. I have gone to confession for it. I use covenant eyes. I opened up to a friend for help and accountability. I even went to therapy.

I can't forgive myself. How could I possibly expect my potential future wife to forgive me. If that is even an option anymore. The pain and anxiety and hatred that I feel is SUFFOCATING.

Please please please, if you are struggling with this, take it seriously. This will ruin your life.

I am still in the midst of recovering, so i don't think I will be dating for a while still. I recognize that I will have to gave the consequences. Such as being rejected for my history. I haven't felt that pain yet, but it is honestly terrifying.

I guess I am just wondering...is there even hope for someone like me? I have no intention of hiding it...that would just be unbearable for me. Are you willing to forgive someone's history of shitty sexual decisions and addictions? I know all things are possible through God. And my catholic faith is the only thing keeping me afloat. But I just don't know how to give this to God. I haven't figured that out yet. But I am trying.

I always thought that maybe some people weren't meant to get married. But I never thought it would be me. And I certainly never thought it would be because of this.

EDIT: Thank you everyone for the encouragement, resources and direction. I probably won't be replying for a while because I want to step away from social media entirely for a while.

Also for anyone else seeing this, (I am in the US) i found this page dedicated to resources https://www.usccb.org/topics/marriage-and-family-life-ministries/help-for-those-struggling

Hi everyone! I’ve (21f) been dating my boyfriend for 3 months, but we’ve known each other since January. He’s really great and exactly the type of man I want to marry. We built a solid foundation even before we started dating, so even though it’s only been 3 months, it feels like a lot longer. He’s very set on marrying me as soon as possible.

I’m still in college and have a year left, whereas he’s done with school and will be starting his career. If it were up to him, we’d get married fall of 2027. I told him that was too soon and I wanted to finish up school and work for at least a year, so he wants to propose this spring of 2027 after I graduate and get married the spring of 2028. So we’d date for a year and then be engaged for a year.

I know that’s a reasonable timeline, but to be honest, I don’t know if I feel emotionally ready. I do love him and think I want to marry him, but I also have OCD, and it has me spiraling with questions like “What if we’re rushing things and I marry him and it’s not actually God’s will for my life?” etc.

I’m not saying with certainty that I won’t feel ready to get engaged this spring. But now that there’s a set timeline, I feel that it’s putting pressure on me to figure out NOW if I 100% do want to marry him by May.

I personally think I’d rather work for a year and THEN get engaged, so get engaged spring of 2028. I just don’t feel like an adult quite yet, and I don’t think I’ll start to until I get established in my career. I wouldn’t want to get engaged without feeling secure in that. Marriage sounds scary, and I know it can be in some ways, but I think it’d be less intimidating if I were older and had more time to grow.

But I also don’t want to be unfair to my boyfriend and make him wait forever. Again, he’s a few years older and feels more ready. I know we’ve not been dating that long and still have discerning to do. But assuming things do continue to work out, that’s what my thought process is.

My questions are: would it be unfair/unreasonable to suggest that to my boyfriend? Or should I just suck it up and deal with the anxieties I’m having around it?

Sorry for the rambling and thank you in advance!

No matter what happens in life with love/relationships I always lose in the end. I’ve been thinking more and more that this just isn’t for me. If this is truly not for me, then I wish God would remove the desire from my heart 100%. Would it be wrong of me to ask?

I'm currently 24M and have never had an official relationship. To be totally honest, sometimes I wish I did and I pray that one day I may. However, it just feels like everyone around me is getting with someone and they're incredibly happy and don't get me wrong I'm incredibly happy for them too and just like they prayed for their significant other I am too, but, I feel like that person may never come and that it's in God's plan that I'm probably gonna be single for a while...any advice? I would greatly appreciate it and God bless you all