A few days ago, I had applied for a play-by-post campaign and contacted the DM. We had a chat about the character I wanted to play and he seemed to really like my concept. We spent a while fleshing out the backstory and connections that could be made to fit the character into the setting. And I left that meeting feeling like I made a decent impression.
The next day, I get an invite to the Discord server and was chatting with a few of the other players who got accepted, talking about the party comp (3 wizards, 1 sorc, and 1 rogue) and what we've been up to irl. I was still making adjustments to my character, which I was gonna post onto the server the next day after I finished.
Today, I was unable to reply in the morning since I had to go to work early. During my bathroom break, I checked my phone and noticed I was no longer in the server. I thought it was weird, maybe I got desynced or the internet where I worked was being iffy or I left the server via butt dial (seemed the least likely). So I rejoined the server and let the DM know about the situation before returning to work. When I looked back at my phone during my lunch break, I checked my phone and realized I was no longer in the server again. This time, the DM sent a message and told me he kicked me intentionally. He talked about how we had different momentums and thought it would be best if I searched for a different campaign to be a part of. I told him to enjoy his campaign but also asked if he could elaborate and so far, he’s been ghosting me.
I’m not exactly sure what he meant by “momentum” and still don’t really understand. From what I saw before I lost access to the server, only one person had their character finished. I had spent a lot of time working on my character too and was really looking forward to the campaign, especially with the amount of attention the DM and I had put into fleshing out the character a few days prior. I’m a bit disappointed, especially since his first resort was to just kick me rather than explain or give me a warning.
TL;DR: Joined a PBP campaign with a friendly DM, got kicked with no explanation. Rejoined and kicked again, with the DM's reasoning that we had different momentums.