I scrolled away but I had to come back to this, for you and for anyone else in your situation.
Assuming you’re safe, financially able/secure, and not putting yourself or anyone else at risk: please don’t stay for the kids. I’m an educator who’s worked with families and kids from toddlerhood to high school. I’ve seen the effect that an unhappy home has on children. They can sense when things aren’t okay. They pick up on your stress no matter how much you try to keep it from them, and it’s just not possible, and I’m so sorry for that.
Please find your own happiness. Maybe that means separating, maybe that means finding ways to create joy in smaller ways within your family and relationships. I certainly can’t speak to that. It’s just been my experience that children flourish best with two happy parents, not necessarily two married ones.
You deserve to be happy. Your children deserve to have beautiful memories with a parent who loves life so they know how to love it, too. Wishing you all the best ♥️
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u/No-One-4432 15h ago
Ugh, I'm in a horribly lonely and unhappy marriage. Can't wait to escape it. Staying for the kids.