Hello
New here trying to get answers about my own skepticism vs self belief
To be fair, I’m aware I have been experiencing many forms of grief and in particular the loss of a parent with whom I had a close bond, when my dad passed last year I have been experiencing a feeling of being in touch with myself that has isolated me from others.
Im aware of the way grief hits us and when you are prone to depression and anxiety it can be reassuring to consider what you “can” control - thoughts about psychic abilities or spirituality can be very deep complex and ironically reassuring.
However I do genuinely question it, and I’m still trying to seek more confidence about it.
I’m not sure if I can believe because if I give into this belief I’ll be submerged by what would be called insanity. We all want to have some type of a gift or a way out of our negativities in life. And to be or feel special. Very much so when it’s hard to trust yourself and everything gets chaotic / out of control.
This said: I want to know if I’m just fantasizing - but I I hope I’m not.
Essentially the few things I’ve always noticed with me :
\- when I was a young teen and a little prior I would be trying to sleep and get very afraid because I would imagine faces in my closed eyes, not by choice and often they weren’t very friendly. It was scary because it was faces I’d not seen before. Again this sounds psychotic.
\- recently again this has happened more and more often (like a few times since my dad passed away). This is the only “scary” disturbance I’ve considered could be upsetting.
\- sometimes I’ll hear a voice or a whisper as this happens as well but then I open my eyes and get afraid I’m crazy so I will just say it’s because I’m drifting into sleep and it’s some auditory half dream state thing
\- extremely vivid dreams, about my dead dog from childhood protecting me and choosing to possess a spirit in my place, liminal spaces like a weird huge expansive gym locker room- consistently with the same red lockers like my actual real gym lol, dreams with people I don’t know in real life (not dangerous, usually the people are seeking protection or need help with something like finding their child who’s run off and is lost) and sometimes I’m semi aware in the dream, dreams of my phone and using it and being aware as I’m waking up that this is both a dream and I’m waking up to reality at the same time. Dreams of my dad of course as well. I rarely have nightmares, although it can occur and it can always feel jarring whether or not…
\- I can imagine that what I’m feeling in my apartment is “feeling a lonely or sad presence” in the apartment. It’s a very old apartment in Paris. If this is “real” it doesn’t feel dangerous or angry - just very sad and gloomy like a woman who’s lost her son or her child. I just imagine an image associated with what I feel. Someone else who feels very scared and sad and isolated and the quiet feeling of being watched, it’s gross and weird. lol. But again “she’s” not negative just sad. (Quotes because I’m not going to claim this shit is real, just psychological emotional stuff).
\- the number one thing I feel solid about is that as someone with very strong empathy (lol) I am imagining peoples childhoods and the contexts in which they’ve grown up in when I see into their eyes. My ex for example, did not share much about his childhood but I sensed images and things that I “know” to be visual representations of his upbringing or his life, or the ways he may behave. Friends who I feel put me in a vulnerable spot, I no longer can imagine being around them, I can imagine color associated “auras” that surround them if I close my eyes and depending on the person it can be calm and poetic or less positive-feeling colors
\- I can gently force an out of body experience where I am imagining looking at myself from either my own perspective or as if I’m someone else, I can read or assume someone’s fears and anxieties and egos and limits and the way they are behaving beyond it feeling like assumption, but more close to being familiar with these parts of them. It’s uncomfortable because I know people get off-put by my presence because I’m quiet but always internally reading and I think they sense this.
\- once I had smoked w*ed that was most certainly laced with something and I was around a girl I ended up no longer being in contact with because her energy felt literally dark and gross and demonic lol (I’m kinda joking) but that night when I went out and smoked we\*d* ; we randomly talked to a lady in the metro and she made me feel really scared (paranoia from getting h\*gh probably) - I was feeling SO scared and somehow my brain was telling me : get away this woman is the devil- there was this scary red negative energy I was emotionally experiencing and was scared for days the presence was still “there” by me. I felt I was CRAZY. It was so scary. And that same night I dreamt of a guy on the metro SCREAMING into my face and I woke up and half dreamed / it felt “real” that that same guy jumped out of my window of my apartment to escape. So freaky.
\- once I was babysitting, the kid was napping and I accidentally napped for about 5-10 mins too (eek😬) and I had sleep paralysis / the only time ever I have I think - and I was stuck and could wake my
Body up, I was seeing a boy the same age as the kid I was babysitting but not at all the same kid, finally woke up i dont know how but that was jarring. Anyways again skeptical and chose to put it to just when you’re half asleep and you sleepwalk or whatever.
Always been very sensitive to manipulators and violators and I’m now practicing to set my emotional and adaptive boundaries and it’s challenging. But i’m also really funny and I’d like to think quite charismatic and solar !
I’m not seeking to make stories tho, or come up with a fantasy out of desire. I just feel reassured by the imagined explanation of this. Does any of this make sense ?
Everything is up to interpretation so yeah
\*\*\* But I wish I could meet with a professional spirit guide or medium/etc who could help me get solid feedback and investigate this with me (NOT a therapist lol) and not in some weirdo way \*\*\* - just so I can compare this to others who claim this as their pathway, and so I can see if I can train something that gives a sense of proof along practice
\- again: dreams can reflect what we’re experiencing in real life so this could be any number of things. So I’m skeptical, I tell myself it’s just grief and loneliness.
I don’t really believe in negative spirituality - or at least for me. I feel safe in a sense of comfort with this. I just hope I’m not insane ! There’s no psychosis here I promise ! Haha
I see a psychiatrist and my therapist for my severe anxiety disorder (OCD) and adhd so please be careful of approaching the topic of mental health - I’m not experiencing psychosis- I’m just very OCD.
But this feels different, it’s when I let go of the thought loops that protect me from my ocd that I sink into allowing this stuff to be potentially possible for me.
Again : I don’t “believe” it as fact, but I wish I could - that would reassure me that I’m not actually disturbed lol.
I’m a very self aware person and attempt to be as grounded as possible so I definitely can’t allow myself to consider insanity at this point lol.
Any opinions ? I’m really curious to learn more
Best to all of you xx