Four of us have been close friends for years. We’re a mixed group of men and women, and these days we don’t get to meet very often.

A couple of weeks ago, we finally found a Saturday when all four of us were free and planned dinner together. The idea was just to catch up like we used to.

A few hours before dinner, one friend texted the group:

“My partner is with me, so they’ll come along tonight. Hope that’s okay.”

I like their partner. We’ve met plenty of times and there’s never been a problem.

But I felt a little annoyed because nobody had actually been asked. It felt more like we were being told they were coming.

I replied, “Would you mind if we kept it just the four of us tonight? We hardly ever get to catch up anymore.”

My friend replied, “Seriously? They’re already with me. What am I supposed to say now?”

One friend privately told me they agreed with me. The other said I was making an issue out of nothing and that one extra person wouldn’t change the evening.

My friend eventually came alone, but things were noticeably awkward.

Later they told me, “You made my partner feel unwanted. We’ve been together for years and everyone knows them.”

I said, “I have nothing against your partner. I just think if four people make plans, you should ask before inviting a fifth person.”

They replied that in a long-term relationship, sometimes you should expect someone's partner to be included in casual social plans.

That’s where we disagree.

A: I wasn’t wrong. Being someone's long-term partner doesn’t mean you're automatically invited to every friend gathering.

B: I made it unnecessarily awkward. If everyone already knows and likes the partner, one extra person shouldn’t matter.

Who do you agree with?

I was on a flight and had a seat that I had specifically chosen when I booked my ticket.

A mom approached me and asked if I would switch seats with her so she could sit closer to her child. Her seat was not terrible but it was different from the one I had picked.

I said no because I had chosen my seat for a reason and I did not really want to give it up.

She seemed disappointed and I started wondering if I should have just switched to make things easier for her.

So I am curious what you would choose.

A: Keep the seat you picked and politely say no.

B: Switch seats so the parent can sit closer to their child even if you prefer your original seat.

Which would you choose?

My boss (who owns the company) is, quite frankly, extremely difficult to work with.

He shouts at people, loves drama, expects perfection, and seems to genuinely believe that everyone in the company is replaceable. Somehow, I’ve managed to survive and keep my head down because I’ve been the longest-serving employee (in my position) in the company.

But I think I’ve finally reached my limit.

Recently, my assistant resigned. She told my boss that one of the reasons was the environment in the office, which is largely because of him. My boss apparently told her that he would NOT accept that as a reason for her resignation.

Then, afterwards, he asked her to make a feedback report about ME.

Now he has called me and asked me to send him both my task list and hers because he apparently wants to compare our workloads. He seems to think that maybe I gave her too much work and that THIS is the real reason she resigned.

And honestly? That really pissed me off.

Trust is extremely important to me, and I feel like instead of looking at his own behavior and the environment he has created, he is trying to find someone else to blame. And now I feel like that person is me.

I’ve been managing this situation for a long time. I’ve put up with his personality, the shouting, the drama, the constant pressure and the feeling that none of us are really valued.

But this feels different.

It feels like he is questioning my integrity and trying to make me responsible for someone else’s decision to leave.

My husband thinks I should resign. His argument is that we actually have some savings, and he has a stable job that can support me and our family. He thinks this is the perfect opportunity for my boss to finally sit back and realize that maybe the problem isn't always everyone else.

Obviously, I know resigning without another job lined up isn't something to take lightly. But financially, we aren't in a position where my family would immediately be in trouble if I stopped working. I could take some time to breathe, look for another job and figure out what I actually want.

Just for me to add, it would be hard for me to change workplace where I am as I am on a work visa tied to my current employer.

Part of me thinks: Why am I staying somewhere that makes me this miserable when I don't actually HAVE to?

Another part of me thinks: Don't make an emotional decision. You have a decent position, you're established there, and maybe you should just keep your head down and collect your paycheck.

So , should I.

A. Resign and move on.
B. Stay and continue keeping my head down.

And please tell me if I'm being too emotional about this. I genuinely want some outside perspective.

A – Tell the truth
You uphold honesty as an absolute moral duty, believing that every person has the right to know their own condition, no matter how painful. You respect his autonomy, even if it costs him his final peace.

B – Tell a comforting lie
You choose kindness over truth, prioritising his emotional well‑being in his last moments. You believe that love sometimes requires shielding someone from unbearable pain, even if that means deceiving them.

One of my close friends recently started learning how to cut hair. There are four of us who are really close, and the other three of us have basically become her haircut models.

The other two friends were really happy with their haircuts. I was not.

Honestly, I think this might be the ugliest haircut I’ve ever had. I looked in the mirror and immediately thought, “Oh no, what did I do?” But I also knew she was really proud of it. She took pictures of my hair right there and posted them on Instagram, saying it was one of her favorite cuts she had done recently.

Then she asked me, “Do you like it?”

I said yes.

Not because I liked it, but because I could see how happy and proud she was, and I really didn’t want to be the person who killed her confidence. I figured it was just hair, it would grow out, and maybe I could live with it.

Then I got home and my partner looked at me and basically said, “Why did you get such an ugly haircut?”

And weirdly, I wasn't offended at all. I was almost relieved. Like, finally someone said what I was thinking.

I told him the whole story, and he thinks I should be honest with my friend. His point is that if she’s learning, she needs honest feedback to improve. If I keep telling her I love her work when I actually hate it, I'm not really helping her.

I kind of agree.

But another part of me keeps thinking, maybe she genuinely likes the haircut. Taste is subjective. Maybe what I hate is exactly what she was trying to create. And if I tell her I think it's awful, am I giving useful feedback or just making her feel bad because my personal taste is different from hers?

So now I'm stuck between wanting to be honest and not wanting to unnecessarily hurt someone I care about.

A: Tell her the truth, because she’s learning and honest feedback is more useful than fake praise.

B: Let it go. It’s my hair and my personal taste, and there’s no reason to make her feel bad about something she’s genuinely proud of.

And if you were my friend in this situation, would you rather I choose A or B? If you’d want me to choose A, how would you want me to tell you so you’d understand that I’m criticizing the haircut, not you?

Current company A: I have few concerns about the current job. Boss, work, work life balance, salary, learning new skills, career growth opportunity, are all solid. However there are frequent and large layoffs.

New company B: The job would pretty much be the same day to day tasks, but with a much higher title. I know Reddit is against chasing titles but in this case there is no added responsibility. However the pay would be ~10% less. The company has laid off less than 1% of the staff annually for last decade so it is stable. The job itself isn’t a dream, but the company is somewhere I would love to be and would stay as long as possible. They rarely ever open any job opportunities so this is probably the only time my life would align with this particular opportunity. A big unknown is the team. It seems raises will be infrequent or minimal.

Is this a classic case of grass is greener?Assuming the pay cut does not significantly impact my life, should I:

A: Stay at current job

Or

B: Take the risk and go for the “dream job”

As the headline suggest, I'm in dillema between two options. Part of me wonders if going back to the ex makes sense because of the kid and how smooth the co-parenting already is. The other part of me is curious about this new lady I'm currently talking to, and while she hasn't given clear signs to marriage, she expressed that it's something she can't make a decision on now. I don’t want to shut that door too fast either.

So, I'm stuck in the middle and don't want to make a decision I'll leave to regret. I know there are people who have been in a similar situation or those who've seen it happening, and can share as much.

A: Should I let the ex back in since she’s the mother of my firstborn and we co-parent perfectly?

B: Should I keep going with the talking stage even though I’m not sure she’ll want marriage?

For context: We broke up last year because our goals just didn’t match anymore. I went back to school for a demanding postgrad program while still working part-time, so I had way less time for family. She wanted someone who was always present, and that led to constant fights about me not prioritizing us. I tried asking for little patience and all these attempts were interpreted as someone not into marriage, and that I reminded her of his father prioritizing his career over family and breaking their parents up. Co-parenting has actually been smoother without us forcing the romance.

• A: $10 million today.
• B: $1 million today + the knowledge, framework and skills to build $10 million yourself.

Which one are you taking & why?