r/PlusSize • u/Excellent-Seaweed78 • 11h ago

S*x Stuff Dating

Hi All,

Going on a date tomorrow with a guy whose been heavily flirting /borderline sexting me on app. I have a full body photo as my primary photo, but still so paranoid, I'm going to get there and he will instantly no longer be interested, because im bigger than he was anticipating. Im a UK size 22/24. Just wondering how others find dating as plus size. Part of me kinda wants to remind him like "hey you know im plus sized" before the date, but worried it'll come off very insecure.

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u/llama_302 10h ago

He matched with a bigger woman, he'll be expecting a bigger woman! He obviously is attracted to you, don't let your nerves take over!

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u/biogirl52 9h ago

Don’t say that. Trust he has eyes and is excited.

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u/aoikoibito_ 8h ago

If you’ve shared honest photos (which you have!) then you have nothing to worry about.

I used to go through this thought process a lot and I realized that I was mostly worried over nothing. Wishing you all the best and I hope it goes well!

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u/RevolutionaryBad4470 11h ago

I just connected with a guy on a dating app. We’re about to same size and he is very into my body.. in a good way. It feels weird and part of me wants to think he’s pretending, but I’m choosing to see the positive. See the positive OP! Even if it’s for a little while. Don’t have sex with him tho, always withhold until you know he’s serious about you.

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u/fennecfoxxy 10h ago

Unless they want to have casual sex? It's possible to have sex with someone where you have mutual care and respect but it's not that serious. Obviously it's not for everyone but neither is only doing commitment

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u/atarashi_sekaii 10h ago

You mention a date but the label says “s*x stuff” so I am assuming in my response that you’re anxious about possibly being naked in front of him?
This is a generalization, yes, but men are easy to please. Your primary photo is full body shot, he knows you’re plus size, you don’t need to remind him! You’re meeting for the first time, so it’s so normal to feel a lil anxious :) and remember he needs to impress you too, not just the other way around! If you two end up not clicking, it’ll more likely because of something said, not the way you look. You are enough exactly as you are.

I hope you have a blast on your date! Stay safe 🎉